Sleep strategies with SO?

DenverBride2005 · July 2013

Hi ladies, I actually don't think I have started a thread (just contributed as much as possible!) this whole pregnancy but wanted to hear your ideas about what you and your SO are doing to get sleep while dealing with an erratic newborn sleep schedule (and in my case, incorporating the schedule of an older LO too-ie being awake all night but still having to get up early to take him to daycare!). Right now we are trying to basically take shifts where DH will go to bed early, then I'll stay up with the baby and feed him, then just kind of switch off and on all night unless Caleb is in a deep sleep and allowing us to put him in his bassinet to sleep rather than sleeping ON us, which is how most of his sleep is happening. Baby also still has some day/night confusion going on so he will have some awake time in the night as well. Hope this makes sense-looking forward to hearing anything that works for you!

Stina2012 · July 2013

Riley is 8 days old today so we take what we can get. She sleeps on someone during the day, then from 9-11 my folks hold her while we nap. She is the hardest to get down at 11 and we are usually soothing her until about 1am. Then we wake at 4am, sleep and wake at 8 am. Not bad for 8 days! Oh and she's in her Rock N Play with a onesie and Halo swaddle sleep sack. Do you ladies let LO fall asleep on you at night?that makes me nervous, but I feel like it would work for putting her down the first stretch.

[Deleted User] · July 2013

I nap when my baby naps. It works for me.
My SO went back to work today and last night he slept in our room and I slept with the baby. I don't wake my SO at night because he can't feed the baby and I can handle diaper changes and anything else I or the baby need on my own.

Pink724 · July 2013

I deal with everything at night. I EBF and DH works long days, so I let him sleep as much as possible. We have been lucky lately in that she's only waking up for one MOTN feeding. I stay in bed to feed with my boppy and get up just to change her diaper.

notaffected1 · July 2013

For now, while I'm off work, I handle anything from 11pm-10 am. One night on the weekend hubby takes the overnight so I can sleep.

Once I go back to work, we will alternate like this... One night I'll handle all but one feeding. The next night he'll handle all but one feeding.

JellyTwoPointO · July 2013

I'm EBFing so there's not much DH can do but if I'm having a really hard night where Judah is super fussy, I know I can always make sure Judah has eaten recently and then give him to DH for an hour or two so I can get some rest to keep myself in check.

valstulas · July 2013

I handle all the nighttime feedings/changings/cuddles. That way, SO gets sleep and is ready to get up with the big kids in the morning. When LO wakes up, I feed him and then SO is on baby duty so I get to sleep in. So far, so good.

MeganS313 · July 2013

I am handling all motn feeding amd diaper changes since I ebf. DH is getting up with our 2.5yo DS IF he wakes up. We have LO in our room in a cosleeper bed or in his bouncy seat depending on wht he tolerates at that time. DH will get up with me if I need him to, but I'm usually able to handle it myself. DH has been taking our DS to dc before he goes to work and then I actually sleep in with baby. Today I slept until around 10am when he woke for a feeding. I then usually don't nap since ive gotten enough sleep by sleeping later. I did the same with DS. When we've got a routine going I'll go back To keeping DS home with me 1 day per week and then I plan to just nap with them if possible

DenverBride2005 · July 2013

Thanks for the ideas ladies-we EBF too and I have no problem getting up for feedings and diapers, it's mostly the random fully awake times at night that we are dealing with and since DH has the week off he is able to help for now, thankfully!

Carrie3102 · July 2013

While dh was off we switched off during the night now that he's back at work I do all night time stuff weekends we'll switch.

We don't co-sleep, but I'm not opposed to it.

queenbone · July 2013

This isn't really a strategy, but we pretty much bed share. Usually after the last nrusing session of the day DH can swaddle her and get her to sleep in the bassinet. Then when she wakes to eat I feed her side lying and we both fall asleep; basically we are bed sharerers. Sometimes I can transition her off my breast and out of my arms to the middle of the bed (no pillows or blankets near her) or give her to DH. Sometimes he can transition her back to the bassinet or sometimes she sleeps on his chest. She sleeps much longer at night than my other children though, so we don't have as many night feedings.

I don't love this set up, which is why I Ferber at 3mo.

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