I have been lurking for a while now, and I wanted to say how supportive all of you ladies are. The back story, My husband and I started TTC in June of 2012. We have no problems getting pregnant, but we never stay pregnant. We have had three miscarriages resulting in 2 D&C's. I have also had a surgery to remove scar tissue, but now I will need another surgery if I want to continuing ttc. Personally I want to be done and I am excited to adopt. My husband and I have discussed it and are looking at foster to adopt a child 5 years and younger (possible sibling set). My husband although not opposed to adoption is scared and would prefer that we keep ttc. I am not against trying later on to have a biological child, but right now I don't feel like that is the path I am meant to take. Has anyone else dealt with this issue? I hope it is ok if I join this board, even if we have not started the adoption process yet.
TTC Since June 2012
BFP #1 08/01/12, D&C 09/07/12 9 weeks, Blighted Ovum
BFP #2 01/01/13 m/c 5 weeks
BFP #3 03/02/13 D&C 4/15/13 m/c 11 weeks, 07/19/13 Hysteroscopy for Scar Tissue, 9/12813 Hysteroscopy & Laparoscopy for Scar Tissue, Cleared to TTC October 2013.
BFP # 4 11/01/2013 EDD 07/12/14
Dear God, Since I couldn't hold my little one in my lap and tell him about you, could you hold him in your lap and tell him about me?
Re: Intro - Thinking About Discussion
What you're experiencing is very typical. I think it's rare for couples to be on the same page about adoption throughout the process.
In our experience, I was ready about 6 months before DH was. I had 3 m/c's, and thinking of going to the RE was giving me anxiety attacks. We even set a (flexible) date where our focus and energy would be focused more on adoption. I was so excited to read stuff and tell him about it, and he felt I was pressuring him. We agreed that I would share info and let him know about online info seminars, etc. but he would let me know when he was ready to pull the trigger.
His biggest fear was about how intrusive/invasive the home study would be. What calmed his fears were actually calling a couple of agencies and having them walk us through it. Once that fear of the unknown was worked out in his head, it was full steam ahead.
I would suggest talking to your H about his specific fears and how you might address them.
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TTC Since June 2012 BFP #1 08/01/12, D&C 09/07/12 9 weeks, Blighted Ovum BFP #2 01/01/13 m/c 5 weeks BFP #3 03/02/13 D&C 4/15/13 m/c 11 weeks, 07/19/13 Hysteroscopy for Scar Tissue, 9/12813 Hysteroscopy & Laparoscopy for Scar Tissue, Cleared to TTC October 2013.
BFP # 4 11/01/2013 EDD 07/12/14
Dear God, Since I couldn't hold my little one in my lap and tell him about you, could you hold him in your lap and tell him about me?