The drs made a big mistake

Springmommy2013 · July 2013

After a month on bedrest in the hospital, My niece gave birth to twins yesterday, one for heaven and one for earth : we knew for a month now that one of her babies would be born sleeping we were told it was a baby girl, we mourned her, we prepared for her funeral, we spoke to her in the stars. We then started to prepare for a baby boy, we talked to him, rubbed him in the belly, bought for him, loved him, and named him! Well when they came out yesterday her baby girl was breathing and crying and her son was not. We are left with many emotions and heavy hearts, and wondering how does a group of ultrasound techs make such a huge mistake and why no none figured it out as she had several ultrasounds in the past month. My only conclusion is that it was the ultimate sacrifice that a brother could give to his sister :

shandorfml2 · July 2013

I'm sorry for your loss, though I'm not really sure how to respond to your post honestly. I'm sorry one of the babies died, that's horrible. I feel she should be happy to have one living child, no matter which sex it was, as many of us on here don't. I am truley sorry for the loss. ((hugs)))

princezjk · July 2013

shandorfml2:
I'm sorry for your loss, though I'm not really sure how to respond to your post honestly. I'm sorry one of the babies died, that's horrible. I feel she should be happy to have one living child, no matter which sex it was, as many of us on here don't. I am truley sorry for the loss. ((hugs)))

i think this is perfectly stated, Shandorfml2. (((Hugs)))

Xath · July 2013

I am so so sorry for your loss. It must be so difficult to be happy and excited for the birth of one child, while simultaneously mourning the loss of another. This will be an incredibly bittersweet time for your family, especially your niece. Please know that my thoughts and support are with you.

I have friends who lost one twin, and the birthdays/anniversaries and milestones are always difficult. It's hard for them to be excited for the child they have, while mourning what they are missing with the other. My only advice to you is to keep on supporting your family, and thanking your little baby boy for taking care of his sister. She'll always have a guardian angel looking out for her.

Springmommy2013 · July 2013

She and the rest of us feel blessed to have a precious girl, it really is not about the sex as much as it is for the unexpected loss, I feel for anyone who has had a loss as all are painful. As another poster said what is difficult for us is to share both feelings and to add to it, my niece will grieve twice, imagine hearing twice in the same month that the child you were expecting had passed. She is feeling blessed at the moment but she has the right to still be considered a mother who has lost a child

Springmommy2013 · July 2013

gertiebarden:
I am so so sorry for your loss. nbsp;It must be so difficult to be happy and excited for the birth of one child, while simultaneously mourning the loss of another. nbsp;This will be an incredibly bittersweet time for your family, especially your niece. nbsp;Please know that my thoughts and support are with you.I have friends who lost one twin, and the birthdays/anniversaries and milestones are always difficult. nbsp;It's hard for them to be excited for the child they have, while mourning what they are missing with the other. nbsp;My only advice to you is to keep on supporting your family, and thanking your little baby boy for taking care of his sister. nbsp;She'll always have a guardian angel looking out for her. nbsp;nbsp;

Thank you

Dixon813 · July 2013

gertiebarden:
I am so so sorry for your loss. It must be so difficult to be happy and excited for the birth of one child, while simultaneously mourning the loss of another. This will be an incredibly bittersweet time for your family, especially your niece. Please know that my thoughts and support are with you.
I have friends who lost one twin, and the birthdays/anniversaries and milestones are always difficult. It's hard for them to be excited for the child they have, while mourning what they are missing with the other. My only advice to you is to keep on supporting your family, and thanking your little baby boy for taking care of his sister. She'll always have a guardian angel looking out for her.

So well said - I'm very sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family.

PerkyErky · July 2013

:::ticker warning:::

Springmommy2013:
She and the rest of us feel blessed to have a precious girl, it really is not about the sex as much as it is for the unexpected loss, I feel for anyone who has had a loss as all are painful. As another poster said what is difficult for us is to share both feelings and to add to it, my niece will grieve twice, imagine hearing twice in the same month that the child you were expecting had passed. She is feeling blessed at the moment but she has the right to still be considered a mother who has lost a child

Of course she has the right be considered a mother who lost a child. She did lose a child. No one here is saying she is not a loss mom, because she most definitely is.

The following weeks and months etc are going to be hard for her as she grieves the loss of one child while celebrating the survival of the other.

Wishing her lots of strength and support.

Mjmksb04 · July 2013

Springmommy2013:
She and the rest of us feel blessed to have a precious girl, it really is not about the sex as much as it is for the unexpected loss, I feel for anyone who has had a loss as all are painful. As another poster said what is difficult for us is to share both feelings and to add to it, my niece will grieve twice, imagine hearing twice in the same month that the child you were expecting had passed. She is feeling blessed at the moment but she has the right to still be considered a mother who has lost a child

Um, okay? I am truly sorry for your niece's loss. I didn't see anyone not saying she didn't have the right to be a loss mom, of course she is! I am not really understanding the point of your posts.

OSUWifey09 · July 2013

***SIGGY WARNING***

PerkyErky:

Of course she has the right be considered a mother who lost a child. She did lose a child. No one here is saying she is not a loss mom, because she most definitely is.
The following weeks and months etc are going to be hard for her as she grieves the loss of one child while celebrating the survival of the other.
Wishing her lots of strength and support.

I couldn't have said it better myself. None of us are saying that she isn't a loss mom, because she is. It's tragic to lose a child, and I'm sure she has so many mixed emotions because she thought she would have one child born sleeping when the other one was instead. But that doesn't mean she isn't a loss mom, and a living child doesn't take away from that.

Keeping her in my thoughts.

JennyLeighG · July 2013

I really can't begin to imagine how difficult this must be for your niece and family. I suffered a miscarriage on the 4th of this month at just 4 weeks along and that was horrible enough. Positive thoughts are with you all. I understand how this can be a bitter and sweet time.

PinkCamino · July 2013

shandorfml2:
I'm sorry for your loss, though I'm not really sure how to respond to your post honestly. I'm sorry one of the babies died, that's horrible. I feel she should be happy to have one living child, no matter which sex it was, as many of us on here don't. I am truley sorry for the loss. ((hugs)))

I 100% disagree.

I'm a twin loss momma and after giving birth 2 two beautiful babies I cannot even imagine the grief and heartbreak that comes from losing one. Twins have a bond that none of us will ever be able to understand.

I think it's rather disrespectful to imply that she's not grateful for the surviving twin. She has still lost a child.

shandorfml2 · July 2013

Pink Camino:
shandorfml2:
I'm sorry for your loss, though I'm not really sure how to respond to your post honestly. I'm sorry one of the babies died, that's horrible. I feel she should be happy to have one living child, no matter which sex it was, as many of us on here don't. I am truley sorry for the loss. ((hugs)))
I 100% disagree.
I'm a twin loss momma and after giving birth 2 two beautiful babies I cannot even imagine the grief and heartbreak that comes from losing one. Twins have a bond that none of us will ever be able to understand.
I think it's rather disrespectful to imply that she's not grateful for the surviving twin. She has still lost a child.

I agree, it's still awful. Just the way it was worded, it seemed like she was upset that the girl survived instead of the boy. It was probably just the way it was worded that rubbed me the wrong way.

Bread09 · July 2013

I lost one of my twins a day after birth and it is extremely difficult to explain the emotions that go along with it. We knew ahead a time she would not survive and that our son was healthy. If your niece needs someone to talk to, feel free to private message me. I'm on the Facebook board more than here, but do check this. Many thoughts and hugs to your niece and your family.

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