Me: 27 DH: 27
October 2013: Endo erosion/ Clear HSG
March 2014: SA #1/ 2%morph, borderline sperm count, decent motility
June 2014: SA#2/ 2% morph, low sperm count, worse motility
Plan: "Quick Start IVF"/antagonist protocol with Follistim, Ganirelix, Ovidrel and progesterone suppositories (yay)
High AMH (11) and Low BMI= low doses of everything to prevent OHSS
July 27, 2014: Started Follistim injections for ten days
July 31, 2014: U/S= 20 follicles, 8.5 lining, E2 is good, Ganirelix for 4 days starting 8/2
August 4, 2014: 14 follicles on-track, good lining, Trigger 8/6
August 9, 2014: 9 ICSIed/ 5 embryos; aiming for a 5dt on 8/13
August 13, 2014: 5DT of 1 4BA almost-hatching blastocyst (Please hang in, Little Bug!)
August 14, 2014: We have 3 frosties! Hope they're having fun hanging out together.
August 23, 2014: Beta #1: 144 8/23/14: Beta #2: 374 Beta 8/25/14 Beta #3: 6,600 9/3/14
September 9, 2014: Ultrasound #1 115 heartbeats per minute
September 23, 2014: Ultrasound #2 182 heartbeats per minute
September 26, 2014: Love my OB's office
October 10, 2014: Our baby looks like a baby and is moving all over!
December 8, 2014: Anatomy scan- It's a girl!
"Hope strengthens. Fear kills."- Karen Marie Moning
"Heaviness is only temporary; the daylight will soon break in."- needtobreathe
Re: Adoption on the Brain- Reality vs Myths?
Me: 27 DH: 27
October 2013: Endo erosion/ Clear HSG
March 2014: SA #1/ 2%morph, borderline sperm count, decent motility
June 2014: SA#2/ 2% morph, low sperm count, worse motility
Plan: "Quick Start IVF"/antagonist protocol with Follistim, Ganirelix, Ovidrel and progesterone suppositories (yay)
High AMH (11) and Low BMI= low doses of everything to prevent OHSS
July 27, 2014: Started Follistim injections for ten days
July 31, 2014: U/S= 20 follicles, 8.5 lining, E2 is good, Ganirelix for 4 days starting 8/2
August 4, 2014: 14 follicles on-track, good lining, Trigger 8/6
August 9, 2014: 9 ICSIed/ 5 embryos; aiming for a 5dt on 8/13
August 13, 2014: 5DT of 1 4BA almost-hatching blastocyst (Please hang in, Little Bug!)
August 14, 2014: We have 3 frosties! Hope they're having fun hanging out together.
August 23, 2014: Beta #1: 144 8/23/14: Beta #2: 374 Beta 8/25/14 Beta #3: 6,600 9/3/14
September 9, 2014: Ultrasound #1 115 heartbeats per minute
September 23, 2014: Ultrasound #2 182 heartbeats per minute
September 26, 2014: Love my OB's office
October 10, 2014: Our baby looks like a baby and is moving all over!
December 8, 2014: Anatomy scan- It's a girl!
"Hope strengthens. Fear kills."- Karen Marie Moning
"Heaviness is only temporary; the daylight will soon break in."- needtobreathe
Hi and welcome.
People can be plumbers, teachers, or -insert job title here- and still be financially secure enough to adopt a child. We are neither doctors or lawyers and did just fine.
Every profile stands out for a different reason. DD's birthmom chose us because DH had a funny hat on his head in one picture. She liked that he liked to have fun. We saw samples of profiles at our agency, and believe me, they weren't all fabulous, glossy profiles. Each family was chosen for one reason or another.
Foster-adopt has its own set of risks (as does just about everything in life), but there is training before you become a foster parent, you can choose to pursue it (or not) as you go along, and there are children legally free for adoption (parental rights have been terminated).
When thinking about these things, I recommend reading books (there are overview books like Adoption for Dummies), attending seminars or webinars (resolve.org has one, a lot of adoption agencies have them and they don't require any commitment), checking out websites (Adoptive Families magazine has a lot of online resources), and talking to people about their experiences (we're happy to help!).
How hard it is to do a domestic adoption can really vary. Wait times can be anywhere from days to years. Cost can be anywhere from low thousands to tens of thousands. Risk can be high or low. It depends on a lot of factors. I suggest doing the research suggested above about ways you can do domestic adoption and if any of those sound like they would work for your family.
There is no right or wrong answer. It's what works for you. FWIW, we did domestic infant adoption for DD, and are considering foster-adopt in the near future, depending on how the next year or so go.
Me: 27 DH: 27
October 2013: Endo erosion/ Clear HSG
March 2014: SA #1/ 2%morph, borderline sperm count, decent motility
June 2014: SA#2/ 2% morph, low sperm count, worse motility
Plan: "Quick Start IVF"/antagonist protocol with Follistim, Ganirelix, Ovidrel and progesterone suppositories (yay)
High AMH (11) and Low BMI= low doses of everything to prevent OHSS
July 27, 2014: Started Follistim injections for ten days
July 31, 2014: U/S= 20 follicles, 8.5 lining, E2 is good, Ganirelix for 4 days starting 8/2
August 4, 2014: 14 follicles on-track, good lining, Trigger 8/6
August 9, 2014: 9 ICSIed/ 5 embryos; aiming for a 5dt on 8/13
August 13, 2014: 5DT of 1 4BA almost-hatching blastocyst (Please hang in, Little Bug!)
August 14, 2014: We have 3 frosties! Hope they're having fun hanging out together.
August 23, 2014: Beta #1: 144 8/23/14: Beta #2: 374 Beta 8/25/14 Beta #3: 6,600 9/3/14
September 9, 2014: Ultrasound #1 115 heartbeats per minute
September 23, 2014: Ultrasound #2 182 heartbeats per minute
September 26, 2014: Love my OB's office
October 10, 2014: Our baby looks like a baby and is moving all over!
December 8, 2014: Anatomy scan- It's a girl!
"Hope strengthens. Fear kills."- Karen Marie Moning
"Heaviness is only temporary; the daylight will soon break in."- needtobreathe
Me: 27 DH: 27
October 2013: Endo erosion/ Clear HSG
March 2014: SA #1/ 2%morph, borderline sperm count, decent motility
June 2014: SA#2/ 2% morph, low sperm count, worse motility
Plan: "Quick Start IVF"/antagonist protocol with Follistim, Ganirelix, Ovidrel and progesterone suppositories (yay)
High AMH (11) and Low BMI= low doses of everything to prevent OHSS
July 27, 2014: Started Follistim injections for ten days
July 31, 2014: U/S= 20 follicles, 8.5 lining, E2 is good, Ganirelix for 4 days starting 8/2
August 4, 2014: 14 follicles on-track, good lining, Trigger 8/6
August 9, 2014: 9 ICSIed/ 5 embryos; aiming for a 5dt on 8/13
August 13, 2014: 5DT of 1 4BA almost-hatching blastocyst (Please hang in, Little Bug!)
August 14, 2014: We have 3 frosties! Hope they're having fun hanging out together.
August 23, 2014: Beta #1: 144 8/23/14: Beta #2: 374 Beta 8/25/14 Beta #3: 6,600 9/3/14
September 9, 2014: Ultrasound #1 115 heartbeats per minute
September 23, 2014: Ultrasound #2 182 heartbeats per minute
September 26, 2014: Love my OB's office
October 10, 2014: Our baby looks like a baby and is moving all over!
December 8, 2014: Anatomy scan- It's a girl!
"Hope strengthens. Fear kills."- Karen Marie Moning
"Heaviness is only temporary; the daylight will soon break in."- needtobreathe
Hi, maybe I can give you all some perspective. I am older (48) and single and a little over 4 years ago decided to try to adopt through foster care. Classes, home study, etc at no cost through the county (in Ohio) no problem and quickly done. Was licensed in late May of 09 and got a call in mid June for an emergency placement of a 13 month old little girl. She had been neglected more than abused and came from a family with a huge drug history and she had been born addicted. She was on the level of a 5 month old. I accepted her placement (she was delivered to me in less than an hour) and got to work right away getting her into lots of therapy. (for the record, these kids are typically covered by Medicaid and all expenses are picked up.) She progressed so fast it was amazing. Parents rights were terminated in Dec 09, and I finalized her in Jan 10. Today she is a typical 5 year old.
In April my license was renewed and I decided it was time to go back on the list again. I specified a fairly healthy white girl 18 to 36 months. In late May I got a call for a healthy white drug free girl who was a NEWBORN. I about fell over but said yes. I had about 18 hours until this beautiful baby girl was dropped off right from the hospital. It has been interesting and fun to be on this journey for the last 9 weeks. Her case is still very new, and of course there is always a chance she could go home but 9 weeks in that is already looking not likely. her mom is incarcerated until late 2015 and Dad seems unstable. At this point I am very optimistic her placement will work out fine and I will adopt her also.
I know there are horror stories and everyone has told me I can not get lucky twice but there is a huge segment of kids under the age of 1needing placement that will not go home. My worker had called on the baby all day before calling me late that afternoon and no one wanted her I guess you roll the dice with drug use and abuse but for my older daughter no issues.
I built/am building my family through foster care and for me an incredibly great choice. Hope this helps.
Me: 27 DH: 27
October 2013: Endo erosion/ Clear HSG
March 2014: SA #1/ 2%morph, borderline sperm count, decent motility
June 2014: SA#2/ 2% morph, low sperm count, worse motility
Plan: "Quick Start IVF"/antagonist protocol with Follistim, Ganirelix, Ovidrel and progesterone suppositories (yay)
High AMH (11) and Low BMI= low doses of everything to prevent OHSS
July 27, 2014: Started Follistim injections for ten days
July 31, 2014: U/S= 20 follicles, 8.5 lining, E2 is good, Ganirelix for 4 days starting 8/2
August 4, 2014: 14 follicles on-track, good lining, Trigger 8/6
August 9, 2014: 9 ICSIed/ 5 embryos; aiming for a 5dt on 8/13
August 13, 2014: 5DT of 1 4BA almost-hatching blastocyst (Please hang in, Little Bug!)
August 14, 2014: We have 3 frosties! Hope they're having fun hanging out together.
August 23, 2014: Beta #1: 144 8/23/14: Beta #2: 374 Beta 8/25/14 Beta #3: 6,600 9/3/14
September 9, 2014: Ultrasound #1 115 heartbeats per minute
September 23, 2014: Ultrasound #2 182 heartbeats per minute
September 26, 2014: Love my OB's office
October 10, 2014: Our baby looks like a baby and is moving all over!
December 8, 2014: Anatomy scan- It's a girl!
"Hope strengthens. Fear kills."- Karen Marie Moning
"Heaviness is only temporary; the daylight will soon break in."- needtobreathe
15 treatment cycles: four early m/c
Moving forward with domestic infant adoption!
Home study approved 5/13, now just waiting...
This last time we did Ivf knowing we could afford to adopt if it failed. (And Still plan to adopt again in future). It's a tough decision, but one really only you can make.
I read the book Adoption: Choosing it. Living it. Loving it., by Dr. Ray Guarendi when we were early in our process. He has adopted 10 children in every way I can think of, and he answers adoption related questions across the board in his book. It's scary, but once you start sifting through what's right for you, it becomes exciting!
Good luck!
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