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CIO is killing me....

jg1011jg1011 member
in November 2012 Moms
I know it works, I know it is needed, but it's killing me!
He went down without a problem at 9:00. Woke at around 11 I think.
So far it's been 5 min, 7 min, 10 min, 10 min (well .....last one is now 14 min as he is so close and calming down. If I go in it will just start him screaming again).  V is stubborn and fighting it. I so just want to go pick him up and snuggle him. 

We all need sleep. I know this is for the best. I know it is, I know it is, I know it is. 

In the meantime, I want to strangle DH who is snoring through this all while I sit here and cry with V. How can he sleep? Doesn't he know he needs to comfort me? grrrrrrrr!
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Re: CIO is killing me....

  • Hummingbirdbaby3Hummingbirdbaby3 member
    Aw hugs mama. I support you. But also, don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable. We kinda did CIO but our own little version. I would give 5 but go in and rock him for a few minutes. Then increase by 5 minutes each time. I got to 20 minutes a few times but I did go in and rock after those crying segments. It worked for us though as LO now STTN and can be put down drowsy.
    But when it comes down to it, you gotta do what you gotta do! And only if you're comfortable. Crack open a bottle of wine??... ;)
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  • fusionbridefusionbride member

    I also thought it helped to set the alarm on my phone for the number of minutes, and mute the monitor while I waited.  Just gotta remember to turn it back on for the next session  : )

    Also, I found it helpful to distinguish between different kinds of cries.  if it was just gentle fussing, we left her.  if it was full out crying, we did the staggered minutes thing.

    It IS worth it.  I felt so liberated once we could just put LO down for the night and not have to spend hours working to get her to fall asleep.  you'll be amazed how much more time you have in your day once this is over!!!


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  • jg1011jg1011 member
    Well....we did it. He slept from about midnight after that fist wake-up till 3:30. At 3:30 I went to him and gave paci, he went right back to sleep. Slept till 7 am.

    Just have to stick with it I guess. Hoping that by Sunday we are much better.
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  • winecastle14winecastle14 member
    Hang in there. It is SO hard and I was the exact same way as you. I cried with O the first couple of nights because I wanted to go snuggle her so badly and DH was downstairs playing video games the first night...I got mad at him because he was acting like it wasn't a big deal AND wasn't there to comfort ME. Ha. 

    It will definitely be worth it in the long run. What made me decide to do the modified CIO and stick with it was that our pedi said that if babies don't learn how to put themselves to sleep then it can turn into life long sleep problems. Sleep is important...for everyone. Good luck! I'm sure it'll only take a couple of nights and I promise you'll be glad you did it. 
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    fusionbride said:

    I also thought it helped to set the alarm on my phone for the number of minutes, and mute the monitor while I waited.  Just gotta remember to turn it back on for the next session  : )

    Also, I found it helpful to distinguish between different kinds of cries.  if it was just gentle fussing, we left her.  if it was full out crying, we did the staggered minutes thing.

    It IS worth it.  I felt so liberated once we could just put LO down for the night and not have to spend hours working to get her to fall asleep.  you'll be amazed how much more time you have in your day once this is over!!!

    I did/do this.  Plus headphones and wine :-)  Wm still isn't a perfect sleeper and sometimes has a harder time going to sleep then others, but overall it is much improved from the 2 hour ordeal we used to have to go through.
    Good luck to you!  
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  • puppy_love6969puppy_love6969 member
    My DH slept the night away while I cried in the living room the first time. I feel your pain. It worked...and life is much better now :)
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  • billybumblerbillybumbler member
    Hang in there, it does work!
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  • 143BabyCakes143BabyCakes member
    @jg1011 how did last night go?



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  • jg1011jg1011 member
    @143Babycakes We did pretty well. Took him about 15 min longer to settle down, but I realized he was spitting paci out to chew on my finger. I gave him Motrin....he's getting his molars and they are kicking his butt!

    He was up at 1:15 just long enough to get paci in. At 5:00 am he was up again...bc DH woke him when kissing him goodbye. Yes, I almost killed DH! He was up for about 15 min only, then slept from 5:15 till 2:30

    Hoping tonight goes just as well! Thanks for checking in!
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