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March 2014 Moms
Callie1368
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Community??
Callie1368
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My last pregnancy I loved getting on and reading everyones experiences and opinions on The Bump. Dissapointed that the few post I have read on here seem to have so many people being ugly to one another and complaining of what people are posting. If you dont want to read multiple post....dont click on it. Im really confused why people are getting bent out of shape on such silly things. Guess this wont be the community I come to for when looking for support, friendship, or just to talk. : ) Cant we all get along???
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Re: Community??
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~Kari~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
Yep. I am already so freaking sick of people blaming the snark on hormones. I'm not hormonal, I just think you're an idiot.
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ETA: phone bumping sorry for errors
Yes, calling people stupid more often than you say something encouraging is generally considered unsupportive. I don't have any interest in leaving because I even said there's plenty of support on this board. I also asked her to just let it go and let you act how you're going to act. To each their own. It's not my style, but we're all going to be who we are and we're going to have to deal with it. That's life. If you call me stupid, I'm going to deal with it because it comes with the territory of being on a board with people who aren't like me. If you or someone else who has been negative with me asks a question and needs helpful input, I'll give it with no hard feelings. I'll pay attention to the posts that work for me, ignore the ones that don't, and I'll keep my feathers unruffled because I'm not interested in drama especially while I'm pregnant. That's what I'm suggesting she does. Leave you guys alone if she thinks you're negative, pay attention to the helpful stuff, and move on. Take my perspective or leave it. It won't bother me. We don't all have to be best friends.
I also wanted to point out I didn't call anyone stupid here. And as for being negative, I was just stating my opinion based on your negative post that obviously clumps me and many if these other ladies in the negative Nancy club, which I am sure most would disagree with.
I'm not one to defend myself if I could be wrong, so I will say that you're probably right. I was exaggerating. The ratio probably isn't that bad, and I've even seen the encouraging posts. That's why I try not to lash back and throw insults. I still wish them well and respect them in a lot of ways. I just disagree with their approach when they disagree with minimal things too often. That's not even my point here, though. The point is that if we differ on whether we vocalize it every time we see something stupid or we choose to stay positive and silent, we should just accept that we differ on those approaches. I'll ignore the negativity, they can ignore my puppies and rainbows, and we can still function successfully here.
I was a frequent poster on my last board. I never really lurked, I jumped right in and was welcomed with open arms.
I don't feel feel comfortable doing that here. The dominant group here is quick to use the word stupid, provoke, and openly post topics to make those that aren't snarky feel left out unimportant.
Sure, it's your board. You spend more time here. Much more time than many of us. It's just too bad the ones that ARE here all the time happen to be quick to stir up trouble. And even when several people are commenting on how uncomfortable they feel, you make no effort to ease minds. Instead, you band together and use terms like "stupid" or make fun of those that want optimism. You've even gone as far as to purposely draw a divide.
So tell me, am I in the snarky group or the puppies and rainbows? My answer is neither. Put me in the group of people that is slowly trying to ease in. It won't stay silly questions forever and will be something awesome but that takes time. We're still forming. No need to draw a divide already.
That said, I think both extremes are annoying. You will never catch me whining about it for the sake of whining, and you will certainly never catch me being an internet bitch. I think all of you need to tone it down a bit. As in whiney "can't we all get along" posts are annoying, but "meanie face" posts are too, and rather counter productive t a community as a whole.
Listen, if you don't like dramatics and 'conflict ' don't start it which is exactly what you did with this post; it utterly makes no sense. You can't jump in a pool then complain that you hate getting wet. Stupid analogy but applicable. And, I have yet to see a reply to a miscarriage post that is anything but supportive and caring. People like you cause the drama with these ridiculous, self righteous posts that are the problem not 'us'.
Blah, blah, blab.. .first of all I am cool as a cucumber this crap doesn't even my heart rate to 70 while dancing. The irony of all these idiotic posts is worth pointing out which I so clearly did. I have been on these boards a good ole long time and i am not trying to find my community here as I have that in - you know - real life. I love me some bump and it will never change and I love the support it can give and receive but that is not its primary focus. Lastly,watch who you are calling arrogant. I am not asking for change now am I? Did I tell these boards to be puppies and unicorns? So I have no clue what you are talking about. Us meanies are attempting to explain to these newbies that the boards are real and can offer great support as well as a strong kick in the ass. We are not changing. You people crying about how mean people are are trying to change the boards. Honesty though, I really don't care. Once this thread dies, next week a new thread will begin with someone with 2 posts asking for us all to get along. And, we come full circle.
"Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you." Ephesians 4:32
I.WENT.THERE.
My first day of law school, I had a professor who warned my section to "Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell a difference", never forgot that lesson. But I will say this- I think it's a reflection on you, your degree, your school and your intellect that the best word you could conjure up was "asshole" when attempting to characterize Jesus. I'll pray for you...Ciao, girlfriend!
*grabs some popcorn*