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You people have turned me into the car seat police

KaylaL08KaylaL08 member
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Ok so before TB I knew very little about car seat safety. Of course all the car seat pictures on my FB are incorrect--chest clip at the wrong place, straps too loose, etc., but I never say anything.

But today my cousin posted a picture of her SEVEN month old in a forward-facing Cosco seat. The straps were on the highest setting and super loose, chest clip at her belly button. Plus because she is so small she is all slouched over. You can tell by the windows they are in a moving car. I couldn't stand it and sent her a very sweet message as nice as I could be. I send her a couple of links and was generally very nice about it. 

No response yet. WDYT? Did I do the right thing? Should I have minded my own business? Would you have been offended to get a message like that?
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    littlemomma10littlemomma10 member
    Normally I don't bother to say anything, but in this case I probably wouldn't have been able to keep my mouth shut either. Are you and your cousin close? Hopefully she is just uninformed, and will take your message well(and take it to heart)! I would want someone to tell me if I was doing something that could endanger my child! And I hope I would take it well. :)
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    I agree, I hope she takes it well.  I hope if I received an email like that I would take it well.  Clearly you are well intentioned and provided sources to back your thoughts up.  I think you did everything right and as politely as you could from what you describe.  A pic like that would terrify me!
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    dizzykates said:
    I agree, I hope she takes it well.  I hope if I received an email like that I would take it well.  Clearly you are well intentioned and provided sources to back your thoughts up.  I think you did everything right and as politely as you could from what you describe.  A pic like that would terrify me!
    Exactly this. I could see her taking offense, but I really hope she doesn't. I do think you were justified in doing what you did. 

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    kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member
    I would have done the same thing. I've corrected two people on fb about carseat stuff. One told me to F off in a roundabout way--the other was super grateful because she genuinely didn't know. I hope the latter happens in your situation. Like you I don't correct every little minor infraction--just the bigger stuff.
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    MinipenguinMinipenguin member
    Someone on my fb just posted a picture of her 8 month old ff and bragging about his big boy seat. She's generally really ontop of health stuff for her kids so I wondered if she just didn't know. But I can't bring myself to message her, I'm afraid she would tell me to f off.
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    scatteredtrees said:
    Sometimes I really just think parents don't know any better. I really had no idea the proper placement of the chest clip until someone at the hospital showed me... I would not be offended at all if someone genuinely was trying to help me protect my child.
    This is the attitude I hope she will take. Like I said in my OP, I knew very little about car seat safety before TB. I made a lot of ignorant mistakes with DSS. Turned him around at 14 months, buckled him in with a bulky winter coat. I am sure I was guilty of putting the chest clip in the wrong place too. I actually have a picture of him with the straps slipping down his shoulders because his coat was big and slippery! Yikes!! Thankfully we were never in an accident, but I would have been glad for someone to inform me. I feel like there isn't enough information out there about car seat safety to the average person.

    Also to PP who asked, I am not very close with this cousin. She lives several hours away.
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    MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
    Hopefully things were properly taken in the context you were hoping to have come across...  Everyone has to assess the level of risk they're willing to take on.  However, like here, we have a minimum of 1 year RF then they need to be in a 5-point to another level, then in a booster until age 8 or 45lbs (whichever is 2nd)...  Far too many people just don't have a clue - even with the picture marked right on the chest clip I've had to explain to DH that "this is where the chest clip goes, like it or not!"..
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    KC_13 said:
    I would have done the same thing. I've corrected two people on fb about carseat stuff. One told me to F off in a roundabout way--the other was super grateful because she genuinely didn't know. I hope the latter happens in your situation. Like you I don't correct every little minor infraction--just the bigger stuff.
    This is exactly what happened to me. I've told two people and one girl genuinely thanked me and told me she had no idea she was doing it wrong. The other chick (whose kid didn't even have her arms in the harness) told me I didn't understand her life as a single mom and to F off lol

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