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This.happened

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edited July 2013 in December 2013 Moms
Saw this betch at a hot air balloon festival last night...she's pregnant, smoking a ciggy, and drinking a coors light. my eyes nearly popped out of their sockets! Some people should just not be allowed to have children.

edited to remove this woman's face. sorry mobile bumping from bed--thought i had posted the cropped version earlier.
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  • frankierokxfrankierokx
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    edited July 2013
    what @NY Mama said.
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  • NY Mama said:
    I get that you are judging her and all which is your prerogative, but it is really crappy of you to post pictures of her on a message board.  You could have just told the story.  No need to post pictures of some woman on a public message board without her permission. 

    I completely agree... Not cool!!! I'd be so pissed if I found out someone posted pics of me on a public Internet forum.
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  • While I agree with the others, you shouldn't have posted this, it is crappy that she's drinking and smoking. But to each their own.
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  • Just wondering how you know this isn't a post partum bump?
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  • this is a good point--could very well be a PP bump.  but she was wearing mat. shorts, coupled with the bump...i assumed that she was currently pregnant.
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    I saw a girl on the boardwalk last weekend in a bikini who was no doubt 8 mos. pregnant. She had henna written across her stomach saying "Coming Soon: Dakota" and she was smoking.
  • Some people also just carry weight in their tummies. I work with a girl who wold get asked if she was pregnant all the time because she always had awkward belly fat.

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  • Skylight21Skylight21
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    This was a little ridiculous. I agree with PP's the story without the picture would have sufficed. Because for all you know she could be a member here...

     

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    I used to work with a woman who always looked 8-9 months pregnant. People would always ask her when she was due... Turns out she has kidney disease and it causes her to retain fluid in abdomen. Guess she should never have a drink in public.

    We should all watch our backs. Never know when the Judgement Police is going to come a'calling.
     
  • Lurking from Oct, but I see a ton of girls everyday who look like that and are not pregnant, and I don't even think those are maternity shorts?? There's no band or elastic to the waist at all.
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  • My first reaction would totally have been judgment. Girl I know never disrupted her daily blunt schedule.But it IS true that one never knows the whole story.

    These things make me angry.

    Note to self: no matter how mad, be careful of posting pix? Lesson learned.
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  • I too, have a friend that carries her weight like that, in her tummy and she is not pregnant. She gets asked if she is, but is not. If this lady is pregnant, that sucks that she is drinking and smoking, but it's her business only. Nobody else's. I would judge her, but not publicly.

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  • I know a lot of chicks that are just fat and look like that. You should not have posted a picture of her online. Now I feel like when I go out in public I have to worry about creeps taking my pictures and sharing them online for people to judge me. Awesome...
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  • That girl is def not pregnant! Just a little round in the tummy. 
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  • I would take the picture of this woman off of this public forum. And I have to agree with some others, she doesn't look definitely pregnant. I mean after I gave birth to my son I walked around looking like I was 5-6 months along for about 2 months.

    I mean I understand what you are saying, I just don't think we need the picture to illustrate it. Please consider removing the picture.
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  • Could be beer gut. Maybe she throws those back a little too often.
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  • JRT512JRT512
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    I have to agree, I don't think she looks pregnant. Looking at her lifestyle choices, I would expect her to have a gut like that. That being said, I can see how if you thought she was pregnant, it would stir up emotions and make you want to post a picture and rant. I wouldn't flame you if you DD'ed
  • I agree that she doesn't definitely look pregnant. Also, as PP have said, putting her picture on here is pretty ridiculous.
    As a side note, a lot of women on here (and everywhere else) drink a glass of wine from time to time, there's nothing different about drinking a beer. Alcohol is alcohol.
    She's not sporting a crack pipe. Being pregnant is hard enough and we're all hard enough on ourselves. You don't know her, you don't know her situation.
    People who live in glass houses and all that stuff...
  • eeesh i guess i should caption this photo "things NOT to do if pregnant...chain smoking and hard-core boozing" without making the assumption that she was pregnant. if she's not and has a medical condition or just likes maternity shorts bc they are comfy than i am definitely in the wrong here. and i do not disagree with a casual glass of wine here and there. i was sitting next to this woman long enough to see her have 2 beers before i moved because her chain smoking was giving me the 2nd-hand black lung.
  • hendsa01 said:
    eeesh i guess i should caption this photo "things NOT to do if pregnant...chain smoking and hard-core boozing" without making the assumption that she was pregnant. if she's not and has a medical condition or just likes maternity shorts bc they are comfy than i am definitely in the wrong here. and i do not disagree with a casual glass of wine here and there. i was sitting next to this woman long enough to see her have 2 beers before i moved because her chain smoking was giving me the 2nd-hand black lung.
    Big whoop? What right do you have to take her picture and caption it at all? I mean really... It's her life! 
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  • I admit I'm having trouble finding sympathy for the privacy violations for the smoking, drinking pregnant lady.  If she is pregnant that is, and like others I'm not sure she is.

    But this lady definitely was.

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  • I just find this post entirely too self righteous. A story would've sufficed, adding the picture went above and beyond inappropriate.
  • Pregnant or not, she definitely should not be smoking that close to the toddler next to her. 

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  • I would post a picture with her face cropped out too. I think it looks like her belly button is poking out so I would say she's pregnant. She deserves to be called out on it, IMHO. I hope she finds this post somehow.

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    I would post a picture with her face cropped out too. I think it looks like her belly button is poking out so I would say she's pregnant. She deserves to be called out on it, IMHO. I hope she finds this post somehow.
    You know what they say about assumptions, right? I don't see that her belly button is poking out, and some people have outies before pregnancy. She just looks a bit overweight and that's it. It's really hard to tell in this photo. Either way, she should not be smoking around that toddler.


    If I'm wrong, then I'm wrong. It's just what I see when I look at the picture.




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  • I must be a judgey bitch when I'm pregnant. Just last weekend, while at Trader Joes, I took a picture of the back of a lady that had a raccoon tail hanging off of her fanny pack. I don't feel the least bit sorry for doing it.

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  • I disagree with those that are saying she is smoking to close to a toddler. She's not holding the toddler! The person making that choice is the woman holding the toddler. Walk away, other mom!
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  • She is clearly wearing maternity shorts, you can see the band when you zoom in.. And for everyone giving her crap for posting the picture.. Ever heard of all these public websites that are extremely popular and show pictures of poorly dressed people at Walmart? I'm sure everyone here has looked and laughed at least once.. And she didn't have a right? Excuse me but I'm pretty sure the Internet is a public forum.. She didn't reveal her identity, she cut out her face. All she did was state her opinion about that woman endangering her unborn child. Leave her alone, since I'm sure all of us have judged another woman at one point or another. I know if I saw the same thing, I'd post a cut off picture too to show the world. There's stuff like that alllll over the net, get over it.
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  • She is clearly wearing maternity shorts, you can see the band when you zoom in.. And for everyone giving her crap for posting the picture.. Ever heard of all these public websites that are extremely popular and show pictures of poorly dressed people at Walmart? I'm sure everyone here has looked and laughed at least once.. And she didn't have a right? Excuse me but I'm pretty sure the Internet is a public forum.. She didn't reveal her identity, she cut out her face. All she did was state her opinion about that woman endangering her unborn child. Leave her alone, since I'm sure all of us have judged another woman at one point or another. I know if I saw the same thing, I'd post a cut off picture too to show the world. There's stuff like that alllll over the net, get over it.

    Actually I do not look at those kinds of websites. As a PP has stated some women wear mat. shorts when they are not pregnant. I'm so done. 
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  • You personally, maybe. Who cares though? People can complain about their doctors and nurses and blah blah blah, but Christ forbid a pregnant woman takes a picture of another *more-than-likely* pregnant person smoking a cigarette and posts about it. My boyfriend is rolling his eyes about everyone's negative reactions and comments because they're all ridiculous. And I'm 100% with him on that. I know more than a few people who have admitted to drinking while pregnant, and smoking, not just cigarettes. And to the person who said something about it not being a crack pipe, what if it were? Would you all give some bullshit excuses for her behavior then too?
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  • Ktrue85 said:

    Just wondering how you know this isn't a post partum bump?

    Maybe just fat too... I hope?!
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  • BuckeyeMommy4BuckeyeMommy4
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    Like I said earlier, if I'm wrong about her being pregnant, then I'm wrong. And if she were to see this and tell me I was wrong, I would own up and apologize. I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong.

    I think we can all agree she shouldn't be smoking and drinking (more than 1) if pregnant. We would all still be judging her for that if it were just a story with no picture.

    The difference of opinion is whether or not OP should have posted her picture. With all of the different websites and forms of social media, people post pictures of everything. As a PP said, the people of Walmart is an example of that. If you think it's wrong, you probably don't look or pay attention to those pictures. Some people find it entertaining and some find it offensive.

    Anyways, I'm done trying to explain myself and my opinions. I hate having animosity between myself and others IRL and on the bump and I apologize if you don't agree with me and decided to take a "bump break" because of it.

    ETA: I mostly mobile bump so sorry for any formatting or grammatical errors.

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  • I think you are an idiot. And even if she was pregnant, you're too much of a coward to confront her and tell her to her face, rather than invading her privacy, posting her pic online and illegally posting slander about someone. You better not do it again.
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  • Loolaide said:

    Setting aside the blatant privacy violations, this post reminds me of the one on first tri where the woman was a bartender and bragged that she refused service to a woman who she thought was pregnant.  That started a shit show too, because you don't just assume someone is pregnant so that you can police her actions.  There are many conditions that can LOOK like pregnancy, and some people just gain weight around their middle.


    There were a some jerks on that post who agreed with the OP too, but thankfully most of the posters realized that you don't treat strangers like you know what's best for them.  

    All of you go on the post it for sanctimommies in training.

    I never saw this thread about the bartender refusing service, so i don't know how ugly it got, but it is actually completely legal to refuse to serve alcohol to a pregnant person, at least in MN, because you could technically argue you are also serving a minor. Not saying that is right to assume someone is pregnant and not sure I would refuse them A drink, but more than one I probably would. Establishments would probably prefer that you don't refuse service just to avoid drama or not lose customers.


  • RanFan28RanFan28
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    I judge you more for being at a hot air balloon festival.




    Okay THAT is funny! I can't believe people are taking bump breaks over this convo...don't go!
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  • Go ahead and take a picture of me...I'm pregnant and I actually have drank in public....ooooooooooo. \m/
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    Thank you @ColeRose for shedding some wisdom here. This thread officially just made my head hurt until @thesportsgal's comment, thank you for that!
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