Baby Shower Blues

Niccidg1983 · July 2013

I work in a place where we have banquet hall facilities..... I plan to have my baby shower there and I'd like to invite of my some co workers. Do I have to choose between inviting everyone or no one? I don't want anyone to be offended and I also don't want people I barely interact with to feel like I am just trying to receive a gift. The saff is only 15 people.

HELP!

ranaverde · July 2013

I think if you're having it at work, you'd have to invite everyone. If you only want to invite some people, hold it elsewhere.

The bigger question, though, is why you're hosting your own shower. That's not considered polite, so be aware you're going to get a lot of comments about that.

Niccidg1983 · July 2013

I am not hosting it the grandmother and my best friend are but i still have to put together a guest list and since I work her I made the arrangements. But other than that I am hands off.

It is being held on a Saturday when everyone is off. But even if I wasn't having it at my job and it was being held in another place would it be appropriate to invite some and not others?

brideandbreve · July 2013

Niccidg1983:
t is being held on a Saturday when everyone is off. But even if I wasn't having it at my job and it was being held in another place would it be appropriate to invite some and not others?

Do all 15 members of the staff work in the same location? Do you interact with the majority of them, or all of them at some point or another?

My advice to you would be to invite everyone.

When I had to give my hosts a guest list for my shower, I was a relatively new employee at my office, and we had 2 locations. I didn't know the vast majority of the staff who worked at the other location (because I was never there), so I only included the 2 people in our location that I worked with every day and interacted with in my guest list. It worked out fine.

However, if you want to try and avoid hurt feelings, your best bet would be to include everyone, and then people who don't want to come will just.. not come.

alexisjo88 · July 2013

Budget permitting I would invite everyone. If some of the rather not so close members of the company think that it is gift grabby, they can just not come. It's an invitation, not a mandatory event.

babymama619 · July 2013

alexisjo88:
Budget permitting I would invite everyone. If some of the rather not so close members of the company think that it is gift grabby, they can just not come. It's an invitation, not a mandatory event.

I agree. But my only question is how many of the 15 would you invite otherwise, 2, or 8? If 2 I think you can just invite them. If 8, then you should invite everyone.

SoMoNY · July 2013

15 isn't a lot of folks so I'd invite them all.

Some will decline because they might have to work, no? Others might decline if they feel like they don;t know you well enough so not like all 15 will attend.

BSnipes35 · July 2013

I think people are a little confused. I'm reading this as she has like 200 people in the BUILDING but only 15 are her staff members, meaning there are only 15 out of the 200 (I just made that number up) that she really knows. I had this situation with DS1. I worked at the School of Medicine at a very large university. We had 250 employees, but I did not "know" every single one of them. So, my shower hosts sent invites to the people on the list I created. People I felt like I really knew. As the date got a little closer, an email was sent out by one host (who was also a coworker) just letting everyone know "Baby Shower for BSnipes on XXX in XXX room". So, it was more like an announcement, than a true invite. Not all 250 employees showed up, and I was expecting that. But, honestly, since it is a family shower and not a work shower, I would say just invite your friends.

PrimRoseMama · July 2013

Um, you aren't supposed to plan your own baby shower. It looks gift grabby to do that at all. Someone else is supposed to throw it for you. If you are worried about being offensive and looking gift grabby then don't throw your own shower at all.

edit: Saw your other posts. Invite all the coworkers if you are having it hosted at your work place. Otherwise word will get around and it can create tensions. Its an all or none type thing.

ranaverde · July 2013

Niccidg1983:
I am not hosting it the grandmother and my best friend are but i still have to put together a guest list and since I work her I made the arrangements. But other than that I am hands off.

It is being held on a Saturday when everyone is off. But even if I wasn't having it at my job and it was being held in another place would it be appropriate to invite some and not others?

Ah, thanks for the clarification!

Personally, having been invited to work showers for people I didn't know very well (which was awkward), I wouldn't have a problem with just choosing a few people. But it would very much depend on your workplace. Do the other employees already know that you're close to some of them, but not everyone? Would anyone be hurt if they were left out? What's likely to happen if people talk about the shower at work afterward?

Basically, can you make the case that the people you've invited are friends in a way your other co-workers are not, and have them be okay with it? If so, then I think you could only invite the people you're close to. If not, you're kinda stuck inviting everyone, I think.

tesskerr · July 2013

I work in a hair salon of 14 staff. All the girls are always invited to showers. Usually half attend, the ones who are not so close just don't go.

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