I'm so sorry, KK.nbsp; I want to say more supportive things here but I'm failing miserably at phrasing it.nbsp;I agree with you, though.nbsp; I think there is absolutely no need for pregnancy reveals, gender reveals, multiple baby showers, maternity/birth photography, 3/6/9/12 month photo packages topped with an over the top 1st birthday party with professional photographer.nbsp; Someone asked on here a few days ago about a professional photographer for her baby shower.nbsp; What?nbsp; It's like they've taken everything about weddings that are cash cows and shoved them on to pregnancy and some women are just eating. it. up. Note: I have no problem with each thing listed up there individually, but when looked at as a whole, it's really too much, in my opinion.
Thanks. It has always bugged me how people think the whole point of the a/s is finding the sex.
I cannot stand this mentality that the most important part if pregnancy is finding out the sex. Anatomy scans are quite serious, can be terrifying and it has become all and only about finding out the sex. I never did rest easy until that was over, even though I also had the 12 week tests done. . I seem to be in the minority though.
Drove me insane when people would ask me are you having the gender scan? Um no. It's called an anatomy scan. To see if the pregnancy is, you know, viable. I could not care less what was between his or her legs as long as it was healthy. I was team green anyway.
KK, I am very sorry for what you went through. I too know too many women who cared all about having a boy or a girl come to find out that the anatomy scan reveals much, much more. And those findings are often not good. Priorities, people.
And flying in for a gender reveal? Please. I have a life. Id be excited for my sister but would be saving my vaca time and miles for, you know, actually meeting the baby.
I'm so sorry, KK.nbsp; I want to say more supportive things here but I'm failing miserably at phrasing it.nbsp;I agree with you, though.nbsp; I think there is absolutely no need for pregnancy reveals, gender reveals, multiple baby showers, maternity/birth photography, 3/6/9/12 month photo packages topped with an over the top 1st birthday party with professional photographer.nbsp; Someone asked on here a few days ago about a professional photographer for her baby shower.nbsp; What?nbsp; It's like they've taken everything about weddings that are cash cows and shoved them on to pregnancy and some women are just eating. it. up. Note: I have no problem with each thing listed up there individually, but when looked at as a whole, it's really too much, in my opinion.
Thanks. It has always bugged me how people think the whole point of the a/s is finding the sex.
I cannot stand this mentality that the most important part if pregnancy is finding out the sex. Anatomy scans are quite serious, can be terrifying and it has become all and only about finding out the sex. I never did rest easy until that was over, even though I also had the 12 week tests done. . I seem to be in the minority though.
Drove me insane when people would ask me are you having the gender scan? Um no. It's called an anatomy scan. To see if the pregnancy is, you know, viable. I could not care less what was between his or her legs as long as it was healthy. I was team green anyway.
KK, I am very sorry for what you went through. I too know too many women who cared all about having a boy or a girl come to find out that the anatomy scan reveals much, much more. And those findings are often not good. Priorities, people.
And flying in for a gender reveal? Please. I have a life. Id be excited for my sister but would be saving my vaca time and miles for, you know, actually meeting the baby.
FFS.
seriously! I had a rather terrifying a/s with DS. People actually had the nerve to ask me wouldn't I rather find out the sex so at least I had some good news to share? I had to bite my tongue so hard to stop myself from telling these people to eat a d!ck. we were team green anyway but the possibility something is wrong with your baby is all you need to hear to realize how unimportant gender really is.
I'm so sorry, KK. (I want to say more supportive things here but I'm failing miserably at phrasing it).
I agree with you, though. I think there is absolutely no need for pregnancy reveals, gender reveals, multiple baby showers, maternity/birth photography, 3/6/9/12 month photo packages topped with an over the top 1st birthday party with professional photographer. Someone asked on here a few days ago about a professional photographer for her baby shower. What?
It's like they've taken everything about weddings that are cash cows and shoved them on to pregnancy and some women are just eating. it. up.
Note: I have no problem with each thing listed up there individually, but when looked at as a whole, it's really too much, in my opinion.
If I remember correctly, the poster of that was paying for the photographer herself. If a set of parents want to pay for maternity/birth photography, along with newborn/3/6/9/12 month photos then why do you really care? It's not your money they are spending! I see no "cash cow" in people wanting to have photos done. If it's not how you choose to spend your money, then don't -- but why is it such a big deal that others do want these things done?
Ha! Ridiculous!! Here's a novel idea: how about waiting to fly in when the baby is actually born? Isn't the actual child the important part, not what's between his or her legs?? I can't believe people would actually get on a plane just to hear "penis!"or "vagina!" You can hear it over the phone. FFS!
I think it is just the oddest thing. I am so thankful that the "gender reveal parties" have not caught on in my area/friend group yet. I would hate to attend one.
The thing I don't understand is that regardless of the result - it's equal news. For example - 'announcing' you're pregnant is a big moment. You go from not pregnant (presumably a 'neutral' thing if you're trying) to pregnant (a 'happy' discovery). What's the difference once you announce what kind of genitals your child has. Girl - happy! Boy - happy! It all just seems really anti-climatic.
I'm okay with gender reveal parties if it is a small intimate gathering with only people who actually give a crap. And nobody should have to travel more than, let's say, 30 minutes (or whatever their personal limit is; mine for something like this for a really close friend would be 30 minutes). I think hosting a formal shindig for more than 10 people just to reveal the sex is way overdone. Just make a cute Facebook announcement and be done with it.
And besides, she wants to find out at the same time as her guests. So....is she planning on one of these terrible "ultrasound parties" we've been hearing about? That's such a terrible idea. Like K pointed out ({{{hugs}}}, BTW), bad news can be found out during an ultrasound. Would she really want to find out bad news about her baby in the presence of all those people? Talk about awkward and uncomfortable...I sincerely hope she does something like give the ultrasound in a sealed envelope to a baker and ask them to put the right color icing inside a cake or something. Otherwise...I just can't.
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Lol, check out Feb2014. This girl wants people to fly in to celebrate her baby's genitalia. And everyone is like"squeeeeee!" So cute! Ugh
meh, w/e.. People do over the top things all the time. The sad thing here is that from what I gather (and noticed) you don't even belong to the Feb.2014 board. Clearly someone has too much time on her hands....
How do you know, Madison? Not all of us have tickers, etc broadcasting pregnancies or miscarriages.
As Joy pointed out, it was accidentally posted in the baby names board, hence where I found that gem. Regardless, you can come on here saying the cliched "someone has too much time on their hands" but the fact is we're all participating in a frivolous Internet message board. I would watch that big brick you're tossing around there.
KK, I am so sorry to hear about your a/s. hard to really say anything else, but I obviously know what you're going through. ::hugs::
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Lol, check out Feb2014. This girl wants people to fly in to celebrate her baby's genitalia. And everyone is like"squeeeeee!" So cute! Ugh
meh, w/e.. People do over the top things all the time. The sad thing here is that from what I gather (and noticed) you don't even belong to the Feb.2014 board. Clearly someone has too much time on her hands....
How do you know, Madison? Not all of us have tickers, etc broadcasting pregnancies or miscarriages.
how do I know? I don't for sure that's why I said 'from what i gather' and the 'noticed' part, I haven't seen her at all on Feb2014, which I do belong on. She does have tickers that 'broadcast' her miscarriage as well as her daughter, so it's fair to assume she would have a pregnancy ticker if she was.
STILLBIRTH...you twit
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Lol, check out Feb2014. This girl wants people to fly in to celebrate her baby's genitalia. And everyone is like"squeeeeee!" So cute! Ugh
meh, w/e.. People do over the top things all the time. The sad thing here is that from what I gather (and noticed) you don't even belong to the Feb.2014 board. Clearly someone has too much time on her hands....
How do you know, Madison? Not all of us have tickers, etc broadcasting pregnancies or miscarriages.
how do I know? I don't for sure that's why I said 'from what i gather' and the 'noticed' part, I haven't seen her at all on Feb2014, which I do belong on. She does have tickers that 'broadcast' her miscarriage as well as her daughter, so it's fair to assume she would have a pregnancy ticker if she was.
STILLBIRTH...you twit
Madison, I think it's a good time to say... walk away. GTFO and don't come back.
Bingo, someone felt badly for our husbands and children!
Did anyone notice that someone made a comment about it not being about the sex of the baby but about celebrating with family and friends. That's going to be the next 'baby showers aren't for presents' thing. Um... It's a sex reveal, how is it not about a penis or vagina? Seriously...
::I haven't read this thread yet, so I could be beating a horse::
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Thanks. It has always bugged me how people think the whole point of the a/s is finding the sex.
Drove me insane when people would ask me are you having the gender scan? Um no. It's called an anatomy scan. To see if the pregnancy is, you know, viable. I could not care less what was between his or her legs as long as it was healthy. I was team green anyway.
KK, I am very sorry for what you went through. I too know too many women who cared all about having a boy or a girl come to find out that the anatomy scan reveals much, much more. And those findings are often not good. Priorities, people.
And flying in for a gender reveal? Please. I have a life. Id be excited for my sister but would be saving my vaca time and miles for, you know, actually meeting the baby.
FFS.
Totally agree.
seriously! I had a rather terrifying a/s with DS. People actually had the nerve to ask me wouldn't I rather find out the sex so at least I had some good news to share? I had to bite my tongue so hard to stop myself from telling these people to eat a d!ck. we were team green anyway but the possibility something is wrong with your baby is all you need to hear to realize how unimportant gender really is.
If I remember correctly, the poster of that was paying for the photographer herself. If a set of parents want to pay for maternity/birth photography, along with newborn/3/6/9/12 month photos then why do you really care? It's not your money they are spending! I see no "cash cow" in people wanting to have photos done. If it's not how you choose to spend your money, then don't -- but why is it such a big deal that others do want these things done?
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{{{{}}}} I'm sorry, KK.
I think it is just the oddest thing. I am so thankful that the "gender reveal parties" have not caught on in my area/friend group yet. I would hate to attend one.
The thing I don't understand is that regardless of the result - it's equal news. For example - 'announcing' you're pregnant is a big moment. You go from not pregnant (presumably a 'neutral' thing if you're trying) to pregnant (a 'happy' discovery). What's the difference once you announce what kind of genitals your child has. Girl - happy! Boy - happy! It all just seems really anti-climatic.
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I'm okay with gender reveal parties if it is a small intimate gathering with only people who actually give a crap. And nobody should have to travel more than, let's say, 30 minutes (or whatever their personal limit is; mine for something like this for a really close friend would be 30 minutes). I think hosting a formal shindig for more than 10 people just to reveal the sex is way overdone. Just make a cute Facebook announcement and be done with it.
And besides, she wants to find out at the same time as her guests. So....is she planning on one of these terrible "ultrasound parties" we've been hearing about? That's such a terrible idea. Like K pointed out ({{{hugs}}}, BTW), bad news can be found out during an ultrasound. Would she really want to find out bad news about her baby in the presence of all those people? Talk about awkward and uncomfortable...I sincerely hope she does something like give the ultrasound in a sealed envelope to a baker and ask them to put the right color icing inside a cake or something. Otherwise...I just can't.
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How do you know, Madison? Not all of us have tickers, etc broadcasting pregnancies or miscarriages.
KK, I am so sorry to hear about your a/s. hard to really say anything else, but I obviously know what you're going through. ::hugs::
STILLBIRTH...you twit
Madison, I think it's a good time to say... walk away. GTFO and don't come back.
Did anyone notice that someone made a comment about it not being about the sex of the baby but about celebrating with family and friends. That's going to be the next 'baby showers aren't for presents' thing. Um... It's a sex reveal, how is it not about a penis or vagina? Seriously...
::I haven't read this thread yet, so I could be beating a horse::