Not excited?

SomersIsles · August 2013

(Don't know if this is a repost... Is there a way to search a particular board from iPhones?)

Not sure if I'm alone on this, but I actually DON'T look forward to telling people. It's not that I'm not happy myself.... I THINK it's that I don't think people will care? I was only excited about telling DH and 1 of my friends. After that I kinda wish I could skip it. On the other hand, DH keeps saying he can't wait to spread the news. So I just pretend I am too.

theluckiest9 · August 2013

I kind of feel the same. I was happy to tell my husband but I'm not really looking forward to telling parents, friends, etc., for many of the same reasons as farmboyswife.

pattipants · August 2013

I'm mainly dreading the following 6 months of people constantly asking "how are you feeling?" I'm pregnant, not fighting cancer -- so my answers will likely be something along the lines of, "Umm... fine." Plus, no one wants to hear about the 7 lbs of feces that seem to be permanently stuck in my digestive tract right now.

LolaBelle11 · August 2013

Same here... totally dont care or look forward to telling anyone this time around. Mainly because i dislike my inlaws and dont care about their reaction.

ClementineRose · August 2013

I'm actually petrified of telling people. I'll tell my store one more time. We started dating mod June. I got my positive mid July. Whoops. Not exactly to go down that road. Many people aren't even aware I'm in a serious relationship yet. I know the people I love most, the ones that matter, will welcome it. But aquantainces and stuff, I don't know.

My mom knows. My sister and best friends and my favorite aunt and cousin know. We told my best friend and her mom together and they were so excited!!! But I already get the "how are you feeling" text on the weekly.

Good luck though, I hope noone is over bearing!

megheavlow · August 2013

pattipants said:
I'm mainly dreading the following 6 months of people constantly asking "how are you feeling?" I'm pregnant, not fighting cancer -- so my answers will likely be something along the lines of, "Umm... fine." Plus, no one wants to hear about the 7 lbs of feces that seem to be permanently stuck in my digestive tract right now.

This is HILARIOUS.

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debbie722 · August 2013

I am not looking forward to telling people! Ever since our wedding people have been asking if we're trying and I never said yes because I didn't want excessive questions. I hate making a big deal out of anything so I'm not looking forward to all the pregnancy attention.

Yenemous · August 2013

I was excited to tell DH and my parents but that's it. I wish I could avoid telling anyone else. Mostly because I do NOT want to be asked how I'm feeling every single day of my life by people I couldn't care less about. Plus then I have to listen to the annoying advice that always follows that question. DH is super excited though and has told what feels like everyone despite my desire to keep it a secret until the first tri is over. Oh well.

benevolentforce · August 2013

bmerr said:
I also feel like shit 24/7, so I'm sure that has a lot to do with it.

I'm also not looking forward to people asking how I'm feeling. I know they don't really care, it's just a safer question than most.

This: feeling like shit 24/7. When I'm sick I don't want to talk to anyone - let alone celebrate. I'm so thankful to be pregnant, but just not in the mood to share anything about it until I'm feeling like myself again. So yeah, you're not alone. We're waiting until 13 weeks, and maybe longer if we feel like it.

DivaMommy_312 · August 2013

I've only told one person... and that's not even the husband. He keeps saying I'm acting b#tchy am I sure I'm not pregnant. I laugh, tell him HELL NO! and walk away. Maybe I'll tell him when my water breaks @-).

I don't care what people think so I guess they'll just ask behind my back or just wait for me to admit to it. Don't get me wrong. I love being pregnant and having my baby but eh.. I don't care about sharing it.

SomersIsles · August 2013

DivaMommy_312 said:
I've only told one person... and that's not even the husband. He keeps saying I'm acting b#tchy am I sure I'm not pregnant. I laugh, tell him HELL NO! and walk away. Maybe I'll tell him when my water breaks @-).

I don't care what people think so I guess they'll just ask behind my back or just wait for me to admit to it. Don't get me wrong. I love being pregnant and having my baby but eh.. I don't care about sharing it.

If you don't mind me asking, how come you haven't told your husband yet?

rubylovebug · August 2013

SomersIsles said:

I've only told one person... and that's not even the husband. He keeps saying I'm acting b#tchy am I sure I'm not pregnant. I laugh, tell him HELL NO! and walk away. Maybe I'll tell him when my water breaks @-).

I don't care what people think so I guess they'll just ask behind my back or just wait for me to admit to it. Don't get me wrong. I love being pregnant and having my baby but eh.. I don't care about sharing it.
If you don't mind me asking, how come you haven't told your husband yet?

Ditto - I'm just nosey, feel like it's asking for a follow up.

Alhuffman · August 2013

I'm not excited about sharing either. I'm a fairly private person and I know once we start telling people that I'm going to be the object of attention and I hate that.

Of course, I also hate people asking questions, so I'll have to choose a time to tell so it's not an ordeal about why I didn't share.

qsflame · August 2013

I'm writing a letter to my parents that is going to tell them if they want to be judgy, my ringer is off. I am not all roses and glitter on telling everyone either. This baby is a surprise though, I was supposed to be tied off and done 5 years ago. No one even wants to know how I told my husband.

Ahutch428 · August 2013

I also not so excited about telling everyone. Mainly becauae my husband and I have some friends who have been trying to get pregnant for over a year. We got pregnant our first time trying, and I know it is really going to hurt her. I am also not a big fan of being the center of attention, and it's going to fall at a really bad time for my job (I'm a teacher and I will be on maternity leave during state testing) so I am also nervous to tell my principal and work friends.

farmrose · August 2013

Yeah, I'm kinda in the same boat. Right now I'm happy about all this but once the cats out of the bag mom and MIL will instantly start driving me insane with questions, advice and inappropriate comments. Probably SIL too. I kinda wish I could just let them figure it out as I get bigger. But alas they'd probably not appreciate that.

kdel09 · August 2013

Alhuffman said:
I'm not excited about sharing either. I'm a fairly private person and I know once we start telling people that I'm going to be the object of attention and I hate that.

Of course, I also hate people asking questions, so I'll have to choose a time to tell so it's not an ordeal about why I didn't share.

This is me as well. I'm a private person and I feel like this just puts me all out there.

fat2fitnessmodel · August 2013

Excited somewhat, but not for the "Let me tell you what to do" advice. If I don't ask for it, don't give it. SMH but still will smile and nod it off... I know they mean well, but definitely an annoyance already. And I sure as hell will snatch someone up if they touch my "bump" without asking.... ;-)

legallyginger · August 2013

I'm not really looking forward to telling people. Outside of our parents and the couple friends that knew we were trying, it's just really awkward to work into a conversation.

Example: my parents say its my news to share, so I should call my extended family. Uh... hey great aunts and uncles who I've never had a phone conversation with, how have you been? Great! Guess what? I'm knocked up! See you at Christmas.

bumpuser1282882 · August 2013

FarmBoysWife said:

SomersIsles said:

I've only told one person... and that's not even the husband. He keeps saying I'm acting b#tchy am I sure I'm not pregnant. I laugh, tell him HELL NO! and walk away. Maybe I'll tell him when my water breaks @-).

I don't care what people think so I guess they'll just ask behind my back or just wait for me to admit to it. Don't get me wrong. I love being pregnant and having my baby but eh.. I don't care about sharing it.
If you don't mind me asking, how come you haven't told your husband yet?

Ditto - I'm just nosey, feel like it's asking for a follow up.
Add me in Edit: quote format fail.

I'm also wondering why you haven't even told your husband. The only person I am really not excited to tell is my boss.

ufsandra85 · August 2013

i wasnt excited to tell people. i didnt even call my family i just wrote on my fb wall that I am pregnant. i dont really like talking about being pregnant with people (except on the internet)

Awalt123 · August 2013

I told my best friends a couple weeks ago when I found out, and only just told my boyfriend yesterday because it was definitely not planned and I was terrified of his reaction. Thankfully he's being very supportive, but now I can't even imagine telling my super strict and traditional mom that I am having a baby out of wedlock. I'm waiting until my first ultrasound to make sure everything is ok, but that won't be for another 2.5 weeks (since I'm out of the country for the next 2 weeks) and puts me at 11 weeks pregnant which I feel is pretty late to tell her

Momstheword83 · August 2013

ClementineRose said:
I'm actually petrified of telling people. I'll tell my store one more time. We started dating mod June. I got my positive mid July. Whoops. Not exactly to go down that road. Many people aren't even aware I'm in a serious relationship yet. I know the people I love most, the ones that matter, will welcome it. But aquantainces and stuff, I don't know.

My mom knows. My sister and best friends and my favorite aunt and cousin know. We told my best friend and her mom together and they were so excited!!! But I already get the "how are you feeling" text on the weekly.

Good luck though, I hope noone is over bearing!

I'm in the same boat. My boyfriend and I have only been together since March and I know everyone in our small town is going to have something to say about it.

LiFeIsAmIrAcLe · August 2013

FarmBoysWife said:

AMarinucci said:

SomersIsles said:

DivaMommy_312 said:
I've only told one person... and that's not even the husband. He keeps saying I'm acting b#tchy am I sure I'm not pregnant. I laugh, tell him HELL NO! and walk away. Maybe I'll tell him when my water breaks @-).

I don't care what people think so I guess they'll just ask behind my back or just wait for me to admit to it. Don't get me wrong. I love being pregnant and having my baby but eh.. I don't care about sharing it.

If you don't mind me asking, how come you haven't told your husband yet?

Ditto - I'm just nosey, feel like it's asking for a follow up.

Add me in

Edit: quote format fail.

I'm wondering the same thing?

jazzyexpo · August 2013

I'm not excited either. Dh couldn't wait to tell his family and had to push me to tell mine. I just feel like something may happen. Last time I told everyone and it ended in a mc.

MrsS81112 · August 2013

stufie said:

FarmBoysWife said:

SomersIsles said:

I've only told one person... and that's not even the husband. He keeps saying I'm acting b#tchy am I sure I'm not pregnant. I laugh, tell him HELL NO! and walk away. Maybe I'll tell him when my water breaks @-).

I don't care what people think so I guess they'll just ask behind my back or just wait for me to admit to it. Don't get me wrong. I love being pregnant and having my baby but eh.. I don't care about sharing it.
If you don't mind me asking, how come you haven't told your husband yet?

Ditto - I'm just nosey, feel like it's asking for a follow up.
Add me in Edit: quote format fail.

I'm also wondering why you haven't even told your husband. The only person I am really not excited to tell is my boss.

Yeah, I would like to hear the explanation for this as well. I'm sure it will be interesting.

SomersIsles · August 2013

jazzyexpo said:

I'm not excited either. Dh couldn't wait to tell his family and had to push me to tell mine. I just feel like something may happen. Last time I told everyone and it ended in a mc.

That could be a part of my issue too. My 1st pregnancy (last year) ended in MC and it had complications along the way (on and off spotting and low hcg numbers the whole time). I wasn't very thrilled to tell and it was probably me being cautious.

This time around things are more positive (saw and heard a healthy heartbeat already and hcg numbers are much higher, but it's hard to forget the risks. We're super excited that's for sure, but throwing it out there to others... blah.

DivaMommy_312 · August 2013

To all those that asked. Most of the times he asked if I was I really didn't know. I had a feeling, but didn't know. I didn't take the test until last Thursday and he left for drills 4am Friday (military). It just wasn't the time for me. I'll be telling him when he gets home in a few days.

karacakes98 · August 2013

I've never liked telling people. It feels awkward. DH loves telling, though, so I leave most of the announcing to him.

jazzyexpo · August 2013

SomersIsles said:

jazzyexpo said:

I'm not excited either. Dh couldn't wait to tell his family and had to push me to tell mine. I just feel like something may happen. Last time I told everyone and it ended in a mc.

That could be a part of my issue too. My 1st pregnancy (last year) ended in MC and it had complications along the way (on and off spotting and low hcg numbers the whole time). I wasn't very thrilled to tell and it was probably me being cautious.

This time around things are more positive (saw and heard a healthy heartbeat already and hcg numbers are much higher, but it's hard to forget the risks. We're super excited that's for sure, but throwing it out there to others... blah.

That's great you heard the heartbeat! I go Wednesday and hoping there's a heartbeat there, ill be 6wks 4days. Although, I don't feel very positive we will hear one. I don't want to get my hopes up I guess.

SomersIsles · August 2013

jazzyexpo said:

jazzyexpo said:

I'm not excited either. Dh couldn't wait to tell his family and had to push me to tell mine. I just feel like something may happen. Last time I told everyone and it ended in a mc.

That could be a part of my issue too. My 1st pregnancy (last year) ended in MC and it had complications along the way (on and off spotting and low hcg numbers the whole time). I wasn't very thrilled to tell and it was probably me being cautious.

This time around things are more positive (saw and heard a healthy heartbeat already and hcg numbers are much higher, but it's hard to forget the risks. We're super excited that's for sure, but throwing it out there to others... blah.
That's great you heard the heartbeat! I go Wednesday and hoping there's a heartbeat there, ill be 6wks 4days. Although, I don't feel very positive we will hear one. I don't want to get my hopes up I guess.

I'll be thinking about you! Try to stay positive! You gain nothing from being negative, so you might as well remain positive

I had my ultrasound at 6w2d, they had to do a vaginal one, and it went fantastic so I hope yours is just as successful! Have they been monitoring your hcg levels?

SmittenKittin · August 2013

I can relate to this, and I think for me it is just that I am a very private person. I will be glad when it is common knowledge and everyone knows and I don't have to worry about telling people or getting that awkward, "I didn't know you were pregnant!"

Babykawash · August 2013

I'm excited to tell everyone except I'm a little nervous to tell my boss. She's 20 weeks pregnant and will still be out on leave when I'm due..... I'm hoping we can figure out good coverage while we both are out. Never thought in a million years we would get pregnant this quick!

jazzyexpo · August 2013

SomersIsles said:

jazzyexpo said:

SomersIsles said:

jazzyexpo said:

I'm not excited either. Dh couldn't wait to tell his family and had to push me to tell mine. I just feel like something may happen. Last time I told everyone and it ended in a mc.

That could be a part of my issue too. My 1st pregnancy (last year) ended in MC and it had complications along the way (on and off spotting and low hcg numbers the whole time). I wasn't very thrilled to tell and it was probably me being cautious.

This time around things are more positive (saw and heard a healthy heartbeat already and hcg numbers are much higher, but it's hard to forget the risks. We're super excited that's for sure, but throwing it out there to others... blah.

That's great you heard the heartbeat! I go Wednesday and hoping there's a heartbeat there, ill be 6wks 4days. Although, I don't feel very positive we will hear one. I don't want to get my hopes up I guess.

I'll be thinking about you! Try to stay positive! You gain nothing from being negative, so you might as well remain positive

I had my ultrasound at 6w2d, they had to do a vaginal one, and it went fantastic so I hope yours is just as successful! Have they been monitoring your hcg levels?

They haven't. They took blood in the beginning to make sure they were doubling correctly and they were. I called Friday about the spotting, but talked to another doctor's nurse because my doctor's nurses were busy. She just gave me the its normal at this stage, yada yada. I know it can be, but doesn't mean it is. Just waiting patiently til Wednesday and trying to stay optimistic, but I don't want to be disappointed if something is wrong.

Derek2014Leslie · August 2013

ClementineRose said:
I'm actually petrified of telling people. I'll tell my store one more time. We started dating mod June. I got my positive mid July. Whoops. Not exactly to go down that road. Many people aren't even aware I'm in a serious relationship yet. I know the people I love most, the ones that matter, will welcome it. But aquantainces and stuff, I don't know.

Same thing happened to me we started dating June 2 found out I was pregnant right after 4th of July... Nervous to tell people and just got out of a 6 year relationship. So thankful he is beyond excited and sooo supportive! He can't wait to be a dad!

PeytonEliMama · August 2013

I am just reluctant to share with work. It has been almost two years already since my first baby, but since there have been back-to-back pregnancies among the whole whopping three female attorneys in our office, and now I will be somewhat on the tail end of the one currently out on maternity. Usually I would not be that concerned, but our firm got hit hard by the recession, and I am afraid that I will be seen as expendable if they need to make fore cuts. Or that there will not be work for me when I get back from maternity because they shifted my cases to someone else, like the attorney that will be coming back from maternity. But I guess that is life, and I'll deal somehow.

Alhuffman · August 2013

Ok, so my husband thinks I'm really odd for not wanting to tell before the end of the first trimester. We actually had a "discussion" about this yesterday. He thinks I'm being negative by not wanting to share. We have compromised to tell earlier than I want, but later than he wants. It'll be after the first ultrasound, but still in the first trimester.

AlphaMom82 · August 2013

I'm excited to tell my Dad because he asks us EVERY DAY for another grandbaby but I am NOT NOT NOT looking forward to telling DD. She is very adamant that she DOES NOT want a baby brother or sister. Every time we ask her she says "No, thank you. I'll have a dog instead." We are telling her in 2 weeks. That will be interesting.

sassysmama27 · August 2013

No.. I am very excited to be pregnant but not at all excited to tell people. I wish they could just notice I'm getting large and know what's going on and I didn't have to confirm.

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