I wonder if I am going to get flamed for that topic!
I don't mean it negatively. I'm just curious.
- Who's left the baby with a babysitter (for a night out not to go to work) other than family?
- Who's left the baby overnight?
I'm in a pickle. Next Sat I have a bachelorette and DH has the matching bachelor party.....He's pushing me to leave LO with his mom. I don't think she is ready. She typically wakes up once a night and lately has been up for a while when this happens. There is the occasional STTN - but this is not the norm. I have to ask myself if DH even knows that she wakes up once at night to be so keen on pushing this idea. Second - she takes the boob at night. While I know we could practice with a few bottles during MOTN feedings between now and then, I truthfully feel guilty.
It's also my bday Saturday. I would LOVE to go out for Suishi... but feel bad leaving her knowing what's on tap next weekend. Now that I'm back at work, I feel like our time together is so limited, I feel as though I need to space out nights out - times with sitters- is that ridiculous?
-As for the overnighter - I mentioned in a PP that we have a wedding in Septmeber. 3 hours away all weekend. I'm really looking forward to it but am a but nervous - definietely going to need to get LO used to bottles in the MOTN for that. Although I am kind of hoping we're STTN at that point. I am also a little bummed about this because I think she'll be on formula at that point. Oddly enough - this makes me sad. I've not enjoyed BFing - but now that it's gotten so much easier I"m not as excited about the finish line as I once thought I would be.... I really just want my damn boobs to inflate!
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Re: Let's talk leaving the baby......
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up."
TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012
IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized!
ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597
12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
I am a little weird in that it didn't bother me at all to leave LO for the night. I had a few tears at daycare the first few days, and I had some anxiety leaving him with DH's cousin, but mostly I enjoyed the break. It isn't that hard for me to be at work away from him either. Sometimes I feel like this makes me a bad mom - I read all this stuff about sobbing and hearts breaking at leaving LO for the day, and I'm just not like that.
I'm not ready to do overnight yet, not even close. But we've done a night out to a wedding before... neither of us drank and we were home by 10. It also happened to be on a Sunday night though so we had to be up for work the next day anyways.
I feel guilty leaving her with a sitter when I go to work, I can't imagine something that I choose to go to... for now. I'm sure it'll change when she's a little older.
It also doesn't help that there are limited people that I trust leaving her with.... I don't trust my MIL AT ALLLLLL, probably won't until Emma is 10. Lol... my parents are OOT and there are limited friends I trust too. The one friend I do trust just had a baby on Friday so I don't want to burden her with mine.
Leaving LO with gramma over night is fine, I am sure she is more than capable of getting up during the night if needed. Some kids don't sleep through the night until age 2, can you imagine never leaving them for 2 years? We have left LO with a sitter already and after about the first 30-40 min I can relax and enjoy myself. Be honest with the babysitter as what to expect (before the night out) and if she isn't comfortable she will tell you. I saw do it!! Go out and enjoy yourself. And, going out two Saturdays in a row isn't a terrible thing, just probably don't go out every Saturdays from now on hahahah
Same here... I don't think it's weird. I went back to work when DS was six weeks, and I had some anxiety, but overall I was fine. I will say that I was super excited to see him every day after school, but I was never crying about leaving him. I left him with my MIL one evening to go to a wedding and I had such a great time with DH and our friends that I barely even thought about the baby, but we did leave early and again I was really excited to see him when we got home.
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Reading these responses make me feel guilty....I've left LO overnight several times. We went to a wedding when he was 6 weeks and he stayed over night with Gma and we also went on a weekend trip for our anniversary and a cruise to Jamaica for hubby's birthday. I guess the only person I feel comfortable leaving him with is with my mom or MIL but if they want him. I'm all about packing a bag and taking a break, they are an extension of me and I know he is in good hands.
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Thanks for the insight ladies!
I've decided to go ahead and leave her with my MIL overnight next Saturday. (as long as DH is still on board which I am sure he is) MIL has 5 kids -s he's done this before, and she took one of my nephews for an entire weekend - and all he did was cry. This will be fine....and besides I do think it's good practice for September.
As for Saturday - I decided to tell DH to get suishi to go and we'll sit on our deck and enjoy it. I made the decision for two reasons. 1- we have limited babysitters right now and I don't want to overburden them 2- My biggest complaint all summer has been that summer is passing me by as DD can't be in the sun etc. So rather than go sit inside at a restaurant that's ntohing special - we'll sit on our deck and enjoy the beautiful weather that's forecasted.... And DH is on duty all night. Mama Bear (as I so gracefully have nicknamed myself) is going to spend the night with her long lost friend WINE - and I'm doing it guilt free. He's getting pushed into the deep end and is going to handle bed time - without my boob!
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up."
TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012
IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized!
ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597
12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015