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What'd you do when your DH/SO was giving SA??

So I'm not sure what to do..... my docs office has requested that my DH provide a SA. Due to the difficulty scheduling with that office we are unable to obtain the sample at home (which would've been better) and will have to collect the sample at the office. So here's my question, what did you all do when your DH/SO was collecting the SA sample?  Did you let them go to the office by themselves or did you waiting in the waiting room? I would like to go with him to the office but wait in the waiting room if he wants or whatever. Wasn't sure what was considered normal for this. He's gone with me to my appt's I want to be there for his as this is a joint venture. Help!

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Me: 30 dx w/PCOS 7/13

DH: 31
TTC 11/12
started Metformin 9/13
HSG, tubes open but narrow uterus... f/u with RE 3d u/s everything 'normal'
2/14: hopefully 1st IUI
... timing off before trip, waiting until 4/14
3/27: POAS= BFP!!!
3/28: beta#1: 108
4/2: beta#2: 799
4/11: u/s 6w1d EDD 12/4, 1 little penguin!

7/7:  We're having a girl!
12/11: after lots of labor/delivery/nicu excitment baby Piper Mae born 1859 @ 8lbs, 21.5"





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  • The one time he couldn't collect at home, he made me "help him out" in the parking lot. Sounds like fun huh?? Good luck!
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  • All but one of DH's samples were collected at home. He did the collection by himself, but I got the honor of carrying the cup of jizz. With the one sample he did at the office, he went back to the room by himself and I sat in the waiting room. He thinks it's too awkward for me to be in the room with him while he's doing his thing.

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  • Hmm. With my luck we would get caught in the parking lot haha. I guess i could send him some naughty pics? Is it just like a normal docs office or are there things for them to look at? I have no idea what to expect.

    **siggy warning**

    Me: 30 dx w/PCOS 7/13

    DH: 31
    TTC 11/12
    started Metformin 9/13
    HSG, tubes open but narrow uterus... f/u with RE 3d u/s everything 'normal'
    2/14: hopefully 1st IUI
    ... timing off before trip, waiting until 4/14
    3/27: POAS= BFP!!!
    3/28: beta#1: 108
    4/2: beta#2: 799
    4/11: u/s 6w1d EDD 12/4, 1 little penguin!

    7/7:  We're having a girl!
    12/11: after lots of labor/delivery/nicu excitment baby Piper Mae born 1859 @ 8lbs, 21.5"





  • We always had to have him produce the sample at the clinic, but it was always before an IUI, so I would usually wait in the waiting room while he took care of business and then we would leave for a couple hours and get coffee and I would come back for the IUI. There's porn in the rooms, but DH said he would never touch it. I guess my deep dark secret is that he has a few things on his phone to help him out. :\">

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  • My DH has total anxiety when it comes to the cup.  We attempted to do the test three times.  We live close to the RE office so we can collect at home.  The first time only a tiny drop came out like the size from eye drops, I called the RE and the nurse said to cancel the test because they need more.  The second time a bit more came out.  When we got to the lab they said oh we need more.  It was terrible.  The RE asked us to do it again to make sure that the very low volume (0.5 mL) was not because of cup anxiety.  The third time we had the same issue as the first time and test was cancelled.  DH would not allow me to help with those collections, but when we have done IUI I have been helping any way I can.  RE's nurse said I could help any was as long as it got in the cup!!! 

     

    Good Luck!!!  I hope your SA is a lot easier than ours was!!!

    March 2013: First TTC trip to RE, On 1500 mg Metformin, April 2013:  PCOS and Endometriosis, May 2013:  DH Low volume; Femara 7.5 mg + IUI #1 = BFN, July 2013: Femara 7.5 mg + IUI #2 = BFN, August 2013:  Femara 7.5 mg (X5) + Bravelle (X7) + Ovidrel + IUI #3 + Endometrin = BFP  MC at 5w3d,
    October 2013:  Follistim (X14) + Ovidrel + IUI #4 + Endometrin =BFP!!! 

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  • At the RE's office, I help.  They also have magazines and movies lol.
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    My DH absolutely refuses to even try at the hospital - he gets way too freaked out. We also live >1 hr from the clinic so we absolutely can't collect at home. We tried one horrible experiment with him in the backseat and a laptop while I drove (long, quiet highway) but that was a write-off. The only thing we found that worked is booking a hotel near the clinic. It sucks to pay an extra $150 every time for a room, but he is much more relaxed, produces a sample in no-time and we get a little night away (albeit without sex). Best of luck to you!
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  • ky29ky29
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    My husband goes by himself.  We live too far away to do it at home, but he said he preferred just doing it there anyway.  He said it would be awkward if I was there waiting for him though.  Although, he realizes I'll be there when he does it for an IUI, but that's different. 

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  • All but one of DH's samples were collected at home. He did the collection by himself, but I got the honor of carrying the cup of jizz. With the one sample he did at the office, he went back to the room by himself and I sat in the waiting room. He thinks it's too awkward for me to be in the room with him while he's doing his thing.
    All of this, including carrying jizz cup and hubby being awkward lol.

  • vpinevpine
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    DH prefers the office instead of home - I sat in waiting room reading a book and silently praying. It took about 45 mins afterward for the sperm washing so we just had to wait there. There's a starbucks downstairs from the office so DH went and got coffee and croissant.
    Me: 32, DH: 34.
    Trying since Jan 2011. Unexplained IF.
    2 IUIs = BFN.
    1 IVF (Dec 2013) = BFN.
    FET, 2 frosties (June 13, 2014)

    14dp5dt-June 27 -BFP, beta 2061. 2nd beta >5000, 3rd beta >5000, 2 sacs 06/30.
    Twin Girls - 02/11/15 - at 37 weeks (no NICU, home with me at 3 days).
  • DH also prefers the office so he is in the mindset of just getting it done.  I am normally at work when he has his appointments.  In the evening, we typically get a good laugh out of his descriptions of their "inspirational" material. 

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  • All three were done at the clinic.  I waited for him in the waiting room the 1st time, and the other two times were on a Sunday and I was at church. He met me after his sample, and then we had to drive back there for the IUI.  not sure how things will work with IVF.  He mentioned that there are movies there.

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    IUI #"s1 - 3 (Femara + IUI) April - June 2013 - all BFN

      Decided to do IVF... Began stimming on September 10th!  Egg Retrieval 9/20/13.  19 eggs: 6 to mature to freeze after 6 fertilized with ICSI

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     Late October 2013 - ectopic pregnancy - methotrexate injection....benched 3 months

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    Beta #2 - 1/30/14  (11 dp5dt) 302

    Beta #3 - 2/3/14  (15 dp5dt)  1222 

    Ultrasound set for 2/17/14......TWINS!        Twin A - HR 124 bpm; Twin B - HR 126 bpm

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  • vpine said:
    DH prefers the office instead of home - I sat in waiting room reading a book and silently praying. It took about 45 mins afterward for the sperm washing so we just had to wait there. There's a starbucks downstairs from the office so DH went and got coffee and croissant.
    THIS.  I thought my DH was the only one who prefers to produce in the office.  He says he feels weird doing it at home.  If he wants action we BD, hes not into the do it yourself thing so its hard for him.  He did the SA and 6IUI samples in the office. He takes about 20 minutes.  I went with him all times except once bc I was surging and I had to have the IUI after work so DH went a little bit earlier.  Every time hes in there I'm like PLEASE do it.  Good luck. 
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    Getting some more testing and trying to figure out what the issue is before FET in December, started acupuncture on 11/10, RLP and some other BW nothing major to report except slightly high Prolactin. Prolactin was slightly high when I started with my RE and I already had an MRI which was Neg.  Endo biopsy=negative.  WTF is wrong with us???
    12/18/13 FET of 1 BB and 1 AC.  Hoping for a miracle.  Beta 12/26 Low BETA-8 2nd BETA 5- chemical
    After 3 failed transfers IDK where to go from here.  Still no real answers as to why this isn't working.  Getting a second opinion in February and looking into immune testing.  
    2/14- NEW RE- Immune testing showed a partial dq alpha match with DH- On prednisone and did intralipids prior to transfer.  3/14 Lupron, gonal f, menopur, HGH.  ER 15 mature all 15 fertilized!  5dt of an early blast grade 1 and an expanded blast grade 2.  BETA on 4/21.  1 grade 2 embryo frozen
    BETA #1 59 BETA #2 148 BETA #3 283 BETA #4 2,783! US at 6w2d shows 1 bean measuring right on track! HR 121.  US at 8w3d measuring on track HR 177. Released form my RE.  EDD 12/28


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  • I was in the waiting room, he said they had a computer filled with porn, and it took him a couple of minutes to find one he wanted.  But crazy as it sounds he doesn't like me to watch him "get worked up" ever, like it embarrass him.

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    3-16-2012 D&C/Miscarriage.
     Blocked Left Tube. 
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    MFI - Sperm Morphology 2%.  
    MTHFR 
     Abnormal Antiphospholipid Antibodies
    April 2013 ~  1st IUI attempt - 100 mg Clomid- Canceled
    May 2013  ~ 2nd IUI attempt -100 mg Clomid- Canceled
    June 2013 ~ 3rd IUI attempt - 100 mg Clomid+ Trigger+ Progesterone~BFN
     IVF/ICSI #1 May 2014 ~ Freeze All ~ Due to OHSS
     5/1/2014 ~ 22 retrieved, 12 fertilized, 3 frozen
    5/28/2014 ~ FET#1 ~ Transferred 2 Hatching Blasts
      6/1/2014~ **BFP**
    6/9/2014 Beta #1 ~ 1022
    6/12/2014 Beta #2 ~ 3099
    6/16/2014 Beta #3 ~ >5000
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  • First timetable husband was horrified and refused to let me go with him. Next time he asked me to come to appointment and come in the room to help get him excited. Find what works for you two and make sure you laugh at yourselves because any way you slice it, it's super awkward. Hopefully someday him having to go through giving a sample will make him appreciate what you have to do to when you get a pap every year or give birth someday :-). Good luck !

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