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Jealous MIL

Cpayne585Cpayne585 member
in March 2014 Moms
I'm sure that there are several other discussions about MIL's from hell, however I'm pregnant and hormonal so I'm making my own. Don't take the time to keep reading this if you're gonna have something rude to say.
With our first pregnancy, my mil would not show any enthusiasm for the baby on the way. You could just tell that it bothered her to the core that her baby was going to be a dad. Now that #2 is in the oven I really just don't even want to tell her. Everyone pretty much knows besides her because she is just such a negative nelly. I'm enjoying this time of only positive between my husband and I. The arguments and resentment start when she finds out and snubs her nose. First doctor appt Monday, DH wants to tell her Monday night if U/S goes well. Ugh....
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  • mrsdchastainmrsdchastain member
    That's a good time to tell her. If she starts her negativity again, just steer clear, but she may surprise you this time.
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    Well, at least you're prepared this time for a less than stellar reaction... Good luck with her and know that there are tons of people, all of us included!, who are thrilled for you :)


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    Rad&Co said:

    Give her some booze before you tell her! Kidding.

    Why kidding? It could be just what she needs haha


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  • AargAarg member
    I have a friend who went thru this same thing thru 3 of 4 pregnancies. But it was the husband's whole family who were negative nancy's!  When they found out they were having baby #4 they didnt even tell his family until she was ready to pop. 
    Both her and DH just didnt want to hear the neg. comments. 

    I would definitely express how you feel to your hubby though. That way you both can figure out the best way to tell MIL.

    Keep Positive!!! We're all happy for you!! :)
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  • MaybeBabyMamaMaybeBabyMama member
    This (your situation) has been my mom's reaction to both my pregnancies. Both times she used the same line on me "Its not a good time for me." I think I have just come to the conclusion that not everyone is going to share the same level of enthusiasm. And that's okay. 

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  • erind0213erind0213 member
    My MIL was the same. DD was her first grandchild and I thought she would be over the moon, she could care less and put little thought into anything including her gift to us at the shower. (She went in with a bunch of smaller things with her family). Anyway, all of a sudden I am in labor and she wanted to be in the room. I was not to happy but at that point what's one more and I didn't care so long as my mom was at my side.

    Not long after DD she bugged us to get pregnant again and didn't approve of my wanting to wait ( I got a new job) but when we told her the other week, again very much lack of excitement came from her.

    I am just at the point where there is no hope, I try and she isn't receptive so there is nothing more I can do. I just continue to favor my parents and family as a result of her negativity and perhaps one day she realize its her.
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  • MrsCLJeffriesMrsCLJeffries member
    I am so thankful we don't speak to my MIL, but I'm not sure what she's going to try when the news finally gets to her that we're pregnant. I agree with pp that she may surprise you and be excited, but I wouldn't hold your breath. And if she is negative and not supportive, you don't have to be around her. You can choose to be around those that support you and have a positive attitude. Good luck!
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  • AlphaMom82AlphaMom82 member
    @Cpayne585 how does MIL act toward #1?

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  • Cpayne585Cpayne585 member
    @alphamom, with our 1st she is just really un-involved. I know she loves him but she just doesn't invest time with him. She does so much for my brother in laws children, babysitting- clothes buying- fancy birthday and Christmas gifts, etc. I've just come to the conclusion that she's just jealous that her son is married and has his own family that he puts first. She'll regret this one day.
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