Well that sucks NBR LONG

Re: Well that sucks NBR LONG

• myskyegirl member

  July 2013 edited July 2013

  It sounds like your mother has a better case now for her supv to be fired.  

  
  

  Can she call the utilities companies and ask to be put on a payment plan, I think some utility companies have "hardship" plans.  If she's set on moving, can she try to rent out her house instead of giving it over to the bank?  Some real estate offices if you list the rental property with them, for an extra fee they take care of collecting the rent and take care of property when there's a tenant in the place.  

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• rjeller32 member

  July 2013

  I think you should do what you feel is best for your family. You mentioned DH is underpaid. But do they treat him well? I have a hard time choosing a job with more money rather than staying with one where they treat you really well. Bigger companies always scare me for DH, (he is a diesel mechanic) because the lack of care for family and the traveling, so we stick with his smaller company. Even still he gets sent out at least once a year for 4 months, but it's not nearly as bad as other companies. I don't know much about engineering so I can't chime in on that. But if it's to be closer to your mom, maybe it is a good option, if DH is game for it.
  
  I am trying to get my mom to move home currently, so I can understand though. She is up in Alaska, with my three younger siblings. They were doing great, but then it was found out that my stepdad of 9 years had been molesting my two sisters for the past year, so they are dealing with court and the loss of an income. I am hoping it sways her to move back to the lower 48 so I can help with the kids (15,14,11) and they can all have the support system they need.
  
  GL and I am sorry you are going through all of this!
  

  
   
  

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• minervacullen member

  July 2013

  She's done all she can with the utilities. She does the year round plan, she has done extensions... She used to be a realtor and said with her house in the condition it is in, it can't be rented. she has some health issues and a really big house. she had mold, her master bedroom hass been taken over by spiders and mold (it's in the woods), so she has that section of the house closed off and just lives in the rest. DH cleaned all the mold in her basement and took down the drywall and redid it, painted the exterior... a few years ago to try to help, but there's only so much we can help with.
  
  If my dad acted like he cared, I think I wouldn't be so upset. He lives 20 minutes from me, but I haven't seen him since February. He doesn't call, I try to call and they don't answer, I leave messages on fb (he reads then and doesn't reply). He's been remarried for 22 years, I have a little brother and sister from him, but they don't see me either. My sister will sometimes if she needs her hair done. I do it for free because I just want to see her. DH gets mad because I do, but I will do anything just to spend some time with her. She's 22 and my brother is almost 21. I'm the weird old lady sister. They don't invite me over for Holidays, if I call and ask if I can come, they have to discuss it. This is another thing I've been having issues with lately. I just want to be a part of their family, but they push me away every chance they get. It kills me that DS asks about them all the time, they haven't seen DD since she was 2months, it just sucks.
  
  Sorry to make this all woe is me.
  
  

  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• myskyegirl member

  July 2013

  You have every right to be woes is me.  I'm sorry you're going to all this.  It's hard to care about people that don't seem to care back.  I have a younger 1/2 sister (I'm 10yrs older), we have the same father, as kids we were close, but after our father passed away a few years ago she stopped speaking to me.  Our father wasn't the greatest growing up, alcoholic, gambler, he quit but I was about 15 at the time and as much as I loved him it was a little too late for me. I went the complete opposite direction and I think she may have followed in his footsteps and has alcohol problems herself. I've reached out several times and when we found out about Skye I reached out and my b.friend reached out and she's never reached back.  She's never seen her niece and it makes me very sad.  

  
  

  Wow that was all about me, sorry.

  
  

  Instead of waiting for an invite from your siblings for the holiday's can you call and invite them to lunch or a family dinner?  They are grown adults and should really know better.  Or do you think if you wrote them an email and explained that you really would love them to be part of your life more and your DD and DS miss them and you want them to know their auntie and uncle growing up.  Everyone needs an aunt and uncle they can tell secrets too, if their lucky enough to have them in their lives. 

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• minervacullen member

  July 2013

  It's a huge company, but they are generous and good to their employees. Where he's at now he doesn't really answer to anyone, he likes that. But we think the owners are either embezzling or have Guinevere themselves outrageous raises. They claim they can't do bonuses or raises right now, but are building this huge, almost, mansion. Have brand new cars, bought a boat. Plus they hardly work any more. He says they're there maybe 30 hours a week, mostly less. The poor guys on the floor barely make ends meet. Then DH found out how much the company made last year, he about flipped that no one was getting bonuses or raises. It was over 1.5million.
  I think he should leave.

  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• minervacullen member

  July 2013

  Given, not that!

  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• schumakr member

  July 2013

  This post bummed me out. I hope something good comes for you mom after this because it sounds horrible right now. Vibes to you and your family. 

  

  My goofy little love. I love you Alexandra Marie.

  

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