NBR just thought this was the oddest thing I have ever heard...

Alexandrap · August 2013

A friend/coworker of mine was telling me yesterday how she wanted to start planning her sons birthday. Her sons birthday is not till January so I was just kind of like "oh really".

Apparently she wants to throw him a party on the first week of January (when his actual birthday is) at bonkers. (Its like a chuck e cheese) Then she wants to throw another bigger party at the end of march. I asked her why she wanted to do another one. She said she wants to do it like I did my sons birthday.

My sons bday is in April so it's outdoors with moonbounce, clown and all this other junk. I asked her why she didn't just do it January in a hall. She said she just really wanted to do two parties for him since not a lot of people ever actually go and he doesn't get a lot of presents......

Personally if I already went to some kids bday party and then received another invite for the same kids bday months later I just wouldn't go. Am I the only one? I have never heard of someone doing this, maybe I'm out of the loop.

frizzydizzy · August 2013

I think it's over the top. I may show up to party #2, but definitely wouldn't bring a gift to it.

Alexandrap · August 2013

frizzydizzy said:
I think it's over the top. I may show up to party #2, but definitely wouldn't bring a gift to it.

I tried to gently explain that to her but she started getting offended so I just dropped it.

SuperSecretStatus · August 2013

That is odd. I'm kind of glad that DD doesn't really have any "friends" so she's never had a birthday party.

allymp13 · August 2013

What?! If you want the big party either do it inside or wait. You can do a small family celebration of his actual birthday. Way over the top and is she setting the precedent that ever year he will have two parties?? weird!

RedZee · August 2013

That is crazy. It's a freaking birthday party. She's upset he doesn't get enough presents? Come on! At best, I'd say she should just do the outdoor party and maybe just have cake with the family in January. Or, spend the money she would have spent on the party to get him gifts if the issue is that he's not getting spoiled enough.

My BSC SIL sent out Save the Dates in February for her kid's 2nd birthday party in July. And she makes people come in from California and Canada (to NY) for it. It's a birthday party - not a wedding. Let's get some perspective here.

pmarie33 · August 2013

weird.

Gwyneddlesliegrace · August 2013

::face palm::

Alexandrap · August 2013

allymp13 said:
What?! If you want the big party either do it inside or wait. You can do a small family celebration of his actual birthday. Way over the top and is she setting the precedent that ever year he will have two parties?? weird!

EXACTLY! When my sons bday lands on a weekday we cut a cake between the family ie: DH and I, grandparents aunts and uncles but that's it. Then we do his party on the following weekend. That's just how we have always done it.

Alexandrap · August 2013

Also the only reason DS gets most of the crap he does at his party is his grandfather owns an evens rentals co so pretty much everything aside from food and decor is free. Otherwise he wouldn't get it.

yesthisiskim0401 · August 2013

At first I thought you were judging her for planning so early and if that's a crime then I am as guilty a they get. But yeah, planning two birthday parties is fucking stupid and insane. Especially that she wants to throw it two months after his actual birthday. And boo-fucking-hoo he doesn't get a ton of presents. This woman is just a nut case.

ksimo6 · August 2013

Ridiculous.

Alexandrap · August 2013

yesthisiskim0401 said:
At first I thought you were judging her for planning so early and if that's a crime then I am as guilty a they get. But yeah, planning two birthday parties is fucking stupid and insane. Especially that she wants to throw it two months after his actual birthday. And boo-fucking-hoo he doesn't get a ton of presents. This woman is just a nut case.

No I wasn't judging when she started planning it beause I fully understand that some people are planners. It was more of a that's interesting kind of "oh really". Then I just started getting confused the more she talked.

Weljadraak · August 2013

Ha ha I've heard of having two parties before but not 2 months apart and for this reason. I'd be super confused about invitation #2. If she can spend money on 2 parties with bells and whistles, then she can buy her son extra birthday presents on his bday. but whatever, still weird.

jennlin · August 2013

um. no.

Alexandrap · August 2013

Weljadraak said:
Ha ha I've heard of having two parties before but not 2 months apart and for this reason. I'd be super confused about invitation #2. If she can spend money on 2 parties with bells and whistles, then she can buy her son extra birthday presents on his bday. but whatever, still weird.

Couldn't agree more. Frankly I don't understand why she can't do the party in January but I highly doubt she will follow through anyway.

shelley1002 · August 2013

She's a whackadoodle. I can see having 2 parties - a small family party and then a party with his friends. But that would all be done within a couple weeks of the actual birthday not 2+ months after. And aren't his friends going to know when his birthday is and think it is odd he is having a party so late?

Amcdonnel1028 · August 2013

Very strange. I def wouldn't go to both

Amjoy25 · August 2013

Sounds a bit "gift grabby", and ridiculous.

jtothenel · August 2013

This is what I would've told her.

LeaLea123 · August 2013

So odd. We'd go to both parties but only give one gift at the first party! Some people are nuts. When my DD's birthday lands on a weekday we do a family dinner with cake and the family gifts and then a bday party for her friends the following weekend.

norbert5 · August 2013

Wow, this woman is working really hard at making her child a spoiled brat when should just do it by buying the gifts herself. lol.

Anyways I can see a small family party and a small friend party but not two big parties. She is crazy.

KevsLove · August 2013

Amjoy25 said:
Sounds a bit "gift grabby", and ridiculous.

You totally beat me to it... I wonder if she tried pulling the same crap with her baby shower...

Alexandrap · August 2013

KevsLove said:

Amjoy25 said:
Sounds a bit "gift grabby", and ridiculous.
You totally beat me to it... I wonder if she tried pulling the same crap with her baby shower...

No one threw her one, she and her then bf kept talking about who they would invite, what they would wear, what theme blah blah blah. They were expecting his parents to throw her one like they did for his sister. Didn't happen. After that they were of the opinion that baby showers are stupid and AW-ish.

RedZee · August 2013

Alexandrap said:

Sounds a bit "gift grabby", and ridiculous.
You totally beat me to it... I wonder if she tried pulling the same crap with her baby shower...
No one threw her one, she and her then bf kept talking about who they would invite, what they would wear, what theme blah blah blah. They were expecting his parents to throw her one like they did for his sister. Didn't happen. After that they were of the opinion that baby showers are stupid and AW-ish.

This explains a lot. She didn't get the excitement and attention around her kid's birth so she's shoving him in everyone's face every chance she gets to make herself feel better.

Still sounds like BSC SIL. Every time she told someone she was KU they asked if she was getting married/told her she should get married. So she is spending her child's life trying to get the attention and excitement she wanted back then.

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