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Abortion difficulties

LilLeena23LilLeena23
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How do you deal with having an abortion and the father not being there?
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Re: Abortion difficulties

  • Keri MarieKeri Marie member
    I'm sorry that you are having a difficult experience. I'm not able to relate to your situation but I hope you find a path that is healthy and less stressful for both you and your child.

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  • arbutusbridearbutusbride member
    Ask for a referral from your OB/GYN for counseling services. A professional may be able to help you work through your concerns.
    Pursing Domestic Infant Adoption through a local agency. In the meantime, our dog is our baby.  Bumping from Portland, Oregon. 
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  • ElreidElreid member
    Personally I'm strongly against abortion, but if you feel that this really is the right thing then do it. I had a baby very young and I know that I couldn't take care of her, so I placed her for adoption. There are so many amazing women in the world and on this board even, that would love to adopt. Think about those people before you make your decision, please. Some might even be willing to do an open adoption, which is what I have with my baby girl, and it is the most amazing experience. Good luck to you and if you have any questions about adoption then please just ask. I'm open to any question!
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  • PastaFanatic2012PastaFanatic2012 member
    That sounds incredibly difficult, I am so sorry you are going through this alone. Do you have any close friends or maybe your mother that could go with you? Ditto asking for a counseling referral. You can take comfort in the fact that if he will not be there for the abortion, then he is not worth your time or you. You are the most important person here and you should only think about yourself and what you need and want. **hugs**
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  • arbutusbridearbutusbride member
    Whatever you choose to do, it is your decision.  We will not judge you. 
    Pursing Domestic Infant Adoption through a local agency. In the meantime, our dog is our baby.  Bumping from Portland, Oregon. 
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  • jackiemaryjackiemary member
    *Hugs* I agree with going to a OBGYN or a facility like CareNet that could help provide you counseling. 
    Jackie (26) & Josiah (28) married December 27, 2009
    TTC #1 since August 2011
    BFP #1 3/27/12, EDD 12/9/12, Natural miscarriage at 5w2d on 4/7/12
    Diagnosed with PCOS 7/1/13
    Pursuing adoption from Ethiopia 7/2013-currently on the wait list! 
    BFP #2 9/16/13, EDD 5/28/14 Beta #1: 363, Beta #2:876, @ 7w1d Heartbeat:147
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  • ellekaeellekae member
    And, if it's already done, please know that you are still loved! There are resources for your healing from the physical and emotional pain. You aren't alone in that either!

    Check out https://www.rachelsvineyard.org/ for more information.

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    Heading to China in November 2014 to bring our son home!

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