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Another MIL vent

tamararachel2tamararachel2 member
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Ok I need to vent. I've posted on here before about my MIL and her being in Puerto Vallarta. She NEEDS to come back to the states. She literally has no money and still won't decide to move here. DH and I gave her $100 and that is taking away grocery money for us and we don't have ANY wiggle room. I'm so angry with her because DH worries about her being by herself in Mexico and she's being selfish wanting to live her dream. I don't know what else to do. DH has asked her repeatedly to come and stay with us. She can stay rent-free and no bills, plus help us out by watching DS2 so I can work. Why is she being so hard-headed?

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Re: Another MIL vent

  • tamararachel2tamararachel2 member
    DH wanted to give her traveling money since she's coming to visit my SILs for 5 weeks. Yea. I know what you're thinking...she used all her money fr a ticket to visit instead of staying there and selling her stuff and then move back. I told DH my two cents but since he is the one working, he gets final say. He's upset with her as well as there is a lot more to this story, but in the end she's his mom.

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  • wesleycrusherwesleycrusher member
    I'm sorry you're going through this.  I remember the original post about it.  

    I think everyone is giving you good advice, but I know it's easier said than done!
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  • LorMorLorMor member
    Maybe she is resisting because it is so set in her head that she MUST have this retirement. So what about giving her a time limit, enjoy Mexico for x more months, then come home and behave. Then you/DH can budget for that time, she can have that time, you all can stop fighting for that time.
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    LorMor said:
    Maybe she is resisting because it is so set in her head that she MUST have this retirement. So what about giving her a time limit, enjoy Mexico for x more months, then come home and behave. Then you/DH can budget for that time, she can have that time, you all can stop fighting for that time.
    I understand her feelings. Mexico was their dream, but we told her that the best thing would be to come back here, even temporarily for a year or so. Get her finances in order. She has a house that is on the market and once that is sold, she can at least have an income. She also has some benefits from her husband's military retirement or something that she needs to get in order but she has to be in the states and get an attorney in order to do that. Once she has a monthly income and has everything in order, we told her she can go back. DH told her that I could go with her when that time comes and help her find a new house/apartment to rent. So it's not like we're killing her dream, just telling her to put it on hold.

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    RVASC811 said:
    . I told DH my two cents but since he is the one working, he gets final say.
    Wait...... What? This is not ok. You are raising his child!
    This isn't DH's rule. It's kind of how I feel. I have say so, but I feel like since he's the one working he can choose where our money goes to more than I can. If I get a part time job, then I'll feel like I have say so.

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