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Parenting after a Loss
lizok22
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lizok22
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Hi all,
I have one 20 month DS at home after a struggle with infertility. since he was 9 months we have been ttc #2 and had 2 losses. the last one was in June and i was 13 weeks and baby had a heart defect and cystic hygroma. It was absolutely devastating because we thought we were in the clear. Drs are puzzled as to why i am having the miscarriages after a healthy pregnancy and saying it may just be bad luck. however, i am scared to death to ttc again. I cannot keep going through this heartache. I am trying to face the possibility that DS will be an only child and it is very hard for me. I love my son so much and i know how lucky we are to have him but I want another child so badly. It is affecting my parenting a bit because i distracted in my grief and sadness. I was lurking a bit here and it seems that most of the posts are not about the losses but i wondered if anyone was dealing with something similar?
I have one 20 month DS at home after a struggle with infertility. since he was 9 months we have been ttc #2 and had 2 losses. the last one was in June and i was 13 weeks and baby had a heart defect and cystic hygroma. It was absolutely devastating because we thought we were in the clear. Drs are puzzled as to why i am having the miscarriages after a healthy pregnancy and saying it may just be bad luck. however, i am scared to death to ttc again. I cannot keep going through this heartache. I am trying to face the possibility that DS will be an only child and it is very hard for me. I love my son so much and i know how lucky we are to have him but I want another child so badly. It is affecting my parenting a bit because i distracted in my grief and sadness. I was lurking a bit here and it seems that most of the posts are not about the losses but i wondered if anyone was dealing with something similar?
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BFP#1 3/8/12; diagnosed w/ Anencephaly at 12w6d; D&C 5/9/12
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TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)
BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d
BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13
BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks
BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby
BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13
BFP # 5 - 09/14/13 EDD 05/28/14, DS2 born on 5/22/14
I am also terrified to be pregnant again. But my desire for another child is still greater than that fear (for now). I worry that it won't take much more for those emotions to switch. I am also active on TTCAL and I do believe it's a great community there. If you feel like being a part of it as well, you should join in.
Other than that, lots of ((HUGS)) to you right now, and keep a look out for the check-in on this board, we'd love to have you.
BFP # 1 - 12/19/09 EDD 08/27/10 - D&C 1/26/10 @ 9w5d
BFP # 2 - 06/05/10 EDD 02/17/11, DS1 born on 2/14/11
BFP # 3 - 04/10/13 EDD 12/21/13 - D&C 05/15/13 @ 8w4d
BFP # 4 - 07/27/13 EDD 04/08/14 - CP 07/29/13
BFP # 5 - 09/14/13 EDD 05/28/14, DS2 born on 5/22/14