Opinions on having a second child

SleepingBeauty79 · August 2013

Hello, I just wanted to get some opinions on having a second child. If you are a second time or third time mom, why did you want another child? I' m asking because I am at a point where I keep going back and forth in my head, but i'm leaning toward just having one. Thank you.

Kristinmo · August 2013

We just always pictured ourselves with at least 2 kids. DH has 5 siblings and I have a sister and we wanted the same for our kids.

LnR70707 · August 2013

We also knew we wanted more than one from the beginning (of our TTC journey I mean) but I certainly wasn't ready to think about it until DS was close to a year. Around that point I went from finally feeling complete after a 2 yr infertility struggle to feeling like something was still missing.

shanabonner · August 2013

My son is 19 months and we are starting to talk about trying again in a couple of months. We want him to have that special relationship we have with our siblings.

mtm0109 · August 2013

Lurker on this board...

We have 2 children, they are 1 year apart. I'm ready to start trying for #3. I have always seen myself with more than 2 children. DH has 4 younger brothers, I have no siblings. Being an only child has its pros and its cons, but to me as an only child you miss out on that bond you would have with a brother or sister. It is hard to explain. But I definitely wanted to have multiple children because I wanted our children to have each other, those memories and everything else that comes with having siblings, that I don't know about.

MMason12 · August 2013

::Lurking from TTC:::

I know we want 2 children from the beginning of our TTC journey. We both have siblings (2 for me and 3 for my DH) and we want our children to have that sibling relationships we have.

mtm0109 · August 2013

hischelseababy said:

I have a friend who says that she could never have just one child. She said eventually parents will die and that it is unfair to leave your child to bear those losses alone. Siblings will be able to empathize with each other and be able to offer comfort, support, and healing that other family members can't. When you need it, your sibling will be able to laugh with you over common memories, help you remember Dad's laugh, and whether Mom put on her makeup before or after fixing her hair; the small, intimate things nobody else would know or understand. My FI and I want at least one more LO. We talked about it and will probably start trying again after DD turns one. I like the close relationship siblings usually develop when they are less than three years apart. Plus we have all of DD's baby things on hand and she will outgrow them before the next baby will need them.

All of This! I can not even think about losing my parents and being left alone with no one to share all of our memories. Of course I have DH and my friends and family but they don't fill the shoes of a sibling.

sparklerose · August 2013

We are still deciding on having number two. We have a lot of factors involved. One being the health of both Dh's and my parents. We both have siblings......they suck and are no help with dealing with things with our parents. They actually add to the stress. Point being, you could grow up to NOT be close to your siblings, it's a crap shoot. I don't think the reason to have more should be because your first child needs a sibling.

Warrenm · August 2013

One or two child are not enough. I have decided only 3. One of my friend and her husband want 5 babies.

bugandbibs · August 2013

I have always wanted a gaggle of children. MH was content to have none. Each kid came when we both thought the pros outweighed the cons. Check out the one and done board, it might be helpful to you. Truly, there is no right answer to the question of how many kids to have.

ks3pink · August 2013

I am an only child and knew I wanted more than one. I wanted a big family because it felt right. Thanks to spontaneous twins the second time around I got my three and honestly would have more if money weren't an issue and DH was on board. I love kids!

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