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Trusting others to care for LO
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Last week nanny called in sick. SIL was able to keep my 10 month old LO for the day, but had an afternoon appointment so dropped LO off at step MIL's for an hour. When SIL returned, SMIL was laying on the floor asleep! She had the stairs blocked off, but nearby doors to bathroom and other rooms were wide open. SIL started packing LO up, and SMIL awoke 10 minutes later, and acted nonchalant. Also, LO had gum stuck to his leg, and there was gum out within his reach.
I am so furious. LO is extremely mobile and puts everything in his mouth, and this was very clear to SMIL. He could have been seriously hurt or worse.
Obviously SMIL is not being left alone with LO again, but I am struggling with the thought of even leaving him with SMIL and FIL together.
Would you say something? Would you leave LO alone with SMIL if FIL was also going to be there? And how do you figure out who can be trusted to watch your LO? Obviously I would not have left him with her if I had known that would happen, so now I am struggling with how to decide who to trust.
I am so furious. LO is extremely mobile and puts everything in his mouth, and this was very clear to SMIL. He could have been seriously hurt or worse.
Obviously SMIL is not being left alone with LO again, but I am struggling with the thought of even leaving him with SMIL and FIL together.
Would you say something? Would you leave LO alone with SMIL if FIL was also going to be there? And how do you figure out who can be trusted to watch your LO? Obviously I would not have left him with her if I had known that would happen, so now I am struggling with how to decide who to trust.
BFP #1: 2/14/11. EDD: 10/20/11. Missed m/c discovered in April at 12 weeks, d&c.
BFP #2: 12/27/11. EDD: 9/9/2012.
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Re: Trusting others to care for LO
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
Do you feel comfotable having a conversation with your SMIL about what happened? It doesn't have to be overly accusatory, but just tell her SIL let you know that she had fallen asleep while watching LO and you're concerned because LO is into so much stuff right now, even when he's in "safe" areas, you still have to watch him like a hawk. I think it's worth pointing out to her. It was totally unacceptable.
In terms of leaving LO with her and your FIL, I think it depends on who is going to be "in charge" when watching LO. For example, I trust both my parents together to watch DS, but I know my mom is in charge and knows what to do and what not to do. My dad is there for extra hands and to have fun with DS (although I do believe he would take his safety very seriously; he's just not as used to caring for babies.) If your FIL is going to defer to SMIL, that would make me think twice about leaving LO with both of them.
I think we do need to talk to them. My biggest concern was not wanting to 'out' SIL for telling me that SMIL was sleeping.