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I don't think we will get chosen

crpatecrpate member
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We are still trying a few infertility treatments, but are close to the end of that road. We want to do domestic adoption, after making a few contacts we've realized that most agencies have gone to a system where the birth mother chooses the adoptive parents from a profile book. I'm just worried we will pay all the money and just sit forever not getting picked. My husband is 62, and I am 30. I just don't think we are what a birth mother would imagine as the "perfect" parents. With so many profiles that do fit that image, I feel like we could wait forever. Does anyone have a similar story or advice on a direction we should look into?
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  • maryoosamaryoosa member
    Hmm. That sounds like age might be an issue- but that said, perhaps you could work with a low-start-up fee agency or at least query them about the age range of parents they had?
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    Have you looked into private adoption, either through an attorney or networking online?

    Another option is to attend an information session at an agency and ask about your ages and how it could impact the process. Or just call them and ask about it. They may have experience with older parents, or a significant age gap, and could give you advice.

    Just my 2c.

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  • crpatecrpate member
    Thanks guys. all good advice. There are 3 countries we could adopt from, but are also countries where the orphange/adoption system is very corrupt. We are looking into the private adoption thing... i just wonder if any of our connections will ever know anyone wanting to find adoptive parents for their child. Pretty sad it looks like we will have to use our resources to have more fertility treatments and possibly a surrogate. By the time you add it all up we could have adopted 2 or 3 kids in need of a good home :(
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