Curious about other pre-pregnancy experiences

Jamison13 · August 2013

I am in the midst of trying not to freak out right now and remembered how much people on here helped during my first pregnancy, so thought I'd ask here.

I'm on BC, but fudged up a wee bit taking it a couple weeks ago. Missed a night and tried to play catch up but the pill fell down the sink

I've had babies on the brain for a few months now so I'm super paranoid I'm pregnant all the time. This time I'm seriously paranoid though... my fiance doesn't pull out when we have sex nor will he wear a condom. So that adds to my paranoia.

I've been peeing more, crazy moody and really wanting a lot of asian foods. I only had the peeing thing and some aversions to smells during my last pregnancy. Today I started spotting brownish, red. Minor cramping and well, I'm always tired (I blame that on work and school though).I Went and took a urine test this morning at home (before spotting occured) and it was negative. My ovulation week was last sunday thru friday. Yes, we had sex. No, he didn't pull out. (Sorry for the TMI)

I'm just curious to see if anyone else had a similar experience to mine and found out they were preggers or if maybe I am just crazy

I have an appointment tomorrow morning to get results and hopefully clear this up for me.

Ducktale · August 2013

Oh here we go again. Negative pregnancy test = not pregnant Advice: read several posts on the past few pages to get a feel for what sort of responses you can expect to this very frequently asked question.

JemmaWRX · August 2013

Negative test means not pregnant. How do you know your ovulation week if you were on the pill? Did you completely stop taking your pills when you missed those 2?

If you and your fiancé haven't discussed having children and aren't both on board right now, I strongly suggest using a back up method should this happen again. Did you inform him that you missed your pills? Did he refuse to wear a condom and ejaculate inside of you with or without that information?

And yeah, no need to go to the doctors office. Wait until you get your period/withdrawal bleed or wait a week and test again. It's a waste if time and money.

Jamison13 · August 2013

I was not posting to get a response on whether or not I am pregnant. SO for the rude responders, please try to read a little better. I was merely asking about people's PRE-PREGNANCY experiences. You know... like wow.. this happened to me but then the next month I was pregnant.

I am going to the doc's to be sure I don't have a UTI and see if my spotting is due to missing the pills.

I believe this community forum is called "Babies on the Brain" so I thought it was safe to ask this seemingly harmless question here since I have been thinking about have another child like crazy since I've FINALLY found someone that is worthy to be called the father of my children.

Turns out people have become extremely rude on here since I gave birth almost 2 years ago. I am saying this after reading the other forums prior to posting my question.

I know as of right now I am pregnant. But you always hear about that odd story where someone was prego even after they had their period, or had a negative test (because they tested too early).

Jamison13 · August 2013

And Jemma, yes he was aware of my missing pills and did it anyways even after I told him not to. That's an issue he and I need to deal with, I know this. No I did not stop taking my pills.

I am going to the Doctors to see if I have a UTI or something else is going on since I have been having the constant bathroom problem for a while and minor cramping along with it. Eating right and exercising aren't helping it so its doctor time.

I was just worried about being pregnant because my career can't handle it right now. If I were to get pregnant though, my career and his, will be fine as will everything else.

Thank you for not being judgmental and rude in response to my post.

Ducktale · August 2013

Wow that was quick, I didn't think our responses were rude at all. I'm a newb here myself, but apparently you regulars got you rude/meany-face germs on me quick. And I reread your post, really still sounds like you we're asking because you though you might be "preggers" Here's what I will say, maybe you'll think it's constructive, maybe you won't, who even knows anymore. I do remember back in the day skipping a day or two of BCP and then getting all paranoid. Then AF would come as always. After that happens once or twice you'll get over the paranoia and you get a little more realistic.

TeeJ526 · August 2013

JemmaWRX said:

Negative test means not pregnant. How do you know your ovulation week if you were on the pill? Did you completely stop taking your pills when you missed those 2? If you and your fiancé haven't discussed having children and aren't both on board right now, I strongly suggest using a back up method should this happen again. Did you inform him that you missed your pills? Did he refuse to wear a condom and ejaculate inside of you with or without that information? And yeah, no need to go to the doctors office. Wait until you get your period/withdrawal bleed or wait a week and test again. It's a waste if time and money.

I agree with all of this, especially the need to have a backup method and especially since OP mentioned that her career can't handle it right now. OP, although the surefire way to confirm if you O'd is to be charting your temperature, which it appears you aren't doing, if you possibly O'd any time from last Sunday through Friday, at most you're 8DPO and at least 3DPO. Implantation occurs betwen 7 to 10DPO so yes, it technically would be too early to test (again, if you actually ovulated).

Hope you get this all figured out.

Jamison13 · August 2013

Sorry for my defensive response, just did not expect a rash of hateful sounding "Negative=not prego" comments so quickly. I am horrible with words and even worse when I feel on the defensive. Forget I ever asked about the random occurrence that someone got negative prego test result only to find out they were pregnant weeks later.

TeeJ thanks for the advice. I have not idea how calculating and tracking ovulation works outside of entering my cycle days into a calendar. Which adds to my paranoia.

In case anyone was wondering,I am paranoid mostly because I work in an area with carcinogens and other stuff that is harmful to me as it is. Having a baby of ANY size in me while I go in that building is something I want to avoid but that's virtually impossible. I won't even take my almost 2 year old in there. If I were to get pregnant, I would have to be taken out of my job and moved somewhere else, which puts a pause on my career for 21 months at least.

rjeller32 · August 2013

Jamison13 said:

I was not posting to get a response on whether or not I am pregnant. SO for the rude responders, please try to read a little better. I was merely asking about people's PRE-PREGNANCY experiences. You know... like wow.. this happened to me but then the next month I was pregnant.

I am going to the doc's to be sure I don't have a UTI and see if my spotting is due to missing the pills.

I believe this community forum is called "Babies on the Brain" so I thought it was safe to ask this seemingly harmless question here since I have been thinking about have another child like crazy since I've FINALLY found someone that is worthy to be called the father of my children.

Turns out people have become extremely rude on here since I gave birth almost 2 years ago. I am saying this after reading the other forums prior to posting my question.

I know as of right now I am pregnant. But you always hear about that odd story where someone was prego even after they had their period, or had a negative test (because they tested too early).

Then why post? Every woman is different, so even if you did hear that, it literally does nothing for whether YOU are pregnant or not.

The odd stories you hear are usually just women who really don't track or temp, so they have no idea when they actually ovulated. Sure, there are some exceptions, but that is really rare.

Women aren't being rude. They are being honest. Neg test=empty uterus as of right. Test weekly, don't go to the doctor until 60 days without AF.

bugandbibs · August 2013

How is it hateful to say negative test means you are not pregnant? It's a simple fact at this moment in time.

Twinkie0612 · August 2013

GhostMonkey said:

@Jamison13- If it is that vital to your career that you not get pregnant now, it's pretty fucking stupid of you to be so irresponsible with your pills. Look into other forms of birth control since you clearly aren't capable of taking a pill daily and abstaining when you forget to take it. If you are, I don't feel one bit sorry for you for the damage it will do to your career.

Yeah, she's one of those people.

I have one in my office. When my coworker got KTFU with #2, she walked around telling everyone how upset she was that she got pregnant, that she wasn't planning to have anymore kids, that she was planning on quitting her job to stay at home but now she can't, etc. Then she kept asking me how I didn't catch on that she was pregnant since she had stopped drinking soda. Finally I told her that I don't monitor what she drinks and that since she went on and on about how she didn't want anymore kids, I assumed that she was on BCP and taking steps to prevent that from happening. Her response, "Oh I was on BCP, but I couldn't remember to take them so I just just stopped them. I figured I was 31 so I wouldn't get pregnant." Yeah, that's not an unplanned pregnancy, that is stupidity. Oh and last week she was telling me about how she forgot to take her BCP 6 days in a row, I won't be surprised if she "accidentally" gets KTFU with #3 soon.

OP- I agree with GM. If it really is vital to your career that you not get pregnant now, then why are you having unprotected sex when you missed some pills? You are more than capable of telling your partner to put on a condom or no sex.

Pepper6 · August 2013

bugandbibs said:

How is it hateful to say negative test means you are not pregnant? It's a simple fact at this moment in time.

This. I'm completely confused to how people telling you that "if your test was negative, you are not pregnant" is a hateful comment. It's not emotional at all, it's just plain medical fact.

MrsRustyGriswold · August 2013

Jamison13 said:

Sorry for my defensive response, just did not expect a rash of hateful sounding "Negative=not prego" comments so quickly. I am horrible with words and even worse when I feel on the defensive. Forget I ever asked about the random occurrence that someone got negative prego test result only to find out they were pregnant weeks later.

TeeJ thanks for the advice. I have not idea how calculating and tracking ovulation works outside of entering my cycle days into a calendar. Which adds to my paranoia.

In case anyone was wondering,I am paranoid mostly because I work in an area with carcinogens and other stuff that is harmful to me as it is. Having a baby of ANY size in me while I go in that building is something I want to avoid but that's virtually impossible. I won't even take my almost 2 year old in there. If I were to get pregnant, I would have to be taken out of my job and moved somewhere else, which puts a pause on my career for 21 months at least.

If this is the case in your workplace, you need a more reliable form of BC than a pill that you could forget.

Twinkie0612 · August 2013

slappalicious said:

@Twinkie0612 Your coworker story is crazy!

Oh she is completely BSC and the biggest AW I have ever met. The good part about this combination is that it makes for some very entertaining stories. The bad part is that the stupidity, while entertaining, gets annoying after awhile.

Rach21 · August 2013

I'm new to TTC (#1 was unplanned), but neg = no baby. That's not mean or rude. It's just the truth.

If you think you have a UTI and that's REALLY the reason why you're going to the doc, then you failed to mention it burning when you pee in your "omg did you ever share these same pregnancy symptoms???" part of the story.

And if there's even a remote chance that getting KU where you work could harm the baby, your lover needs to wrap it up. Or you need to get on user-friendly birth control.

Rach21 · August 2013

Twinkie0612 said:

GhostMonkey said:

@Jamison13- If it is that vital to your career that you not get pregnant now, it's pretty fucking stupid of you to be so irresponsible with your pills. Look into other forms of birth control since you clearly aren't capable of taking a pill daily and abstaining when you forget to take it. If you are, I don't feel one bit sorry for you for the damage it will do to your career.

Yeah, she's one of those people.

I have one in my office. When my coworker got KTFU with #2, she walked around telling everyone how upset she was that she got pregnant, that she wasn't planning to have anymore kids, that she was planning on quitting her job to stay at home but now she can't, etc. Then she kept asking me how I didn't catch on that she was pregnant since she had stopped drinking soda. Finally I told her that I don't monitor what she drinks and that since she went on and on about how she didn't want anymore kids, I assumed that she was on BCP and taking steps to prevent that from happening. Her response, "Oh I was on BCP, but I couldn't remember to take them so I just just stopped them. I figured I was 31 so I wouldn't get pregnant." Yeah, that's not an unplanned pregnancy, that is stupidity. Oh and last week she was telling me about how she forgot to take her BCP 6 days in a row, I won't be surprised if she "accidentally" gets KTFU with #3 soon.

OP- I agree with GM. If it really is vital to your career that you not get pregnant now, then why are you having unprotected sex when you missed some pills? You are more than capable of telling your partner to put on a condom or no sex.

Do you work with my SIL?

Want a personalized experience?

Curious about other pre-pregnancy experiences

Re: Curious about other pre-pregnancy experiences

Choose Another Board

Search Boards