I have a 3.5 year old boy who is really challenging me daily as a parent. He's my first born so maybe I just haven't figured this age out yet. I am having so many problems trying to get him to go to sleep both at nap time and bedtime. I have read where they should get 12 hours of sleep. He's only sleeping 8 at night and then a 1-2 hour nap so he's not getting near the 12 hours he needs. The problem is he fights it so much that I don't know what else to do. For example, last night he was so tired by 7:30 (rubbing his eyes, yawning, etc) but he didn't actually fall asleep until 10:15. I've tried cutting out his nap, shortening his nap, and letting him sleep as long as he wants but nothing seems to help our bedtime routine. At both naptime and bedtime, I have to lock him in his room and he then just plays and jumps on his bed. It is STRESSING me to the max! Today it took 45 minutes to get him to go down for his nap. I know he needs more sleep but as a parent, I don't know what else to do! Please tell me I'm not the only one with this problem!!