So my husband comes home and tells me he saw his parents at work and his mother told him how he has to convince me not to breastfeed because she doesn't like the way I eat and how me being so smallI will starve my baby... She also says she's going to "sneak it some food if I don't think you're feeding it right" and how that wasn't what she did so its not what we should do either... I take the "sneaking food" comment very seriously because she does that to me... she will tell me spinach is lettuce, as if I won't notice, she put milk in my food instead of a substitute (lactose intolerant) and other annoying things like that... she tried to tell me that fried fish was fried chicken... I eventually got tired of eating dinner with them and started cooking things I liked to eat and knew what was in them so I would get sick even though she openly criticized me for it... I don't know whats worse the fact that I feel more offended that she called my son "it" or the fact that I feel like I may not be good enough to breastfeed him... It may sound ridiculous but I am due next week and have been a roller coaster of emotions. My husband is very supportive of breastfeeding, and I swear if anyone touches my son or gives him anything I will flip out! She went through my hospital go bag and took out what I picked for his outfit and replaced it with an "I love grandma" outfit... I just put it back the way it was and tried to let it go.She's also messed with his laundry, she added more detergent because she saw me putting it in and said it wasn't enough... I did what the instructions said. I have noticed myself getting territorial lately, and its just laundry but she didn't even ask me about it first she just started touching things and it got me MAD! I don't know if I am being too sensitive, but he is my son...I make the decisions...
Re: Breastfeeding VS Crazy Mother in Law
BFP 01/05/2013. EDD 09/18/2013. Low Progesterone. Gestational Diabetes. Rh Negative. Baby Ky-Mani born 100% healthy 09/17/2013. TTC#2 12/2013. BFP 02/01/2014! "Baby RaggaMuffin" due 10/07/2014.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
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Surprise BFP 2-7-2013
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If you or your husband don't start standing up for yourselves this is never going to end. I have an overbearing MIL too and we've had to have some pretty uncomfortable conversations with her. It sucks, but nothing is going to change if you guys don't do it.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
I swear some of these MIL stories on here make me so glad that I barely know my mother in law and that she lives across country and doesn't make an effort to be involved much.
I'd loose it.
You and your DH need to have a conversation with her pronto. If this woman does half of what you are saying she has to potential to seriously hurt you or your LO. PP's are right, if you live with them you need out ASAP.
9/13/12 BFP 9/25/12 M/C at 6.5 weeks
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Um, OP do you live with them? If so, why? Get out of there.
If you do live with them and can't move out at the moment, then cook your own food and let it be known that how you feed your child is none of her business. Also, do not leave her alone with your child. Please, please tell me you are not planning to use her as child care.
Tell your DH to man up and stand up to MIL. Now!
Oh and make sure you rerinse that baby stuff that she put more detergent in with. Babies skin is super sensitive and I'd be concerned that if she added more than the recommended amount of laundry soap that it didn't rinse out properly and baby could react to it.
BFP #1 09/15/09, MMC 09/28/09
BFP #2 06/04/12, EDD 02/09/13, MC at 6w3d on 06/18/12
BFP #3 01/16/13, EDD 10/04/13, Born 09/17/13
IVF #1: 9/11: ER: 12R, 11M, 10F, No Frosties; 5dt: 2 blasts, 1 morula; DD born 6/3/12
IVF #2: 11/12-12/12: ER: 20R, 20M, 16F, 4 Frosties; 5dt: 3 blasts, DS born 8/9/13
The baby shower one hit most of the high points too: mean MIL, rescinding promised shower, etc. Who has the time t make up and then type out such stupid crap? Wish I did!
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The baby shower one hit most of the high points too: mean MIL, rescinding promised shower, etc. Who has the time t make up and then type out such stupid crap? Wish I did!
Just have to say I LOOOOVE your Daria avatar!!
BFP #1 09/15/09, MMC 09/28/09
BFP #2 06/04/12, EDD 02/09/13, MC at 6w3d on 06/18/12
BFP #3 01/16/13, EDD 10/04/13, Born 09/17/13
I am glad that I clicked to the end of this thread and saw that this poster is known for drama. I just couldn't imagine this being a real-life scenario.