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Need to vent about my boss!!!

ocmommy2Bocmommy2B member
edited July 2013 in February 2014 Moms
So I'm 10 weeks pregnant as of tomorrow and my boss (single 31 yr old woman with no kids) really pissed me off the other day!

She's the owner of a small but busy salon I'm a hairstylist at and all of us girls are really close like a little family. The owner is super cool and is really like a friend. That being said...I was telling the receptionists that I couldn't take a client that was coming in because I was feeling really nauseous and exhausted and I just needed a break to sit down and regroup. They were all really understanding (none have ever been pregnant, they're just super sweet) but my boss rolled her eyes at me and was like "oh God this is what we're gonna have to deal with for the next few months. I've had lots of pregnant friends, it's not that bad."

I couldn't believe her! I know she didn't mean it in a rude or malicious way (we all share a pretty dry humor with no ill will) but it still made me mad. Maybe it's my raging hormones...but don't tell me "it's not that bad" especially if you've never experienced pregnancy -good OR bad! And kudos to your friends that have had easy pregnancies but it's not like that for everyone. I couldn't even respond cuz I would have gone bananas so I just walked away.

I have girlfriends who have had bad m/s and fatigue like me (and didn't even have careers where they were on their feet all day) and still had to stop working altogether, so I think the fact that I'm still even showing up and trying my hardest to pull my weight is a good thing.

Just needed to let that out to some people who I know will understand lol. Thank you for listening to me rant!
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Re: Need to vent about my boss!!!

  • MoxyByProxyMoxyByProxy member
    im sure working on your feet is super hard.. specially with all the different smells of a hair salon! 

    The sad truth is.. people who either have had kids or never have alike.. dont really pity the early pregnant woman much. The general feeling (in my opinion) is that you have a job to do.. do it. 
    I would have probably gotten upset but if you the roles were reversed and it was someone else, you may not have been so offended by her comment. 

    I hope you start to feel better.. the run down feeling and other symptoms of first tri suck! 
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  • keags5496keags5496 member
     I'd be annoyed too.  I think the biggest thing during pregnancy is to listen to your body.  It sends you lots of clues if you need to relax and only YOU can know when that is.  Do what you have to do and try not to let it bug you.  If it keeps up and its really bothering you maybe you could have a chat about it.
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  • KaraLeigh115KaraLeigh115 member
    I totally had this sort of thing happen!! I quit my job 2 days ago because some people there I just can't deal with. I worked with an older guy and he always made me feel horrible! And at one point even said to me "I just don't see what it's worth" and the arse has kids of his own!!! Selfish jerk!
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  • ChereenChereen member
    I'm 11w1d and I am well was a bartender. I didn't tell my boss but someone from another bar across the street where my fiancé works told someone at my work (no one knew) next thing I knew everyone knew I was expecting and I got fired supposedly for making a drink and then ringing it in. But even the GM does that. So on the bright side at least your boss doesn't fire you because your pregnant. But I have mad m/s and I feel your pain. Just try to keep small snacks around so there's always something in your tummy.
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  • ocmommy2Bocmommy2B member
    Chereen said:

    I'm 11w1d and I am well was a bartender. I didn't tell my boss but someone from another bar across the street where my fiancé works told someone at my work (no one knew) next thing I knew everyone knew I was expecting and I got fired supposedly for making a drink and then ringing it in. But even the GM does that. So on the bright side at least your boss doesn't fire you because your pregnant. But I have mad m/s and I feel your pain. Just try to keep small snacks around so there's always something in your tummy.

    omg that's awful! I'm so sorry! you're so right, my situation could be a lot worse! as expectant mommies we just have to remember that despite going through something physically very taxing, we're experiencing a miracle and a blessing and can't let others steal our joy! ;)
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    kegcrc said:

    I would definitely talk to her. Sit her down and walk through a typical day and what your body is going through and that you'd like her to really understand it before making the comments. Let her know that if you need to take a break you're going to because without a break you will vomit all over the customers. If she doesn't get that then she's an idiot.

    I agree. that's a great idea, thank you. I have a very bold personality but at the same time I hate to ruffle feathers when it comes to friends and work but I guess if there were ever a time to speak up and be a tad bit selfish, now is it! lol
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    KaraLeigh115 said:

    I totally had this sort of thing happen!! I quit my job 2 days ago because some people there I just can't deal with. I worked with an older guy and he always made me feel horrible! And at one point even said to me "I just don't see what it's worth" and the arse has kids of his own!!! Selfish jerk!

    wow, I'm so sorry to hear that! what disgusting behavior, I wish his wife could have heard that crap! so sorry about your job, but hopefully it's an opportunity to enjoy the downtime and rest. if you're looking for a new job, good luck and prayers in your search :)
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    keags5496 said:

     I'd be annoyed too.  I think the biggest thing during pregnancy is to listen to your body.  It sends you lots of clues if you need to relax and only YOU can know when that is.  Do what you have to do and try not to let it bug you.  If it keeps up and its really bothering you maybe you could have a chat about it.

    thank you! yes, my husband tells me all the time to listen to my body and be mindful of how I'm feeling... very good advice
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  • ocmommy2Bocmommy2B member
    edited July 2013
    Kateisoptimistic said:

    That sucks. Some people just don't get it. They have no empathy for pregnant women and show no tact. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I probably would have been upset too. Just ignore it. Do what you can and don't push yourself too hard just for their sakes. Hang in there!

    thank you! <3
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    MoxyByProxy said:

    im sure working on your feet is super hard.. specially with all the different smells of a hair salon! 


    The sad truth is.. people who either have had kids or never have alike.. dont really pity the early pregnant woman much. The general feeling (in my opinion) is that you have a job to do.. do it. 
    I would have probably gotten upset but if you the roles were reversed and it was someone else, you may not have been so offended by her comment. 

    I hope you start to feel better.. the run down feeling and other symptoms of first tri suck! 
    thank you!
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