Figures........

JBDamonM · July 2013

Alarm is set for 645 AM to hit the road for a night away and LO has been up ALL night. Literally - the second I got into bed at 1115, the cries began.
Why am I so pissed? Because we're going on a family trip for my moms 65th bday - one that I graciously opted out of because I wasn't comfortable doing it with a baby, and got guilted into it - and now look; I'm losing my only two days of the week that I can sleep in and nap - and I've been up all night. And I'm sure "tonight" in a hotel will be just as bad if not worse. And I'm sure there is bound to be some arguments with my husband because he can't stand when I admit to people if we had a bad night etc. (yeah sure, says the man sound asleep right now) and he will just give me a hard time all day about being cranky.
I an so ANGRY right now; literally this is exactly why I did not want to go. I feel like I can't catch a break.

And ps - where the heck is this daycare exhaustion everyone talks about? Bc two days in over here and she's been nothing but more awake at night.

Grrrr. Excuse me while I go bang my head against the wall.

ClandestineX · July 2013

Sorry you are having a rough time! Keep your head up and stay strong, the trip won't last forever even though it feels like it.

JBDamonM · July 2013

It won't but it will kill any hopes of a quick recovery from a sleepless night.

What kills me is that I opted out explaining this was too much with a baby and got a huge guilt trip; and look- the only one losing in this equation....... Is me.

ssharaa · July 2013

Here's my unsolicited advice. I know this is for your mother. But you need to STAY HOME! Call and say that you had a rough night and you need to do what YOU feel is best for you and your baby. You will be miserable there and therefore it's not worth your time. Stay home. Be confident and do not let anyone give you grief. I told all of my family long before little one was born that I was going to be making the decisions about my child and that they needed to respect them. You're a mom first now, not a daughter.

JSS1002 · July 2013

OMG. I'm so sorry and I'm angry on your behalf. I am so relieved that DH and I stood firm and told my family that we were not doing any cabin weekends until we got sleep under control -- I so badly miss my parents lake home, but 3 hours each with a screaming infant sounds just horrible (and then a weekend of having to tend to baby while others have fun).

And the part that would make me the maddest if I were you is what you said about your hubs not liking it when you "admit" you've had a rough night. GET OVER IT. Parenthood is hard; it takes a village... even if all the village does is offer sympathy and booze.

JSS1002 · July 2013

kravenmoore said:

ssharaa said:

Here's my unsolicited advice. I know this is for your mother. But you need to STAY HOME! Call and say that you had a rough night and you need to do what YOU feel is best for you and your baby. You will be miserable there and therefore it's not worth your time. Stay home. Be confident and do not let anyone give you grief. I told all of my family long before little one was born that I was going to be making the decisions about my child and that they needed to respect them. You're a mom first now, not a daughter.

I second this. I hope you find time to rest!

I actually third this, even though I know how hard it will be to say no. Offer to take your mom out for a nice dinner, just the two of you, in a few weeks...

kristalg25 · July 2013

JSS1002 said:

kravenmoore said:

ssharaa said:

Here's my unsolicited advice. I know this is for your mother. But you need to STAY HOME! Call and say that you had a rough night and you need to do what YOU feel is best for you and your baby. You will be miserable there and therefore it's not worth your time. Stay home. Be confident and do not let anyone give you grief. I told all of my family long before little one was born that I was going to be making the decisions about my child and that they needed to respect them. You're a mom first now, not a daughter.

I second this. I hope you find time to rest!

I actually third this, even though I know how hard it will be to say no. Offer to take your mom out for a nice dinner, just the two of you, in a few weeks...

All this..

JBDamonM · July 2013

Thanks for the support ladies.

We went - and JSS, your description was pretty much spot on of my past 24 hours. The car ride should be 3 hours, give or take and it took us almost 5 between traffic and stopping. LO lost her shi$ about 2.5 hours in. That the worst. The screaming that ensued was heartbreaking. She did sleep 9 hours straight in her pack and play but frankly it did not make up for the car ride from hel!

I plan on having a chat with my mother. From now on my family needs to reapect my parenting decisions. End of story. I had explained all of this to her about not wanting to go in JANUARY!!!!! And all was well until I got a massive guilt trip a few months ago. Not cool. She's been a total diva about this birthday. Very out of character for her.

As for DH. He's fantastic with LO and does so much. His lack of sympathy over sleepless nights is honestly his one fatherhood flaw. (Although he was more sympathetic than I expected yesterday). Typically he gets up with her in the AM - around 6 or 7 and I go back to bed, which on the weekends means another 3 hours of sleep. Not the case yesterday bc of this trip - but this schedule has worked well for us up until now!

JSS1002 · July 2013

Glad you survived. Definitely talk with your mom. Crying might help her ease up a bit. :-)

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