I just have to accept it (vent)

CdnFarmGirl08 · July 2013

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that my child is not a good sleeper. I don't think he ever will be napping 3 hours in the afternoon. I just have to accept the fact and be happy with his 90 minutes of napping in the afternoon and be extra happy if does nap for 40 minutes in the morning. Same with nights. It's ok that he is up 2x a night. I'll have to learn to get things done around the house when he is napping!

I have to smile when my sister once again tells me that her 7 week old baby slept through the night again. She is truly happy for her baby and not trying to be mean or snarky. But I was getting so frustrated.

I woke up today and realized that my baby doesn't have to sleep through the night and is still happy and healthy and that's enough for me.

I was getting really down on myself and in turn was getting very frustrated with my baby when I really shouldn't be. So now I'm going to take what I can get from him and go from there!

He can't be getting up 2x a night forever, it's going to stop by some point! My doctor told me that her 6 year old just started sleeping through the night when she started kindergarten. Every kid is different.

Thanks for listening. This was my way of getting this off my chest and venting!

raashton · July 2013

((HUGS))

You're right, every kid is different and does things in their own time. But it's only human to want their time to look like the timeline you would like.

ct103 · July 2013

Big hugs. You have an amazing attitude, even though I know you are frustrated. When my DD wakes up demanding to be fed or held I think of it as a sign that she's a survivor, and she's making sure her needs get met. It does mean poor sleep for mom though, and that is rough. That 7 week old is the exception, not the norm. My mom just told me that my sister didn't STTN until she was 2.5 years old, but that was just her version of normal. I agree that as long as LO is healthy and happy, you're doing great.

CdnFarmGirl08 · July 2013

Thanks ladies. Right now, I'm sitting blissfully in the silence of my house and being happy that so far he as slept for an hour. And I've gotten my house cleaned and a dessert made for supper (which happens maybe once a year- dessert- not the clean house!)

ProfessorPedals825 · July 2013

Every person, family situation, and baby is different. You're right, it can't go on forever. He's happy and healthy, and that's what matters most. Good job sweetie! ((HUGS))

CdnFarmGirl08 · July 2013

90 minutes on the dot...smiling and happy and waiting for mommy to pick him up.

tetiananina · July 2013

Sending you lots of hugs. DS still wakes up every 3 hours or so now out of habit. He will be 8 months tomorrow. I know one day he will eventually get there. I agree with you on hearing younger kids sleep through the night but every baby is different. DS isn't a great napper either.

ikissedthecook · July 2013

It's very frustrating when your LO doesn't sleep well, and that's okay too! You are right with all you said though. And we're here if you need I vent. I just had a sleep discussion with my pedi so I feel your pain! Hang in there mama. This too shall pass.

FreyaWin2382 · July 2013

I know it's frustrating....my little dude at six months is a certified "cat napper". He will take 20-30 minute naps throughout the day and then still wakes up once (or twice) at night. Like you it used to stress me out....I would blame myself that I was doing something wrong. I would put him in his crib, rock him, shut the entire house down to try and get him to take a longer nap....and you know what? No matter what I did, he would wake up about a half an hour later. It began to stress me, and him, out when I finally realized that this was just him. And he is a happy, healthy little guy. My cousin sent me this article a few weeks ago and it really helped me to just accept that Wyatt is going to be Wyatt.

https://blogs.babycenter.com/mom_stories/my-baby-doesnt-sleep-all-night-and-its-okay/

damabo80 · July 2013

I'm on mobile so I can't see how old he is, but eventually he will sleep. Around 1416m DD started sttn.

My 10m old has slept for 6 hours in a row a handful of times. But his MO is 13 times up each night. I feel refreshed when it's only once. He'll get there.

katigox · July 2013

Keep up the positive attitude But feel free to vent anytime!

You're right, every kid is different, and they frequently like to change it up on us all.the.time to keep us on our toes ;D

But in all seriousness, I hope we can all get even a *bit* more sleep soonish!

[Deleted User] · July 2013

I agree with PP he will get there. In the meantime its okay to vent!

adoxyinherear · July 2013

I am right there with you, mama. My 11 month old still doesn't sleep through the night, and her naps are all over the place. But she's the happiest baby I know, seriously, and we do what we gotta do. *hugs* It's so hard sometimes to remember that they're all different and they have different needs!

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