So I want to stay home after we have our little girl and my job needs to know ASAP so they can plan an I can train someone new. My husband says its up to me and he will do whatever it takes if that is what I decide to do but he just started a new job and yes hos income is more then enough but I am not sure yet. I want to tell them I am not coming back so we can make sure I have time to train someone (I manage a daycare) but what if i do decide i want to come back? Any suggestion on what to do? I am so torn right now.
Re: Staying home after baby?
You should also consider if you'll need to pay back any benefits you receive furring mat leave if you do it this way.
I am absolutely going back to work for some period of time. I want to see what it's like to be a SAHM and a working mom. I would not quit while on leave.I just think it's bad form and I don't like to burn bridges. My manager has been good to me and I feel like I owe her more than that. If nothing else, I would come back and give it a few months, and if it isn't working out then I would let my manager know I will be leaving but I am willing to interview and train my replacement (I'm the lead on my team so I'd have to get the new hire up and running regardless).
Just a couple things to consider, I understand that many companies require you to pay back any benefits you received while on leave (STD, if there were any company paid premiums, etc.) if you don't return for a specified amount of time (30 days maybe?). That's probably something you would want to discuss with HR. Also, heaven forbid LO had some health issues. Maybe you want to stay home to care for them full time, but what if you were facing some serious ongoing medical expenses? In that case you may want to consider both you and your DH covering the baby on your insurance if that's an option.
I know that family is the most important, but what a nasty and unprofessional thing to do. It makes all pregnant and working moms look bad bc the next time someone's pregnant everyone is still scarred from the previous 5-6 months of hell.
I work in HR and we have 200 employees. People are naïve if they think that the company won't already suspect that you might leave after your baby is born. It's great when people return but not expected. Also, I wouldn't pretend that I was coming back and then the day of say that I changed my mind. If I do decide to stay home, I will give them ample notice (probably a month or at least 2 weeks). It's the same amount of notice that they would receive if I was starting a new job at another company.
I agree with a lot of this. Leave yourself options, but give fair notice if you decide not to come back. Everyone's work situation is different, but you don't want to screw yourself over just to avoid inconveniencing them. People quit jobs and people get hired for jobs, that's just how things work.
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