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Pamelacake
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Using SD's for a reaction. shorter post
Pamelacake
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It was planned that BM have SD's for 10 days for her part of summer break this past week.. BM cancelled all of it.. of course one day at a time bc she loves to call every day now.
So.. Thursday night BM called to cancel her regular weekend visit with SD's and left in the same VM for DH not to call or text until her next PT in August. OK.. NOt a problem at all. We would love to have a break from your phone calls just to fight.
BM kept calling yesterday leaving nasty, random, vile VOIcemails about things that go on in our home saying "the girls tell me all the time" Everything BM said was a lie and SD's can't tell BM anything all of the time. BM has seen SD's 3 times this year with the last time being in May.
Then the voicemails started being about me just saying nasty things about me. Nothing new.. once again.. I cannot force her to want to see her kids. Nothing was responded to.
Then BM left a voicemail last night about seeing SD's for a few hours today. DH called BM right back to set up the time, It was very clear that BM just wanted a response as she just started yelling at DH calling him names and me as well and then she hung up. BM has a history of getting very p!ssed off when she doesn't get a reaction to her negative messages. BM used SD's to get a response.
I really wish this psycho would step up and be a mom or step up off of my nuts and disappear. I cannot even bring myself to call her a woman bc of the way she is and has treated SD's.
I'm not so sure about going to court next week but the atty thinks it would be best bc her focus will be on me and it may "throw her off of her game to "lie her a$$ off in court" as she said directly into my recorder.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
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Re: Using SD's for a reaction. shorter post
It is and we already asked the atty about that and he said all we can do right now is ignore it. It is very stressful and frustrating. but it will definitely be brought up in court.
DH used to respond to her negativity and start some himself at times. I finally got him to stop doing that..
BM every once in a while will call and say the conversations are supposed to be about the kids and then call 20 more times in the same day with the nasty messages. all the way up until 3am. when she is leaving the bar. It's like she likes to blame us and take it out on us when she is the one who chooses not to see SD's.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
I have thought about that but it would make it would just make it look like we are trying to be difficult. BM has told SD's that she wants to kill me and has threatened me in the past. BM has threatened to break into our home while we are sleeping and slit our throats.
DH is having the same issue with BM's FI who is the one to drive her when she does secede she has time for SD's. FI unknowingly said he wanted to "bash daddy in the back of the skull" over the phone. We could easily do that but at the same time don't want it to seem like we are being difficult. I am almost to the point where I feel this is necessary though and we may do it after court, depending on the outcome as I am now pregnant and I don't think she would ever have the balls to put her hands on me. ..I am not afraid of BM but I feel that if she ever says one thing out of line directly to my face I could just break her with my hands, just bc of the way she does SD's. I don't care what she says about me. I just think it's pathetic.
and that Is why I stay inside and out of view from the windows when she does actually come to pickup.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
I hate to say this, but I kind of agree with your atty. Your presence in court might send her over the edge and she might show her true colors. It may be playing dirty but it would work in your favor if she flipped shyt in court either toward you or just because you were there. That would open the door for your atty to be able to address the threatening and harassing voicemails that she leaves constantly.
I couldn't imagine having to deal with that. I would think after a certain amount of that crap, no judge on earth would look at your getting a restraining order as "being difficult".
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