Ugh. FB vent.

beachy6 · July 2013

Seriously. I hate fb. Why in the world do people feel that announcing on fb is a necessary part of being pregnant? Yes. I'd probably do it, too. But, don't all these people know I'm dealing with IF! (Kidding)

But, a pretty close friend who I haven't actually seen in quite awhile wanted to get together for lunch the week I found out our IVF failed. I backed out, but the group of girls still got together. Last week, this friend send me a message on fb, asking how things were going. I told her about our failed IVF because, now that it's over, I don't really care who knows. She sent me a message back, telling me all about her vacations and said nothing about our failed cycle. THEN, she made her public status announcement that "It's our 2nd anniversary and we're expecting baby #3 in October!" Seriously?! WTF! Yes. Do the math. This is her second baby daddy. The first was a one night stand. She was a couple months pregnant with #2 when she married her H. Now, she's 6 months pregnant and didn't even tell me. I hate IF! I know that's why she didn't tell me. Ugh. It was like a blow in the gut when I read that freaking status. I just want this whole nightmare to be over! So.Not.Fair.

LittleLady77 · July 2013

That would put me in tears. I'm sorry.

sorrellam30 · July 2013

Ugh I hate her just a little bit on your behalf. FB is the devil

Praying4Miracle17 · July 2013

I'm sorry

Getting off FB was the best thing that I've done b/c of the pregnancy posts. It really makes you more at ease!

lisabugg444 · July 2013

I left FB 5 months ago. It made me feel like such a lonely, bitter infertile all the time. Couldn't take it.

PhillyJ33 · July 2013

I am so sorry. I hate FB for that reason but I still find myself checking it. Those posts ruin days though!

amcastord · July 2013

I say hide her! I've had to do that to several people. One, has struggled with IF and she and I would constantly commiserate when someone talked nonstop about every pregnancy symptom they were having. She was way more outspoken and opinionated about it than me, but that's our personalities. Guess what...she's now one of THOSE people (naturally pregnant and her husband had 1 sperm...1) anyway, guess what...she's now hid! I'd never go off FB, I have too many far away friends and family I enjoy keeping up with but, life is better when can you hide certain people!!

Sorry it upset you...but maybe she just didn't know how to tell you. I found that when I worked in the hospital, I became that "crazy girl nobody wanted to tell they were pregnant" because of how I might react...and sometimes, I'll admit I deserved that title.

Hope it gets better...

shell3879 · July 2013

lisabugg444 said:
I left FB 5 months ago. It made me feel like such a lonely, bitter infertile all the time. Couldn't take it.

Agreed! I got a personal email from a friend announcing her 2nd pregnancy. Brutal.

beachy6 · July 2013

I'm glad you all don't think I'm overreacting! It literally took the wind out of my gut when I read it. This might be a stupid question, but how do you hide people's status' without actually deleting them? I didn't know you could do that...I feel like a tech idiot right now!!

Peanutz21 · July 2013

Bah!! I totally feel your pain. fB is evil. Sometimes when I'm in a bad mood I want to comment how their kids look like aliens and to stop postics pics every hour. Of course I never do but it's tempting!

Josiecat · July 2013

@amcastord, I am so that crazy lady (when im working) in the office!!! It's to the point where my boss would pull me aside and give me the news before that person could tell me. I worked in a large office, and there were at least 3 pregnant ladies at any given time, plus soon-to-be dads, and women visiting while on their maternity leave. It was such an embarrassing label, but whatever, you gotta protect yourself!

@beachy6, never feel bad about flipping out over Facebook announcements (I still cry when I find out someone is pregnant, or when someone posts photos of their new omg-he-is-perfect baby. But just make us a promise- when your adoption goes through (I have you in my thoughts all the time!!!) you'll take your moment in the sun and tell the world

beachy6 · July 2013

Thanks josiecat! I sure will! That's just it. I'm can see myself in the other people's excitement because I know I'd be excited if it were me. I'm just so pissed that it's not me and I hate that IF has done this to me. And, I can't stand all the complaining about kids and babies. It gets right under my skin and eats away at it! I want to reach through the computer and ring their necks!!

sparkles2040 · August 2013

I dont understand people. I can take a step back and be happy for someone although I am sad for myself. But some situtations just make you angry. I have a friend who just got a teaching job, her hubby got laid off, and they started trying and it happened within 3 months. Although, congrats on getting pregnant- its seems like irresponsible bad timing so I am not over the moon. Oh and I know women have the right to complain about being pregnant, but dont come to me all full of negative nancy comments when I am spending thousands of dollars and hours of crying just to make it happen.

Ugh. FB vent.

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