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DH is an idiot.

JasmineeelizabethJasmineeelizabeth member
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Some of you may remember the post I made about being completely devastated over finding out that our entire family held DS before I did. I've been crying every day since feeling like something so important was taken away from me. I barely spoke to DH (although he felt so guilty about it he cried with me), I ignored my family's calls. I was so upset.

I wrote my MW telling her about what a wreck I've been the past few days, and asking for a referral to talk to someone about get over it. She tells me that she was the one who told them Max was here and safe, after she had seen us together bfing in recovery, and that DH brought him out to them AFTER I had had skin to skin, and bfing.

DH is like "Oh yeah, yeah.. You know what? You totally did hold him first. Shit. I'm so sorry."

WTF. Him and my MIL traumatized me for no reason. And I feel like an idiot for pouring my heart out to my midwife about how heartbroken I was about an event that didn't even happen lol.
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  • MrsWilson2013MrsWilson2013 member
    I think he deserves a smack upside the head for that one at least!
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  • sonflower1427sonflower1427 member
    I am so glad you got to hold DS first, and I am so sorry you had to deal with all those emotions for no reason.  Hopefully, you will be able to move on from the experience now.  Don't feel stupid about it; you reacted the way any of us would have reacted if we hadn't held our babies first.

     

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  • valstulasvalstulas member
    Awh, you went through all that for no reason! I'm glad you found out that you were actually able to hold LO first after all. Do you feel better now?


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    Glad it all worked out;)
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  • JasmineeelizabethJasmineeelizabeth member
    Alicia0817 said:
    I'd cut your husband some slack. I'm sure the whole day was stressful for him too, and it sounds like he was really sorry. Hopefully now you can heal.
    Yeah of course, even if he did bring him out first he was in such shock from having such a dramatic birth I couldn't blame him for not really thinking. Logically I knew it wasn't his fault, but I was still having a rough time handling my emotions around him.

    I'm calling him an idiot in a loving way :) 


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    valstulas said:
    Awh, you went through all that for no reason! I'm glad you found out that you were actually able to hold LO first after all. Do you feel better now?
    Loads better! I can't stop laughing about it. I feel like a gigantic weight was lifted off my chest and all my problems have disappeared. Ahh I'm so happy it wasn't true and I think it makes me appreciate the things that went right in my birth more. Obviously it could have gone worse!
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  • kkangl161kkangl161 member
    I'm glad everything worked out for you!! Though I too would be lovingly calling DH and idiot as well.  Happy to hear that you are feeling better about it all!! 
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  • AiylinAiylin member
    you know how they say we get pregnancy brain I think our husbands get something of that nature after we deliver.....glad that everything actually worked out!

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    Jasmineeelizabeth said:


    valstulas said:

    Awh, you went through all that for no reason! I'm glad you found out that you were actually able to hold LO first after all. Do you feel better now?

    Loads better! I can't stop laughing about it. I feel like a gigantic weight was lifted off my chest and all my problems have disappeared. Ahh I'm so happy it wasn't true and I think it makes me appreciate the things that went right in my birth more. Obviously it could have gone worse!


    Don't be too hard on yourself. Even though things could have gone worse, it can still be very traumatizing when birth does not go as expected. I'm glad you feel better about your experience just knowing you got to hold your baby before everyone else. :)


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  • Stina2012Stina2012 member
    Glad you feel better! Also, your little boy is gorgeous! Love you siggy pic!
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