Optimist or Pessimist?

mrsvlake · August 2013

So DH and I were talking yesterday and I was saying how next month I want to start temping and he was all like well why are you thinking about it? you're probably already pregnant; I said I'm probably not and so I just wanted to let him know what I was planning. He said no no you're pregnant for sure so no worries. I said oh ok and went about my business but it started me thinking. Do you ladies think you're pregnant until you get AF or expect AF until you're late. I see it as expect nothing that way I'm not as crushed when AF comes and if I were to get a BFP it'd be a pleasant surprise.

CopperPoppy · August 2013

I waiver back and forth but mostly assume I'm not, for the same reason as you. Good idea to temp but hope you don't have to for too long.

I'm also very interested by other women who have told me that they "just knew" they were pregnant before it was confirmed. Well eveytime I get the feeling that "maybe this is what the feeling feels like" I usually test and get bummed.

rainbowmkr1979 · August 2013

Yea, my DF is the one that's all "oh there might be a baby in there!" as he rubs my belly and I'm all "nope, probably not and its too early to know for sure anyway." But, I do pretend I am during the 2ww just in case!

TeeJ526 · August 2013

DH is much more optimistic than I am. Every cycle, he truly believes I'm pregnant and and I'm more like, "AF is on its way." What's strange is that when AF has arrived, I've been bummed out while his attitude is more like, "Oh well, maybe next month."

gcamacho0816 · August 2013

I am definitely a pessimist and understand how you feel. I want to stay positive, but a small part of me does not want to get my hopes up and get upset if I find out I am not pregnant. I am hoping for the best for you. In my opinion I would wait until your a week or two late and then take a test. I am currently doing this now. My DH and my BFF are so excited they want me to take one after two days of missing my period. I feel scared and worried how I would feel if I was not. So I plan on plan b to make myself feel better. All you can do is take it day by day.

gcamacho0816 · August 2013

I wish you the best!

gcamacho0816 · August 2013

I know I say that to myself sometimes and wondering when I should take one. I am going to take one early in the week if I miss my period. So nervous if I am not!

CiderWench · August 2013

For the first 3-4 months I was optimistic about being pregnant. Now, I just assume I'm probably not. Unfortunately, I'm always right...

brneyemom2 · August 2013

My TWW is a total mind game because I go from being "cautiously optimistic" to down right pessimistic that I'll never get KU again. Then I convince myself I'm KU, pee on a stick, get a negative, and still try to convince myself I'm still KU. This cycle we're TTA so it's a whole new ball game.

ksuRN09 · August 2013

I assume I'm not for the exact reason you stated. My husband really doesn't say much bc he tends to keep things bottled up until he's ready to talk. I never know what's going on in that man's head!

frenchy816 · August 2013

Until recently I only thought I was actually pregnant twice, but I always thought I was crazy for thinking it too. I was having bad PMS symptoms that I never had before so I took some tests, but was never overly disappointed. Generally, I assume no for the same reason that you stated. DH (until last week) was always on the positive side too. He was always saying 'I'm sure your pregnant', etc.

heatherjean81 · August 2013

I tell myself that I am not but I can't help but think maybe I am.... It depends on the day/time what I am thinking. I go back and forth by the hour! I get more pessimistic the longer the longer I try.

TLooney17 · August 2013

I'm pretty pessimistic at this point.

brookeK1990 · August 2013

I'm a realist

JNova78 · August 2013

I am a total pessimist in life, so this is no different. This is our second month TTC - AF is due on Thursday and I plan to test Wednesday. I am already prepping myself for disappointment. It's so bizarre - all the years before I met DH, I prayed that I wouldn't get pregnant. Now, it's all that I want. I can't help but hope I didn't put the wrong ju-ju out there.

pbandjmom · August 2013

Ah what an honest post. I'm now pessimistic, but some times I get a random dose of optimism. I find that the more I feel nothing, the more pessimistic I get. My husband is now pessimistic after getting let down. It bums be out for his sake.

MalyJ · August 2013

I typically assume I'm not pregnant the whole time. I set myself up pretty well and don't get too excited or anxious. However, once I PIAC and dip the test, the next 3 minutes I get so excited assuming I'm going to see a +. And then it all comes crashing down when I get the negative.

ashtownyeah · August 2013

I'm only on cycle 2 of TTC, but I'd say generally optimistic before O, and then pessimistic during the 2WW because I over analyze everything.

bunkgirl · August 2013

For TTC I go by the quote (from Say Anything, best movie EVER) "when you start out depressed, everything is a pleasant surprise." So far, it works for me. Hopefully it will continue to work as we continue to try for #2!

maltwin1 · August 2013

This is our first cycle TTC #2, so I think I'm as optimistic now as I'll ever be. But I think I really stay pretty "realistically optimistic". I know that there is a chance that I am, but there is more of a chance that I'm not. I have hope, but I'm not betting on it.

But if anyone asked me if I ever think I'm KU, I'd probably say I really didn't think so. I like to pretend to be pessimistic so that I don't look stupid if I'm wrong.

rtv3 · August 2013

If I ever get to the 2WW, I'll probably be pessimistic for all the reasons people have already said. Right now though, I'm on CD 29 still waiting to O (1st cycle trying).

brookeK1990 · August 2013

@bunkgirl great movie

MissLadyTay · August 2013

MalyJ said:
I typically assume I'm not pregnant the whole time. I set myself up pretty well and don't get too excited or anxious. However, once I PIAC and dip the test, the next 3 minutes I get so excited assuming I'm going to see a +. And then it all comes crashing down when I get the negative.

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