When to tell?

Re: When to tell?

• karamorgan82 member

  July 2013

  I'll be 11 weeks tomorrow, and we've told the parents & siblings and a few other close family/friends.  I'm waiting until after my appointment on Tuesday when we'll hear the heartbeat to officially let the cat out of the bag :-)

  In the end, it's totally up to you and when you feel comfortable.  We had a miscarriage in March at 5 weeks, but didn't realize it until almost 10 weeks, so I'm keeping it close until I get the confirmation on Tuesday.

  Good luck!

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• oceanangel0502 member

  July 2013

  We have our first appointment on Tuesday and at that point I'll be about 5 weeks. We plan to tell our parents siblings and a few very close friends around 6 weeks. We won't make an official open announcement until the second trimester. But the people we will tell early are the same people we would turn to if something god forbid went wrong.

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• Mamanajera2 member

  July 2013

  I told family well my mom told the family she didn't keep her mouth shut. An told close friends . But to tell everyone else we going to wait till 12 weeks. Maybe not that depend on my body reacting to keeping the baby.:/

   

  

  
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• Leslinka member

  July 2013

  I am waiting till first I hear the heartbeat!  But even then I will be cautious, I miscarried at 11 weeks last time and telling people after I told them all the good news was awful!  It was like reliving the pain everyday! So I am going to wait until I am good and ready.  First step is that heartbeat on the 26th!  I so hope to hear it since I never heard it last time! 
  

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• allie76 member

  July 2013

  We have told close family and a few friends, but we won't publicly announce until after my next appt.; I'll be 15 weeks then. 

  

   

  
  

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• Megarotta member

  July 2013

  We just went public today, and I'll be 13 weeks on Sunday. I've had two ultrasounds (7 weeks and 9 weeks), and the heartbeat was strong both times. I also got to hear the heartbeat again with the doppler at my appointment last week. Trying to be optimistic about our chances, but I don't think the worry of losing the baby will go away...
  

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• JGoodman39

  July 2013

  Thanks y'all! This is such a hard decision! I'm going to pray about it and talk with my husband and I guess we will tell when we feel that the time is right. The only thing about waiting is that we live in such a small town that people will find out.... Soon! And I'm a very petite person so I'm thinking I may start showing fairly soon.. But who knows! Thanks for the advice, it's always nice to hear from other expectant mommies! :

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• belgirl member

  July 2013

  I don't think there is any "right" answer but keep in mind a couple of things:
  1. Until you give birth, miscarriage can happen. Yes, the probability goes down the farther you are along, but being pregnant does take some faith. I have known women to announce the moment they pee'd on the stick and had a healthy baby and others who waited until 14 weeks and then miscarried.
  2. I really think it depends on when you see the heartbeat. If you are seeing an RE, you will see the heartbeat usually between 6 to 7 weeks, whereas most women won't go in for their first ultrasound until 8 weeks or later. A lot of these women who are waiting until 11 to 12 weeks are waiting to tell because they haven't had an ultrasound yet which in my opinion is wise. I would say, at least wait until you see a strong heartbeat before letting everyone know. Again that doesn't mean you are out of the woods, but a good guideline.

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