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    I am 35 wks and even tho this is not my first baby...i am afraid..lol my boyfriend of 4 yrs. hasn't been around this is his first baby and it is a boy...but he left me alone he never goes to any of my apointments and he..never picks up his phone..he calls me drunk..tells me he loves me and he wants to see his baby be born..i feel so abandoned that i dont even want him in the delivery room my doctor says he is afraid give him a chance..but i dont feel like i should.
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    If he hasn't been there for you threw the past weeks, then don't let him.  I know it is hard. Do you have any family members or great friends that would go with you? You don't need the stress.

    This is my 3 child. My husband hasn't went to the appointments because he works and can't get off. He is my support group when I need something.

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    I feel for you.  I went through all that.  The father showed up at the last minute for the birth and never came around again.  Ten years later I have still tried to make him care for my daughter.  He wont change.  I know it hurts but you have to let him go.   Let him visit the baby after he's born.  It was his choice to miss out on this baby, not yours.  Its not your fault. 

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    I think some cognitive thinking will help you make the best decisions for you and your baby. Regardless of how you feel about this guy, and the way he has treated you . . . Is he capable of providing a healthy and supportive relationship to his son?Will he make a whole, and complete role model for his son? Also take legal matters now, and make sure you have complete guardianship of your little guy, in the future mabey things will change, but for now focus on the positive: the wonderful little man your going to raise, and love! Also listen to your instincts, they are maternal, strong, and right. If you feel that man doesn't belong in the delivery room, stress that to your support people, and let the hospital know that you feel he is a threat. As the patient you have rights, he has nothing not even a paternity test to claim his son. Hospital security will make sure only the people you feel safe and comfortable with during the delivery are allowed to see you and yours. Also let him know he has an oppertunity to be there for the last count down weeks, if he can make his baby appointments with you, lunch date included, shower your little man with baby gifts, and make sure to give you some good back and foot rubs, he may still have a shot at being included in the delivery. That way the outcome is up to him, not you . . . and you won't have to feel like your being a 35 week pregnant biatch. The guy sounds mega immature.
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    That's really a decision you should make for yourself, no matter how hard it is. My ex wasn't very supportive during my whole first trimester, stayed out all night at the bar, and even went home with other women. He made such a fuss over how he was going to do better, and that he loved me and was so excited for "our" baby. As far as I was concerned, he'd abandoned me from the beginning, so I left him and I moved back home. I've given my midwife instruction to keep him out of the hospital, should he decide to show up uninvited. 

    My mother has been my "partner" through the rest of the pregnancy. She's been my main emotional support, and has gone to all of the doctor visits with me. She'll also be attending my birthing classes with me, and will be in the delivery room when the baby decides to make her debut.

    Like I said, though, this is your decision. Do you feel like you should give him a chance? Do you feel like you can do it without him? When it comes right down to it, you'll know for sure. I wish you the best of luck, mama.  

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    hello i am in the week 35, i am so excited to see my baby girl but these last weeks are longer, my belly skin is in constant pain, i have some stretchs marks  which make me feel depress sometimes, but i thank God anyway cause i am healthy and my baby too.

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    i agree...this is my third...first girl...and to me it seems the longest preg so far..lol...i have been more sick with her than my 2 boys...but we are both healthy...am excited to see her...but then nervous..how am i gonna do 3....2 drive me nuts sometimes...lol...any names picked out?

    Melinda

    we are gonna do emily marie...

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    I'm 35 weeks now, as well, and am super excited to meet my new little one! We have decided not to find out if it's a girl or a boy, so my husband and I are getting pretty impatient, lol!!  I feel HUGE and just putting socks on is a big adventure! We're sure hoping baby decides to join us earlier than the expected due date of January 20th!

    If it's a girl we've chosen the name Michaela Hope and for a boy Owen Edmond. :o)

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    Well if there wasnt much of a countdown going on before there really is now. i am purely misrable and so ready to meet my baby girl. the tightness and pains in my belly is no fun and i could really do without them. at least in the end when i see her face it will make it all worth it.
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    Hi all!  I am 35 weeks today and sooo ready to meet our little girl!  This is our first child but I feel like I have been very luck this far!  No stretch marks or morning sickness!!!  I do however have to pee constantly, my feet and ankles have just started to swell a little bit this past week by the end of the day and I pretty much am useless after 7ish :).  

    The hardest part right now is figuring out how to organize everything in her room.  I want things to be in a convenient spot and there are so many little things to put away!

    Her name will be Charly Elise :o

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    imageBump Kathleen:
    Welcome to Week 35 of your pregnancy! Chat with other Week 35 Bumpies here.

    my opinion on this, is that the begining of a babys life isnt when their born. its when they r concieved, when u hear a heart beat, when u feel it kicking, when u see him/her on the US. men like this piss me off! im pissed at my own babys father because he wont even put his hand on my stomach to feel his daughter move! and im 35 weeks so not only can u feel her move, u can see it!!! i keep telling him if he doesnt get involved w/ OUR pregnancy, he'll be lucky if i even let his ass in the delivery room! i dont think i, personally, would even tell ur bf when ur in labor. and when he wants to get mad about it, i would simply respond with this... "U DIDNT WANT ANYTHING TO DO W/ OUR BABY WHEN SHE WAS GROWING IN MY BODY! WHYS IT SO IMPORTANT TO U NOW?!" im sorry. im in a grouchy mood today. but u dont deserve to go thru this alone. men like this (meaning urs and mine) give men in general a bad name. all i want from mine is a little freaking support, and to acknowladge the fact that his daughter is right here! right now! just bc u can only feel her thru me, doesnt make her less here. am i crazy and hormonal, or is this a reasonable excuse to be angry?

    pdw1980
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    I can't believe Brynlee will make her debut in 5 weeks or less. I am just so thrilled and excited to see her face and to hold her! I am feeling the pregnancy now more than ever. My whole body is just so tired and my poor feet and legs swell so easily now even though I keep my feet up and am not on them ALL day.

     

    The only thing that makes me nervous of delivery is having a doctor other than the one I have been going to for the past 9 months. She does not work weekends. I am trying to decide if I would like to schedule her a few days before her due date so that we can keep our regular doctor that we have been dealing with. 

     

    SO EXCITED 

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    HI! I am 35 weeks and went to the dr yesterday and she said I am already almost 2 cm dilated, my cervix is soft but still thick. This is my first baby so I really dont understand what it means when she says my cervix is thick. I went into labor at 26 weeks and have been on bed rest ever since :( I always have so many questions I want to ask when I go to the dr but by the time I get there I forget to ask everything I wanted to ask so I end up coming home with all the same questions and confusions. So if anyone can help me answer my big question for this week .. I understand what it means when the dr says I am dilated but what does she mean when she says my cervix is still thick but it is soft .. Let me just add I went to the hospital Thursday night with contractions and they gave me a shot to stop them because I was not dilated, then when I went to the dr yesterday I was dilated I had been having contractions all weekend and they still havent stopped does anyone think I could go into labor soon.
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    Many men are fearful of fatherhood... You know what is best for you. Whether or not you give him another chance is up tp you. Be cautious and sure that it is not out of spite.. If you know in your heart that he is not going to be there then do not put yourself throught the anxieties... your baby will feel it more than you...

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    35 Weeks Yes!! My son will be here soon!
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    35 weeks today. My son must be excited as well because he is moving around a lot. 
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    Only a few weeks left and so much still to do!  I haven't even made a birth plan yet and the nursery is yet to be put together.  Take one day at a time I guess.
    BabyFetus Ticker
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    oh my goodness i am becoming overwhelmed with excitement! i can't wait to meet my baby girl. I go on maternity leave next week and can finally start on the nursery (hopefully...) my cousin has been staying with us for the past few months. what was supposed to be 1 month has turned into 4 so my husband and i haven't had a chance to put the crib together, paint the room, or put any of her things away from my baby shower. it is really starting to stress me out! 
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    I am going through a similar situation with the father of my unborn daughter. It is hard when you feel that you have no support what so ever and that you are alone in this pregnancy. But be strong, you are bringing a new and wonderful life into the world and you want him to arrive here with love and peace. If the father drinks and gets drunk that can disrupt the peace and tranquil atmosphere in the delivery room and cause you stress. You have to think about what is now best for you and the baby. Tell him that if he wants to be there to see his son born, he must first clean up his act. And remember you can always have the support of the hospital staff during your delivery. If the father of your child is drunk when he arrives or you start feeling as if he is stressing you out, have the doctor or nurse call some one to escort him out. Good luck and have a happy healthy delivery and baby.
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    pdw 1980: To answer your question: Hell yes it is a reasonable excuse to be angry! Why has is become a common thing for men to make babies with us and then decide to leave or not to be supportive? Do they think that is where their responsibility ends? I agree with you, being a father starts at conception, but these men are idiots, they think that the baby has to be born before they start kicking in as a father. Do we as women have that option? Hell no!!! We sacrifice a lot to make sure that our babies arrive into the world safe and healthy. We have to start thinking and being mothers right at conception, so why should men have it so easy? Then we come off looking, acting and sounding bitter, because we want nothing to do with the deadbeat, but we are not bitter damnit.....WE ARE ANGRY! I really felt your comment and just had to reply. I pray things work out for you and your little one and I wish you the best with the father.
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    We are waiting to find out the sex for our lo too. I have a lot of amniotic fluid, so much in fact that strangers and family alike are asking in disbelief if I am having twins... I miss my cute little bump, but I can proudly say I only waddle in the most extreme of circumstances. 5 more weeks ladies!
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    Im sorry that you are going through this I know the feeling all too well. Sadly alot of women do. Its such an unfair feeling I would never wish that feeling on my worst enemy. When I was pregnant with my first daughter my boyfriend was horrible I told him that he wasnt allowed in the delivery room but we ended up making up right before she was born. but one thing I did stick with is not giving her his last name. He helped "make" her but I was the one who did the pregnancy alone. He didnt deserve to pass on his last name she was mine. If you dont want him in the room dont let him! its your baby at the end of the day you made him and you dont get to choose when you want to be a mom. he shouldnt get to choose when he wants to be a dad. Good Luck Hun!

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    Unfortunately, he probably won't change. My daughters father was the same way when I was pregnant and hasn't hanged I the last almost 7 years. It's your decision whether you want him there when the baby is born, and you never know. Maybe seeing his child born could change how he feels about being there more. I would just prepare for the worst, and make sure he is sober when you call to telli honing you're in labor. If he's not, I wouldn't have him visit the hospital until after baby is born. It's tough doing it on your own, but not impossible. Good luck!
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    I agree you should be with the ones that love you and you do not need to have any stress in the delivery room.   Have your mom or anyone else who will put you first.  This is a happy occasion and you do not need to wonder or worry about this man, asking yourself if he will show up.   Just breathe and think of you and the baby and let the new life come to you.   Good luck and I hope everything comes out wonderful for you.  
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    I know what you are saying and I cannot believe that week 35 is here.  Christmas time it seemed a long way off and now Easter is this Sunday and it will be 36 week time.   I have 2 boys already and I am hoping for a girl but we did not want to know so we are trying to be patient to see what happens.   I thought by not asking that maybe a girl would show up!   We are starting to put the nursery together by using the same crib and changing table but I have no theme as of yet.  I want to see what happens.   The things from the baby shower is still in the baby's closet still packed into boxes as I am not sure what I will be keeping or exchanging cos my family and friends decided to buy for a girl not a boy!  So if it is a girl most of the things are there but if it is a boy then we will be making trips back to the store!  Good luck with you and hopefully April will fly by. 

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    You are probaby better off not counting down the days.   Find something you really like and do something different each day.    I am off from work until September I took a leave of absence and used most of my vacation days to stretch the time out.    One of the things I wanted to do before the baby came was to catch up on some of my reading of books, watching TV shows that I DVR like Castle, The Good Wife, Hawaii 50, etc and some series like The Bible and some interesting stories on the History Channel.   So this will keep me busy also now that the weather is getting a little nicer I am making my self walk around the park a few times and enjoying the kids before the baby comes.   I am also looking in the cooking books or online and trying to make a new recipe each day for dinner anything new will keep my mind off of the prenancy.  Catching a phone call to one of my friends every other day too helps.  Good luck.
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    Oh what a pretty name.  I have a neighbor who named her baby girl Charly.  She is now 1 year old and the name really fits her.   You are lucky that you have no stretch marks and morning sickness did stay with me up to 7 months!   As far as the peeing is thats all I do!   Yes 7 oclock is the bewitching hour.   I want to go to bed and the kids are wide awake!   My husband has been good and is staying with them knowing I am in la la land.   Use your tupperwear (glad) for all those little things that what I do know that I prefer glass containers for my food storagge.  Hang in there you are almost there!  Good Luck.
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    Hi I wanted to tell you that I'm praying for you. I know exactly how you feel. My husband is a recovering addict. He relapsed recently and stayed gone all night 3 weekends in a row and is missing work. It is causing me unnecessary stress. On top of it this is the week that I lost my last baby Luke due to a cord issue. I think he is going through grief and dealing with it his way which I could criticize but that doesn't help. I feel better when I stay calm and pray and find my peace in God. I know that may sound like an enabler or a weak person, but it is the best option I really have because I can't change someone no matter how hard I try. Reading the Bible and praying gives me great comfort and that is what is best for me and the baby. I wish you all the best. Laura
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