putting loved one to sleep? help!

bikramgirl · July 2013

Hi ladies,

I don't normally post on the bump bc quite frankly I had forgotten about it. I am at home with my 7.5 month old all day so you can probably imagine.

So here is the problem I am running into. I coslept with my son up until he was about 4 or 5 months. He needed his own space and transitioned to the crib fairly easily. I was able to swaddle his arms and rock him to sleep. After a couple of weeks we ditched the swaddle and just rocked him to sleep. Now at 7.5 months we are still rocking him to sleep.

Unfortunately, he has ditched all of his naps this week and won't sleep during the day. I feel like I have been spending half my day rocking him trying to get him to sleep anymore. I know he needs to nap but I have gotten so worn out that I've given up. Our nap and bedtime routine is failing us now.

It has been suggested to do a CIO method which I just can't imagine doing in my household. I was just wondering what your nap and bedtime routines are like? How do you get lo one to sleep? What do you do when Lo wakes up in the middle of the night? Etc.

Thanks!!

Wild_flower25 · July 2013

DD refused to be rocked at one point too, so I just put her down in her crib and let her learn to fall asleep on their own. What else can you do? There might be a little crying or fussing, but falling asleep on their own is a good skill. They need sleep and letting them fight it all day isn't good for the baby and worse than letting them fuss/cry for a couple minutes before a nap or bedtime. IMO

CurlyQ284 · July 2013

Mine likes to roll around but hates being alone so I put him on our bed and lay with him. He rolls around for a few minutes and falls asleep. I pull him in for a snuggle every few minutes and if he's ready to sleep he will settle in and sleep and then I put him in his crib. If I try it too early he will struggle to get space to flop around some more.

We are getting him back on schedule this week since he got messed up on our vacation and then I think we will CIO because if he wakes up at night he can't go back to sleep without me.

Jackiemxoxo · July 2013

2013mommy:
beane4018:
The title of this thread made me think you wanted advice on putting your dog or cat down.
ME TOO.

Same here

pb_bride · July 2013

Just curious why you can't imagine doing CIO in your house? Because you can't bear hearing your son cries?

DS stopped being able to nap without extensive bouncing (like 45 mins) so we ended up doing sleep and nap training (Ferber method). Yes, it was hard to listen to him cry, BUT it's more important for him to learn to fall asleep on his own so he can get enough rest. It's for his own good.

I highly recommend reading Ferber's book. It's very educational.

After we did sleep training and nap training, DS sleeps much better and is a MUCH happier baby. Prior to that, he wasn't sleeping well and his naps were super short, so he was misearable all day long.

For both naps and bedtime, DS is put down in his crib awake. I do a short nap routine (DH does bedtime routine) and I leave his room. He usually will sing/talk/squeal or protest cry but he's out in a matter of 5 minutes. He naps 2 hours at a time and he STTN.

For your baby's sake, you need to teach him how to fall asleep on his own without being rocked.

Beth.1212 · July 2013

If you don't like CIO, try the Baby Whisperer. It's lots of work, but it worked wonderfully for us.

bikramgirl · July 2013

I have the Ferber book, the baby whisperer and no cry sleep solutions. I will eventually read them all. Thanks for the tips!

zzia15 · July 2013

My LO is almost 8 months old...up until about 2 weeks ago I would nurse her to sleep at night, and she would take naps in my DH or MIL's laps. Well, it got to a point where she would no longer go in her pack n play AT ALL. She used to be deeply asleep enough by 10 to lay her down, but it got really bad when she was about 6 months old and I was up until midnight trying to get her to a deep enough sleep that I could lay her down. Just was not working.

I was terrified to try sleep training and COULD NOT imagine letting her cry either. Finally I was at a breaking point and did some mixture of sleep training ideologies I have read about. (Routine bath/nurse/book...lay down drowsy, check on her at intervals - which incidentally pissed her off more.) It took almost no time at all - day 1 she cried 30 min total (I cried the whole time too), day 2 10 minutes, day 3 30 minutes, day 4 10 minutes, and by day 5 no crying. She has gone down in her crib without a peep ever since. It had the crossover effect to her naps too, my DH and MIL are able to lay her in a crib for her naps now, and same thing - not a peep. And she wakes up happy as a little clam!

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