How often?

Calla123 · August 2013

This is my first time posting here. This is sort of a weird question but I have been trying to get pregnant with baby #2 and have been reading up on the best ways for conception. I have been learning about when I ovulate etc.

Anyway, my question is how often should you be having sex in order to increase your chances? I had thought maybe daily would be best but then I read that the sperm would not be as active and for best chances to have it every 2-3 days in order to increase your chances?

I know this is personal so forgive me. I feel like every month getting a negative result is a punch in the gut and then of course everyone around me is having their second and telling me that my daughter will now be 3.5 when we have another baby and that we should really start trying. Argh! Anyway, just trying to get feedback so that hopefully we can reach success in the future

Thanks!

brneyemom2 · August 2013

If DH has no known sperm or fertility issues than sex every other day should cover your bases. HTH.

jewls619 · August 2013

ashleysyn2 said:
We try to have sex every day during the fertile window. No more than EOD otherwise.

We do the same thing.

Calla123 · August 2013

Thanks! I appreciate the responses. That is what we have been doing as well and just wanted to make sure that this was okay and not making the sperm any weaker lol!

Pluzones · August 2013

We're trying not to stress too much about how often we're doing it over here (or any concept of TTC, really); just keeping to our regular, generally sporadic schedule. Sometimes we go every day, sometimes every other. It all depends on our moods

However, I have read that every other day seems to be the best for when actively TTC!

MMason12 · August 2013

jewls619 said:

We try to have sex every day during the fertile window. No more than EOD otherwise.
We do the same thing.

We also do this same pattern.

MalyJ · August 2013

ashleysyn2 said:

We try to have sex every day during the fertile window. No more than EOD otherwise.

Same here. DH loves it. I think a small part of him hopes it takes a few more months.

tealowl · August 2013

I really don't think it's that terrible that you could have kids 3.5 years apart.

My daughter is 12 years old. She will be 13 next July.

Calla123 · August 2013

teal owl said:

I really don't think it's that terrible that you could have kids 3.5 years apart. My daughter is 12 years old. She will be 13 next July.

I personally don't think any age difference is bad! I feel like siblings that are super close in age could be close growing up or could never get along and that goes for a large age gap as well. Its all in what works for the family.

It just bothers me that now that my daughter is 2.5 I keep getting the "Are you guys trying?" "You don't want a big age gap" "Maybe you should have started trying a while ago?" It just drives me crazy because we are trying but I don't want to say any of that to them or keep defending an age difference.

Sorry for the rant

tealowl · August 2013

Those comments are inappropriate. Just because your kids aren't going to be one after another doesn't mean you are doing something wrong!

brookeK1990 · August 2013

Whenever we want to dtd ... But we make sure we get it done during my fertile window.

MMason12 · August 2013

Calla123 said:

teal owl said:

I really don't think it's that terrible that you could have kids 3.5 years apart. My daughter is 12 years old. She will be 13 next July.

I personally don't think any age difference is bad! I feel like siblings that are super close in age could be close growing up or could never get along and that goes for a large age gap as well. Its all in what works for the family.

It just bothers me that now that my daughter is 2.5 I keep getting the "Are you guys trying?" "You don't want a big age gap" "Maybe you should have started trying a while ago?" It just drives me crazy because we are trying but I don't want to say any of that to them or keep defending an age difference.

Sorry for the rant

My younger sister and I are only 18 months apart and we hardly get along. We are 100% total opposites. I talk to her maybe once a month, if not once every two-three months. You are right about that part that how close or far apart in age has nothing to do with how well (or not well) they will get along.

And for people saying things like that to you. Don't ever have kids because other people think you should. Tell them you guys will have an other baby when your ready. If they continue to push then just tell them more sharply it's none of their damn business when you guys decide to have kids.

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