Ettiquette Vent: Worst wedding thank you ever

mmm50 · July 2013

I thought you ladies would appreciate this. Even DH commented on how terrible this thank you was (and those types of things don't even normally cross his mind). It arrived 6 weeks after the wedding shower (not exactly prompt, but not too terrible, stuff happens) in the envelope that I had to address at the shower.

"Michelle,

Thank you for coming to the shower! And thank you for goerge forman!

Love,

BTB and GTB"

This has to be one of the worst thank yous that I have ever received. No personalization ("I enjoyed spending time with you" "We can't wait to use your gift to grill dinners together in our new place", "We can't wait to see you at the wedding" etc.) the spelling/lack of capitalization, and the fact that it looks like it was thrown together in 30 seconds by a 6 year old, make me wonder if sometimes it's better not to receive a thank you than to receive a terrible one. I probably would have forgotten about the shower until I received this.

Well, at least she sent them?????

82Sonia · July 2013

She thanked you for coming and thanked you for your gift. Sure, a more personalized note would have been nice but at least she sent a note at all.

amandarins · July 2013

Aside from the spelling, I think it was just fine. It's a note, not a letter.

mmm50 · July 2013

baconface:
I mean, at least she sent one, but the note itself certainly says something about someone. She clearly put very little effort or thought into it, which is too bad since I am sure you put more effort into her gift and attendance at her shower.

This is a good way of summing up how I feel about it- I'm glad she sent one and that she thanked me for coming and for the gift- but the lack of effort or thought put into it is disappointing. I hope not everyone's was like mine- especially GTB's family who threw the shower for her.

EmJ&B · July 2013

I'm actually ok with it. She could have done a better job but that's a different issue.

MagickalNarwhal · July 2013

Hahaha, yeah, that's not even in the top 100 worst thanks you's I've seen

I'm sure it feels crappy if you were hoping for something more thoughtful though.

dufferoo · July 2013

No, that IS a bad thank you, but I've gotten worse! This was for a baby gift, not a wedding gift, but I got a voicemail a few weeks ago that said "Hey, thanks for the, uh, thing you sent over for the baby. Talk to you later. Bye" It was so bad I almost enjoyed it!

mmm50 · July 2013

jociejones:
No, that IS a bad thank you, but I've gotten worse! This was for a baby gift, not a wedding gift, but I got a voicemail a few weeks ago that said "Hey, thanks for the, uh, thing you sent over for the baby. Talk to you later. Bye" It was so bad I almost enjoyed it!

A voicemail and "that thing for the baby." That's definitely worse!

Helenahhandbasket · July 2013

You are being really nit picky. This hardly qualifies as "worst ever". I honestly thought you were going to say the thank you came in an envelope full of anthrax.

Maybe she's just a terrible speller?

Also 6 weeks after an event is really not that bad. Seems like you just really want to complain.

Good grief.

EastCoastBride · July 2013

Helenahhandbasket:
You are being really nit picky. This hardly qualifies as "worst ever". I honestly thought you were going to say the thank you came in an envelope full of anthrax.

Maybe she's just a terrible speller?

Also 6 weeks after an event is really not that bad. Seems like you just really want to complain.

Good grief.

Yeah. this is where I fall. No, it wasn't very personal, but still - you're being nit-picky.

FemShep · July 2013

Heh. We sent an ice cream maker (from the registry) as a gift for a wedding we could not attend. About six months later, we got a card that said, "Thank you for the wedding gift. We use it every day!" That was it. I'm glad they found the ice cream maker so very memorable and useful.

MMason12 · July 2013

All the other mistakes suck.... My #1 pet peeve = having to fill out my own return envelope at a shower for thank you cards. I think it is horrible to do that.

SingleMom31 · July 2013

Happy_Yahoo_Personaler:
Not quite the worst, but thoughtless nonetheless. I do think it's hilarious that she thanked you for sending George Forman, and not a George Forman grill.nbsp;

I laughed at this too... Even The George Forman would have been better.

Nicolewinsbingo · July 2013

FemShep:
Heh. We sent an ice cream maker (from the registry) as a gift for a wedding we could not attend. About six months later, we got a card that said, "Thank you for the wedding gift. We use it every day!" That was it. I'm glad they found the ice cream maker so very memorable and useful.

Oh funny.

OP, I hate thank you notes like that too . Seriously, two 5 word sentences? You couldn't put a LITTLE thought into it? All thank you notes from grads are like that though.

mmm50 · July 2013

SingleMom31:
Happy_Yahoo_Personaler:
Not quite the worst, but thoughtless nonetheless. I do think it's hilarious that she thanked you for sending George Forman, and not a George Forman grill.nbsp;
I laughed at this too... Even The George Forman would have been better.

Agreed!

BeckyTheEngineer · July 2013

Wow, I'm glad I didn't invite you to my shower. You sound pretty worked up over receiving a thank you that actually sounds fine. Seriously, this is not something to whine about.

SunshineMuffin · July 2013

Since you're so concerned about spelling, ETIQUETTE has one T.

Crispity · July 2013

Yeah, she definitely did not put much thought into that note. At least she actually thanked you, though.

The worst "thank you" that I've gotten was when we sent a Christmas present to a relative of DH's last year. It was cookies from a place that we love, and they came in a holiday cookie jar. She sent an e-mail thanking us for the cookie jar, but going on to explain that they didn't like the cookies and had thrown them all away. She then asked that we not send her anything from that company again. She doesn't have to worry, as we will not be burdening her with any further gifts.

SingleMom31 · July 2013

chattychiqa:
Crispity:
Yeah, she definitely did not put much thought into that note. At least she actually thanked you, though. The worst "thank you" that I've gotten was when we sent a Christmas present to a relative of DH's last year. It was cookies from a place that we love, and they came in a holiday cookie jar. She sent an email thanking us for the cookie jar, but going on to explain that they didn't like the cookies and had thrown them all away. She then asked that we not send her anything from that company again. She doesn't have to worry, as we will not be burdening her with any further gifts.

GASP!!! WTH is wrong with people?

The only "bad" TY card I've ever seen I wasn't even the recipient of... It was bad nonetheless.

DH and I had been dating a year and a half. Bride was the daughter of MIL's good friend from HS. The kids grew up together. She was thoughtless in invitations addressing DH's to DH and guest despite us being in a LTR. Maybe I'm the only person who asks or checks FB?

I bought her a CP from her registry, bought a CP cookbook that I owned already and liked, DH and I signed it from the two of us, and that was our gift. We also signed the guestbook on the same line.

The TY card came addressed only to DH and said "Thanks for the crock pot. The book was nice too even though I didn't register for it. What are you saying, I need to cook? Thanks for coming to the wedding, it was the best day of my life."

So much wrong with this, though her spelling was on point.

If you register for a crock pot, isn't it a hint that she WANTS to cook with one? I so don't get the note.

SingleMom31 · July 2013

Crispity:
Yeah, she definitely did not put much thought into that note. At least she actually thanked you, though. The worst "thank you" that I've gotten was when we sent a Christmas present to a relative of DH's last year. It was cookies from a place that we love, and they came in a holiday cookie jar. She sent an email thanking us for the cookie jar, but going on to explain that they didn't like the cookies and had thrown them all away. She then asked that we not send her anything from that company again. She doesn't have to worry, as we will not be burdening her with any further gifts.

I wonder if she's related to my sister. I remember one Christmas when I was in grad school when she asked for ''a cookie sheet with sides.'' So, I went to Williams Sonoma and bought a nice cookie sheet. Then, to make it more of a festive gift, I tied a nice cookie spatula that wouldn't scratch the pan and a couple cookie cutters to the top. Taped the gift receipt to the bottom, wrapped it up, and gave it to her. Later, my brother told me that she had told him how cheap I was. First, it was hardly cheap. Secondly, who does that? So, I called and told her that it wasn't inexpensive and that she could return it if she wanted. She said that she was going to. Great. Then, the next time I talked to her, she said that she was keeping since it was too expensive of a store and she couldn't get anything else for the same price. Not that it matters, but she's not poor... She could have added a few dollars more in to get something else. Oh, and next time, not to give her the gift receipt since she couldn't return it for cash. Yeah. Haven't wasted money on a gift for her since.

tilsonc · July 2013

Some people are just really bad at thank you notes. I wouldn't take it personally! She probably doesn't know any better and did it to everyone.

msmerymac · July 2013

I once got an AMAZINGLY good thank you letter. It was 6 months after the wedding, but it was, like, 2 paragraphs long.

But the vast majority, including my own, are 2-3 sentences. It's not the best. It's possible she's just not a great writer. At all. But at least you got it and it wasn't pre-printed. I probably would chuckle and then not think much of it.

notkateanymore · July 2013

It's better than not getting one at all. So she's not a writer, but damn...she went you one. Nobody is ever happy anymore.

BTW, maybe she didn't enjoy seeing you and could wait to see you again?

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