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ANDOPANO6
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Husband reaction to gender
ANDOPANO6
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Hey ladies,
Dropping by from PAIF. So, I'm curious if anyone's husbands seemed a little less enthused once they found out they were having a girl? I know this sounds terrible, but I feel like he'd be floating on cloud 9 if it was a boy. But he's kinda sadly withdrawn right now, which makes me sad cause I'm so excited were having a girl. Anyone else experience this with DH and did he come around?
Thanks!
Dropping by from PAIF. So, I'm curious if anyone's husbands seemed a little less enthused once they found out they were having a girl? I know this sounds terrible, but I feel like he'd be floating on cloud 9 if it was a boy. But he's kinda sadly withdrawn right now, which makes me sad cause I'm so excited were having a girl. Anyone else experience this with DH and did he come around?
Thanks!
TTC Since 6/12
regular periods with annovulation
DH S/A healthy
Hormones normal-all unexplained IF currently
10/12 50mg of clomid-no response-BFN
11/12 100mg of clomid-1 mature follicle-IUI #1=BFN
12/8/12 clear HSG
12/12 100mg of clomid-2 mature follicles-IUI #2=BFN
1/13 5mg femara un-monitored TI, BFN
2/13 7.5mg femara 2 mature follicles, IUI#3 BFN
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Re: Husband reaction to gender
IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
beta #2 11/28 = 2055
Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!
Thanks for sharing your experience and for the well wishes! I bet your little girl is fun!
I think my husband was a bit nervous when we found out we were having a girl. He grew up with no sisters and has like no experience with female children lol. Maybe talk with him and see how he's feeling. Maybe he's afraid to say anything to you b/c you are so excited.
Also, for the most part guys come around A LOT more after the baby is born. It's sometimes hard for them to connect cuz they aren't experiencing the pregnancy like we are.
My husband now can't imagine not having a girl. He is just in love with her so much. And he is actually happy we had a girl and not a boy.
Oct 2011~Second round clomid 50 mg; BFN
Nov 2011~Third round clomid 50 mg: BFP
Dec 11- Beta #1 91;Dec 13- Beta #2 186.2
Dec 27- third miscarriage
May 25th- Beta #1 369;May 27th- Beta #2 798
Baby girl born Jan 23, 9lbs 3oz, 21 1/2" long
May 27th-Beta #1 80; May 29th- Beta #2 304; May 31st- Beta #3 860
I've heard this from many moms of little girls about their husbands. I'm sure mine will be the same. I'm sure out little girl will have him wrapped.
My husband couldn't have cared less. Actually, sometimes I feel like he is more connected to our daughter than to our son but I think that has everything to do with the fact that our daughter is 2.5 and ob-sessed with him. She is a total daddy's girl and our son is only 13 months so he isn't quite there yet. I'm sure when he starts talking and stuff they will have the same connection as the one him and my daughter share.
With everything that could go wrong during a pregnancy/birth, I'm sure that eventually he will realize all that really matters is a healthy baby. Plus once he holds that baby girl, he won't be distant anymore. She will forever steal his heart.
My husband always said he wanted a boy. When we found out she was going to be a girl, he gave no reaction (in fact he was on his cell phone taking care of work stuff during the ultrasound...sigh). Then, when we started shopping for her, he was always picking up boy stuff (clothing, toys, etc). It drove me crazy--not that id mind. dressing her in blue and letting her play with stuffed animals that look like blue monsters, but he seemed in denial. The other day we were sitting on the couch and he said, "I'm so glad we had a girl. Its what i was hoping for."
Me: 35 DH: 30 TTC since 1/2010 DX: 6/15/2011: MFI IVF with ICSI
IVF #1: Sept 2011: Beta 10/10- BFP!! 1st u/s 10/31/11 1 blighted ovum, 1 embryo 2nd u/s 11/14/11 stopped growing, no h/b D/C 11/17/11
IVF #2: FET 5/4/12 : Beta 5/16/12 BFN
IVF #3: ET 7/6/12 : 7/18 Beta #1 BFP at 246, 7/20 Beta #2 at 713, 7/27 Beta #3 at 9068. 1st u/s 8/7 with one lovely hb.
Mabel is here! 2/17/13!
However, the morning my water broke DH had a dream that J arrived and she was a girl. So the whole labor he "knew", which made him thrilled to be right.
I'm sure your hubby will come around. It might not be until after she arrives, so cut him some slack. I think for guys, the boy child first is the equivalent of how little girls dream of their wedding. Good luck!
Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!!
It's funny because I have the opposite of most husbands. He really wanted a girl and I could only see myself with a boy, and felt like G was a boy all along. I wouldn't say he was upset when he found out it was a boy, but now that we are trying for #2, he is always calling that future maybe a girl.
I am sure your husband will come around, especially once baby is here. We feel an immediate connection because we carry the baby for 10 months, but Dads get that connection once they arrive
TTC #2
DH was convinced we were having a boy. When DD was born he was thrilled that she was a girl. If it was up to him alone we would be OAD because he now only wants girls. He says he's terrified to be a boy Dad.
Give him some time, it takes a little while to have your world rocked.
Me (32) DH (30)
A Wordy Blog
Baby Evangeline is here!
this was my DH. He even went so far to say " I don't know why we're even going to the anatomy scan; they're just going to tell us it's a girl.." Hahaha! Joke was on him when they said boy!!!
We had two boys first, and we were team green with our first child so we didn't have any reactions before we met him. We all (DH, DS1, and me all hoped for a girl this time around. I'm very surprised at DH's reaction to her, he treats her differently than the boys to some degree. Not necessarily in a bad way, but she definitely already has him wrapped around her little finger.
I'm sure your H will come around. I wasn't disappointed when DS2 was a boy, because I always wanted boy-girl-boy, but I did begin to fret about how could get a daughter next. It isn't that I love my sons less than if they were daughters, but that I wanted the opportunity to parent both. Maybe give him a little time to process that his hope for a son isn't a reality yet but the pleasure of a daughter is.
I did not have this situation, but I do have a friend who she said that they day they found out they were having a girl was the worst day of her marriage...her DH wanted a boy that bad. And then they had another girl. Even her DH came around...and he has a little tomboy, too.
I think he will come around and he will love that little girl like crazy. I always wanted a girl, but I love my little boy like crazy and now I think boys are better than girls...j/k...sort of.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge: