January 2014 Moms
Offended to the Max!!
There is this one girl at work that acts super jealous since I've been pregnant. I was showing my ultra sound pics at work. She had the nerve to say GOSH THIS BABY GOT A BIG HEAD... At first I laughed it off and said they all do at this point until they grow into it. Then she said it again.. I went OFF!! I told her don't u ever talk about my baby again, I don't care if she is not born. Remember u have three kids and u should know better. U could here crickets in my office for about the next three hours. Don't mess with my BABY!!
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Re: Offended to the Max!!
Emma Kate - born 10.16.03 @ 29 weeks, weighed 1lb 13oz and 13.5" long.
TTC #3
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Agree. Or maybe she was just kidding around? I understand being annoyed but sometimes it's better to just walk away.
Yup, all of this. I would also like to add that if you aren't fond of the comments she makes, maybe next time you could avoid discussing the pregnancy while she is around.
I would have been more offended by her inability to speak properly....
EDIT: and yes, all babies at this point have big heads.
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
I'm sorry I would have flipped out on her the same way. I used to work with people like that and that one comment would not have been the FIRST thing to set me off. It does not sound like the proper way to handle a coworker but I used to get bullied alot. While I'm not justifying it, I think it likely she will think before she speaks next time.
I think I'm a little emotional right now and super defensive of my Janju-mommies
If you know your baby's head is big, and she said it was, then why would you get mad? It's not like she said something untrue and rude about your baby.
Sorry I just don't see this as a reason to go off on someone. Especially someone who you work with.
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
It's definitely hormones. You are way overreacting to this. And you probably made a bit of an a$$ of yourself, more so than she did by saying that your baby's head was big.
Becoming a mother does not automatically make you sensitive to the feelings of other mothers or mothers-to-be. Just because someone says something stupid, or mean, or insensitive doesn't give you the right to freak out in a professional situation. Should she have pushed your buttons? Probably not, but yelling at her does absolutely nothing to improve the situation.
My suggestion? Refrain from sharing anything baby-related with this person. And when you hear negative comments (particularly at work) take a couple of deep breaths and either respond in a calm, constructive fashion or just WALK AWAY.
So...if you know that all babies heads are big, wasn't she just stating the obvious? Granted that is not necessarily something I would say in response to someone showing me an ultrasound pic, but still that is no reason to go off on her...
Also, many people do not get that excited for babies if it is not their own...unless it is grandparents, most people do not care that much.
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Hormones or not....people will continue to make you mad in pregnancy and afterward. You're going to have to learn how to control your reactions. You can't just blame it on hormones. I hate that excuse. You're still a rational person.
Some people have no filter and don't know better than to say things....kids or not. I still maintain ignoring and moving on is your best solution. Especially with co workers. Like other pp's said, I wouldn't share anymore when she's around.
Emma Kate - born 10.16.03 @ 29 weeks, weighed 1lb 13oz and 13.5" long.
TTC #3
To quote you from the it's a girl post earlier:
Sugar, I totally just saw that and was like WTF?!? Seriously?!
I just loved the irony. I thought it was perfect here.
I saw this too and had to double check that it was the same person. Yup, love the irony.
All I can do is giggle at the total mess.
Emma Kate - born 10.16.03 @ 29 weeks, weighed 1lb 13oz and 13.5" long.
TTC #3
And the fact that it was happening at pretty much the same time as she was posting this -- boggles the mind.
1. I don't think this was anything to get offended over. If it made you mad, you walk away, not blow up on a co-worker.
2. Please don't blame the hormones. I worked with a few idiots (not my co-workers, but the public) when I was pregnant with DS and never found myself blowing up in their faces when the made stupid/ignorant remarks. If you're having that hard of a time dealing with them, maybe you need to refrain from talking about your pregnancy at work.
I have to say my preggo horomones have made me do some slightly irrational things ... everyone is different, everyones chemistry is different. I have felt completely not myself at times during this pregnancy being so emotional, and I am typically not even a TINY bit confrontational but I have been a bit more strong willed now that I am protective of this little one in me.
The times I have over reacted while pregnant I have made sure to apologize once I calmed down -- even if a bit of my feelings were justified I apologized for the way I acted about it instead of attempting to discuss or handle things maturely. You might consider really humbling yourself and explaining your feelings to your coworker so there is not a stressful atmosphere at work .... the last thing we need is stress!!!! I think the outcome of that would be really good.
Great advice Cari Sue.
I was literally JUST going to do this. Thanks for doing it for me.
Carter Robert 7.18.08 | Brynn Sophia 5.24.10 | Reid Joseph 9.10.12 | Emerson Mae 1.27.14
I should imagine the rest of your coworkers are going to be walking on eggshells around you for a few weeks.
I think there is a huge difference between calmly being honest with someone about their rudeness and "going OFF" as OP described. It's not ok to deal with a coworker in a way that makes the rest of the office uncomfortable.
hahahah
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
Is this how it all went down???
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hahahahahaha you win GIF of the week!
LOL. Please, just start putting your gifs in. That will make it not a waste of time for people.
haha!
Married: 9.22.12 - DD: 1.7.14 - EDD 2: 10.30.17 - J14 OG
Due Date 11/10/16