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And as I knew it would be, child support is late

SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
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You may remember me saying XH may lose his job because of an accident in the company vehicle (his second time and both were his fault). Well, he did lose his job, I think it was three weeks ago now. He applied for unemployment for the few weeks he was out of work, and started a new job today. He hasn't paid support in a few weeks. I'm really trying to not hound him about it, as I know he is in a tough spot with being between jobs, but a coworker of mine saw him out at the bar this past weekend drinking it up with his girlfriend. How do you have money to go out and buy you and your girlfriend overpriced drinks all night but you cant pay your effing child support? He keeps saying he will pay me and I he is usually really good about making his payments on time. I just don't want him to think its okay to get behind, or set a precedent that its fine and I'll just deal with it if he is late. Blah. Just a vent really.
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Re: And as I knew it would be, child support is late

  • Lavender PLavender P member
    Sorry, that sucks. I don't know how I would feel in that situation but I totally get that you don't want to let it slide or else he will take advantage and keep letting it happen. That being said, I think previously you mentioned that you have a pretty decent relationship with your X. I'm sure it was really stressful for him to be out of a job, and maybe he was just relaxing for one night. I could go out to a bar with my husband and spend $30 on having drinks for a night depending on what the specials are. It doesn't mean he was spending all his child support money. Maybe just remind him it is past due and ask him when he expects to pay it. If he gives you some bullshit answer than I would pull the 'but you had enough to party at a bar" card. I hope he steps up and does the right thing without that he is working again....
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  • PamelacakePamelacake member

    That does suck =( We have learned to never rely on any CS that is supposed to come in. If we get it, Bonus.. we put some money with it and the kids get to do something that we wouldn't normally do or if they want just movies and pizza, so be it (we do that anyways. lol)

    BM1 thinks she's just the friggin bomb diggity since she caught up her CS bc she was facing jail if she didn't. (and $17 a week for 3 kids is so hard to pay) 13yo SS's birthday is coming up. He wants a new PS3 so he called BM to talk to her about going in with DH to split the cost along with a grandparent. BM of course told SS over the phone that she would do it, Then texted DH to tell him that she would not be doing it, He could use the money she just paid in CS to pay for it. HA!

    Sorry.. mini vent with you.

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  • SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
    We do have a good relationship. We get along really well and do things like Halloween and birthday parties together. We make decisions together easily. It's good. It just chapps my ass that he is so irresponsible sometimes. He makes bad choices with money all the time. I know its not my business usually, but when it stats affecting child support it takes everything I've got not to yell at him. Blah. I'm sure ill get it eventually, and he will catch up, but I hate that his lack financial planning still affects me two years after our split.
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