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Letting step siblings stay the night...

Sunday924Sunday924 member
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My SS wants his 2 step brothers to spend the night. They have known each other almost two years and have seen each other maybe 10 times. I don't think they have seen each other in 2013 and if so it was one time. They just found each other on Xbox live last week. So they are more like friends not siblings. Would you let them stay the night? It's so strange to me and I'm not sure I'm comfortable with it. Am I the only one that thinks it's strange to have them over? Background: SS and SB's live in same area. BM and SF moved 4 hrs away.
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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    If he considers them friends then try to look at it that am.
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  • cole2144cole2144 member
    I think as long as you have a good relationship with the other parent I would be ok with it. I come from a blended family and my half siblings came to my house for plenty of sleepovers. My mom just saw them as my siblings.
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  • 2chatter2chatter member
    I think that would be great, especially as BM won't be involved - at all - in the sleepover.  Do you have any relationship with the skids BM?  If not, I would ask your kids to facilitate an intro, they can get it going through xbox live (numbers, etc. but I would make sure it's private and there are not any random creepers who can see numbers, etc.)
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  • Sunday924Sunday924 member
    I don't know their BM at all. I do know we have something is common though....we really dislike BM and SF. I guess I will do it but I want DH to be here the entire time.
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  • CurlieWhirlieCurlieWhirlie member
    I agree with what PP said, just look at these kids as your SS's friends rather than siblings. Does that change the way you feel about it? What if he was asking to have some friends sleep over, rather than step-brothers? I think encouraging your SS to have a social life and not letting the adults' baggage weigh down the kids is always a good thing. And how nice that he wants to bring them to your house (rather than wanting to go to theirs)! I would take that as a compliment.
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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member
    CurlieWhirlie said:
    I agree with what PP said, just look at these kids as your SS's friends rather than siblings. Does that change the way you feel about it? What if he was asking to have some friends sleep over, rather than step-brothers? I think encouraging your SS to have a social life and not letting the adults' baggage weigh down the kids is always a good thing. And how nice that he wants to bring them to your house (rather than wanting to go to theirs)! I would take that as a compliment.
    I agree.

    While this might be a very uncomfortable situation, I believe in trying everything once.  IF the boys spend the night and things are just too uncomfortable, then maybe stick to daytime activities for awhile (laser tag, bowling, movies, etc).  

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