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Working mom guilt

MinnesotanMomMinnesotanMom
in May 2013 Moms

I'm hoping that I can get some guidance from second-time moms or moms who have already gone back to work.

I am very blessed that I am able to take off 8 months to be with my baby and am going back to work in January.  And I think I do want to go back to work.  I have invested so much in my career, financially, educationally, in terms of time invested, and otherwise, that I can't imagine taking any more time off.  But lately, I have been overwhelmed with regret about going back to work.  I am so passionately in love with my daughter.  I'm actually shocked how much I love being at home with her.  Also, she is at this time a huge "mommy's girl" and doesn't like to be with anyone else (I know this will change over time).  I am finding it hard sometimes to "live in the moment" with her, and instead catch myself feeling so upset about the fact that I won't be staying home with her forever.

Have any moms gone back to work and found it's not as bad as they expected to be away from their LO?  I really need to hear that it's going to be OK, for her but also for me. :)

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  • MOMama987MOMama987 member
    Back at work... I'm on my second full week. I went through the same thing from about 9 weeks on. Cried at the thought of going back to work. Cried when he started daycare... and now.. it's okay. I really wish I could stay home with him, but like you, I have too much invested in my career, education, financially - I knew it could never be an option.

    We're doing fine - he's thriving, we're spending lots of undistracted quality time together in the evenings and on weekends. 

    I would recommend starting daycare (or whatever your childcare is) a couple days before you back to work. I thought it was silly and unnecessary, but I'm glad I listened to that advice. It made the transition a LOT easier, I think. Good luck! (And I'm super jealous that you can take 8 months off!) :)
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  • jasherlovejasherlove
    The guilt does lessen.  I still feel it.  More for me than for him because he does so well when I'm home.  The BEST thing in the world though is that smile I get when I get home.  And he wants to nurse and cuddle with me when I come home, even if he's recently eaten.
    And NOBODY watched my LO before i went to work.  I was with him constantly.  I was so worried about him missing me, but he surprised me and is very taken with his gma.  At the end of the day, you're still their mama.
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