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Feeling guilty - anyone else?

CrequitoCrequito member
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The past 2 weeks I've worked M-F then had events with DH on Saturdays where DD wasn't allowed/able to attend so she stayed with her grandparents.  I am the first to say I am sooo lucky to have my mom and MIL available to do our daycare right now - they're free, I completely trust them, and Vici is getting some great quality time with her grandmothers.  But I feel like in the past 2 weeks I've barely spent any time with her.  I usually get to do her first feeding and her last feeding and bedtime routine on workdays.  2 days last week I had to travel for work and when I got home I felt like she'd gotten so big in that short amount of time!  I love my job and we could never afford to live without my paycheck, I'm just feeling guilty for the small amount of time I feel I get with DD.  Oh well . . .

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  • RN2011RN2011 member
    I feel the same way.  I also work M-F and I feel like I'm always on the go.  I get up get ready, get her up and ready, and drop her of to my mom (my mom stays with her so I'm lucky on that aspect too) then by the time I pick her up, it's dinner for us, bath time for her, a bottle and she's asleep.  Some weeks  I feel like I never really spend time with her but other times I try to not really think about it and spend all my time with her on the weekends.  The life of a working mommy!
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  • kgs0505kgs0505 member

    Sucks doesn't it?  The only thing I can tell you is, if it wasn't this making you feel guilty, it would be something else.  Motherhood = guilty feelings all the time about everything!

    I do know however, that I am a better mother for working.  It's hard, but I really need to get out of the house without kids and go be a grown-up.  Being home all weekend with 3 kids is really tough and sometimes overwhelming.  I do okay, and I enjoy every minute, but if that was my life every single day, I'd go absolutely nuts!

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  • hrhone328hrhone328 member
    Yup. This is me the last couple of weeks and I'm definitely not dealing with it that well. :( I know I'm doing the right thing by working, but it has been a really hard transition back to work. And I feel like when I'm here, all I think about is DD!
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  • RibbitGrl930RibbitGrl930 member
    Yeah, I feel you. I've been taking graduate school courses for the past 6 weeks (today's the last day- HOORAY!), so not only have I been out of town 3 days a week, but the days I've been home have been spent doing schoolwork. Luckily it's about over so I get my time back with my little monkey.  :)
     
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  • MrsG071809MrsG071809 member
    edited July 2013
    hrhone328 said:
    And I feel like when I'm here, all I think about is DD!
    This is me too!  I have her picture as my desktop background (ok, and all over my desk too :) ) and all day I look at it and think how much I miss her.
    BUT, I think this makes me value our time together more.  I love coming home and feeding her and getting to snuggle.  Also on the weekends I find myself way less worried about getting things done and just enjoying hanging out with her.
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