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WWYD?- Shower Guests

chefleigh2chefleigh2
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Ok, I know there is a whole board dedicated to Baby Showers, but I'm bored and would love some advice.... In Jan, my SIL is hosting a baby shower. This will be a HUGE family shower as DH's family is very large (60+ people.) In March, my good friend is hosting a smaller, friend shower to be held in my home. I know things are different now, but I believe that children should not attend showers. With DH family, children should attend everything (simply because the men are too lazy/incompetent to watch their own children). At SIL's shower there will be tons of children there, including her own 18-month old twins. At the shower my friend is hosting, there will be two infants, both 7 & 9 months old, both from out of town. I do not want children at the shower at my home. The space is limited, and to be honest, I don't want to have to worry about entertaining her kids all day.

Do I HAVE to invite my SIL & MIL to the friend shower at my house? What are your thoughts? I really don't have that great of a relationship with them sometimes and would love an afternoon where I don't have to worry about their bullshiit. They do not understand that if an invitation is addressed to them and not the twins, that does not mean that the twins are invited. 

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  • LindseyS0504LindseyS0504
    I don't think you have to invite them. Then, if they get bent out of shape about it, just tell them that since they worked so hard on your family shower that you thought you'd give them a break since it's just a small shower with your girlfriends.
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  • mrsladdmrsladd

    Hmmm...since they'll both be at the other shower, and this is something your friend is putting on, I don't *think* you have to invite them.  If you do want to, I'd simply say, "My friend wants to throw me an adults only party", end of story.  Don't mention that there will be two infants there, that can seem to be a surprise to you "Oh, I didn't realize they'd bring the babies", if pressed later by MIL or SIL.

    Personally, I really do like kids at showers, but I see no reason why someone who doesn't feel the same way should not be able to have an adults only party if they want one, I would never ever want to bring my dd somewhere she was not welcome.

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  • tmp-196789375008866tmp-196789375008866
    I don't think you need to invite them, either. If it was for a shower from your family, I'd say it'd be nice to invite them. But a shower with your girlfriends? Not necessary at all. In-laws don't need to be included in every aspect of your pregnancy/life. (If only my MIL understood that, life would be so much better....)
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  • Daisy22Daisy22 member
    I don't think you have to invite them since you're having a family shower. This shower is your girlfriends so I wouldn't worry about it.
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  • katie2shoeskatie2shoes
    I don't think you need to invite them either.  Its a friend shower, so unless you wanted them to come I don't think its necessary especially since there will be a big family shower for them earlier. 
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  • chefleigh2chefleigh2
    I have to say Thank You! for all the advice..I also don't want it to seem like I don't want my nieces there, its just that my SIL & MIL really just kind of let them go and don't necessarily watch them all the time. I am remembering past occasions and things that have happened and just don't want that to happen in our home. Thanks again for the honest advice ladies!!
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