Didn't think I would feel this way!

xtineelaine · August 2013

We did it! SO and I have decided to move back in together after breaking up when I was pregnant. I am nervous but I want to try! The last month we have been house hunting for a place to rent with no luck but finally hit a stroke of luck today and found a house that is perfect! It meets both of our criteria which I honestly think couldn't be done. This is what I am freaking out about, moving away from my mom! Ok, so when we started having problems my mom offered a place to stay and I just never left. I have been living here since right before Christmas pretty much. I hadn't lived at home in 6 years and really didn't want to but I thought this was the best thing to save money and to give me and SO some space. Ever since LO was born though I have been so ready to move out. There is no privacy, no space, and I am 30 minutes away from work and all of my friends. But, now that it is real, I am actually kind of sad. My mom and I became so close over the last few month! I didn't even have the heart to tell her we found a place when I came home. Another reason is because she isn't the biggest fan of SO. Out of the fear of her disappointment, the sadness of being away from her, and the even greater sadness of knowing she will miss LO and he will miss her, I'm scared! I know I am probably being a baby but I hope this feeling goes away!

ClandestineX · August 2013

It will be alright. It is a very scary thing to move in with your partner, especially if there are issues in the past. I know it is hard for you to tell your mom, but she will understand that you will need to have your own life now and have your own family in your own space.

Maybe if your mom is close she can come see your son a few times a week or something? I hope everything with the move together works out great for you.

MrsHartman7 · August 2013

It sounds like your mum has been a huge source of support and love for you during really difficult times, the way you are feeling seems normal to me. You are lucky!

xtineelaine · August 2013

ClandestineX said:

It will be alright. It is a very scary thing to move in with your partner, especially if there are issues in the past. I know it is hard for you to tell your mom, but she will understand that you will need to have your own life now and have your own family in your own space.

Maybe if your mom is close she can come see your son a few times a week or something? I hope everything with the move together works out great for you.

I hope she will! We will be 45 minutes away, which really isn't too far, but she doesn't get out of her "bubble" too much. I am sure she will make an exception for her grandson.

xtineelaine · August 2013

MrsHartman7 said:

It sounds like your mum has been a huge source of support and love for you during really difficult times, the way you are feeling seems normal to me. You are lucky!

You are right, I am lucky

. Thank you this makes me feel better!

tondraluv · August 2013

I'm so happy you & SO are working on things. MH and I split up for a while when LO was born & we're really trying to work it out. It feels so good to have our family all together. It's natural to feel the way you do but if you're doing what you feel is best for your LO then I'm sure your mom will come around.

xtineelaine · August 2013

I'm going to try this @ thing

@tondraluv thank you! It is a very tough thing especially with a child involved. I hope you and your DH can work things out

Sol1790 · August 2013

Best of luck! And I am sure your mom will understand. I am also sure she will be sad,but you wont be so far so it's ok!

xtineelaine · August 2013

@Sol1790 thank you! I finally told her and it went better then I expected. She said just have his name on the lease just in case, you don't want to end up on judge Judy lol

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