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Gifts from grandparents

Heater2010Heater2010
in October 2012 Moms
I can't decide if this is a good thing or not.  Don't get me wrong I'm very grateful to DH's parents and grandmother that they're constantly buying A something, BUT...it's literally every time we see any of them.  It sounds mean, but I feel like they need to kinda lay off on giving her something every visit.

I don't want A to think that she's going to get gifts every time she sees someone.  Obviously she doesn't understand now, but eventually she will.  Anyone agree?  Disagree?  DH is split down the middle too. 

Possible reason, btw...they're just divorced last December.  MIL seems to have this need to prove she can live comfortable and spend money without a worry like before (she got a rotten deal with the divorce) and FIL I think wants to just buy love because he never bothers with seeing her until months have passed and he's jealous of MIL. 

What sucks is my parents can't afford to splurge on tons of stuff, so I think it makes them feel bad too when they see the other two getting her stuff.
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  • LorMorLorMor member
    I also find it difficult when people are too generous. I'd try to say something, or rather get DH to say something. But keep it separate from the fact that your parents can't be as generous - I don't think that should come into it at all.
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  • chricastchricast member
    In the third trimester of my pregnancy my MIL would give me a stuffed animal for the baby every time we went over their house and this was weekly. I asked her to stop after like 5 animals, but told her if she really felt compelled to buy more they were going to have to stay at her house because I didnt have room for anymore and the baby wasnt even born yet! She stopped buying them.
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  • Mrs.G123Mrs.G123 member
    What is it? Useful things or clutter?
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  • Heater2010Heater2010
    Thanks for the suggestions so far!

    It's toys.  Well, MIL will buy an outfit here and there.  The last thing was a bathing suit...we were getting by just fine with the one since we don't go swimming every day.  FIL gives clutter-type toys.  Cute, but we didn't need it.  She has enough toys for her age and younger. 

    I should have MIL keep stuff at her condo.  We don't to FIL's house because of the situation.  DH has gone over there too many times when "the friend" (as FIL is constantly calling her instead of GF) and he's uncomfortable with it. 

    I can try to suggest to them to get things she needs...although that really isn't much.  When she needs something we just get it for her because we can't rely on others to get it when we actually need it.
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  • pb_bridepb_bride member
    Can you ask MIL/FIL to buy books for your LO instead of toys?  That way, at least the books will last longer, take up less space, and more useful in the long run.
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  • Heater2010Heater2010
    Good idea :) 
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