Advice/Intro

Re: Advice/Intro

• lyndsihutson member

  July 2013

  Michelin82 said:

  My DS was 14.5 months when #2 came along.  When I was pregnant, I don't know that he really understood that another baby was coming.  Like you, I was so worried about neglecting DS1 for another baby.  Now that #2 is here, I actually worry about the opposite!  I feel like I spend so much time chasing around #1 that #2 doesn't get enough of my time!  

  
  

  #1 struggled with the adjustment at first.  For about 2 weeks he was acting out and being very aggressive, which is so unlike him!  They even had to discipline him at day care, which was foreign territory for us.  He showed signs of jealousy and just all around didn't like the change to what had become his "norm."  Through all of that, though, he showed signs of loving his little brother.  He would give him hugs and kisses and almost immediately had a "sign" he used to say his name.  Every morning when I'd get DS1 out of his crib, the first thing he'd do is sign #2's name as if to say he wanted to go see him.  It was so cute!  So, while he struggled with the adjustment, he didn't struggle with taking to #2 and loving him!  Things have calmed down in the house now that he's adjusted - and it's gotten to be a lot more fun now (though it's definitely still difficult)!

  
  

  There are pros and cons to any age gap, IMO.  For me, the best "pro" for having them so close is looking forward to seeing them grow up together so close - being playmates as young boys, and hopefully best friends as they grow older.  I never had that for myself growing up (my closest sibling is 13 years younger than me), so I'm happy to give that gift to them!

  
  

  Congrats on your BFP!!

  Thank you!! I'm an only child so I think that is playing a part in my fears. I never knew what it was like so it is scary territory for me. DD was so clingy in the beginning i was constantly holding her, I'm hoping this one will fall asleep on its own and not have to be rocked. I know i created that problem myself, so hopefully i wont do it over again. But i feel like if i spend most of my day rocking the new baby that DD will be jealous I know it will all come to me but i cant help being insanely nervous!

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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