Registry Wording on Invites

MAG716 · July 2013

My sister and mom are planning our shower, and they are starting on invitations. We are registered at BuyBuyBaby, but I know some people like buying gift certificates and I can already bet on a few in my family who will. However, if we do receive any gift certificates I want them for our photographer who will be doing our newborn photos. I have already spoken with the photographer and she said she's fine with doing that and to just put her info on the invite so people can contact her about purchasing one.

So my dilemma is, how do I tell my mom and sis to word it so it doesn't sound too bossy or snarky? Here's what I thought of:

Bob and Bri are registered at BuyBuyBaby. Gift certificates can be purchased from KA Photography at photography@gmail.com or at 555-555-5555.

Is that too vague? I feel like I would read that and think, why would I buy gift certificates from a photographer? Do I need to explain more or is that sufficient? Thank you!

sabriel1 · July 2013

I wouldn't put anything about that... If you got gift cards from BuyBuyBaby wouldn't you just be able to buy baby stuff you need there and spend the money you would've spent on baby items on the photographer?

notkateanymore · July 2013

Don't say anything. There is no nice way to say that. If somebody asks you what you want the most, you can recommend the gift cert to the photographer.

notkateanymore · July 2013

holly1416:
I wouldn't put anything about that... If you got gift cards from BuyBuyBaby wouldn't you just be able to buy baby stuff you need there and spend the money you would've spent on baby items on the photographer?

Exactly.

atcwag · July 2013

holly1416:
I wouldn't put anything about that... If you got gift cards from BuyBuyBaby wouldn't you just be able to buy baby stuff you need there and spend the money you would've spent on baby items on the photographer?

I agree with this.

However, if you insist on wanting something for the photographer, I would put something like:

X is registered at Buy Buy Baby and for a newborn photo package at:
X photography studio, xxx@yahoo.com, XXX-XXX-XXXX

How much are you thinking your newborn photo package is going to be? I don't know how many people will be attending your shower (or that you will be receiving gifts from), but I would think $ would add up quickly. Not that everyone would go this route, but what are you going to do if you have photographer gift certificates above and beyond what you were going to pay for a newborn photo package? Seems like gift cards from BBB would be more useful like pp said. Also, be prepared that it's easier to buy a gift card than email/call a photography place, give payment info, etc. I would think you will get more BBB gift cards than photography regardless.

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PunkyBooster · July 2013

I kind of agree w holly. I am usually put off by any gc or money requests, including HM registries for weddings.

Empireceo · July 2013

Please don't tell people how to spend their money. I would contemplate not giving a gift at all if I received something like that.

RibbitGrl930 · July 2013

There is no polite way to request certain gifts, which you would be doing by requesting certificates for your photographer. It is fine for your invites to have a mention of where you are registered, but that is it. Your hostess may spread by word of mouth that you are planning on getting newborn photographs done and may appreciate some help with those, but that's about as far as mentions for the photographer may go within the realm of good taste.

Violet1372 · July 2013

holly1416:
I wouldn't put anything about that... If you got gift cards from BuyBuyBaby wouldn't you just be able to buy baby stuff you need there and spend the money you would've spent on baby items on the photographer?

This for sure. I do not think there is a tactful way to write I want a gift card for baby photos on an invite. Especially with how much that costs.. That would be a huge expense for someone...

Violet1372 · July 2013

holly1416:
I wouldn't put anything about that... If you got gift cards from BuyBuyBaby wouldn't you just be able to buy baby stuff you need there and spend the money you would've spent on baby items on the photographer?

This for sure. I do not think there is a tactful way to write I want a gift card for baby photos on an invite. Especially with how much that costs.. That would be a huge expense for someone...

rachepie · July 2013

I have to disagree with just about everyone on this thread. People get so weird and rigid about etiquette.

The people who get the shower invite are getting it because they love you and they want to be a part of this special time and will be delighted to get you the things that are important to you (anyone who feels like the shower/buying a gift is more about them than you/partner/baby can suck it).

Asking for things that you want/need when people are so stuck on convention can be frustrating and can create so much unnecessary anxiety.

I think the wording you have works just fine, but if you wanted to clarify (to make sure people understood they wouldn't be purchasing the whole session, just contributing towards it), I might say something like this:

Bob and Bri are registered for baby items at BuyBuyBaby. They are also planning on having newborn photos taken. If you would like to contribute to the photo session, gift certificates can be purchased from KA Photography at photography@gmail.com or at 555-555-5555.

You could also add something sentimental about capturing memories if you wanted to.

I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with this. Take replys on these forums with a grain of salt, I've noticed that most people on here have a lot of opinions and very little imagination.

Do it!!!

rachepie · July 2013

Also, if you by some chance end up with gift certificates in excess of the session costs, you can use them towards a session when baby is a bit older, or for some photos of your family.

Go for it!!!

Empireceo · July 2013

rachepie:
I have to disagree with just about everyone on this thread. People get so weird and rigid about etiquette.
The people who get the shower invite are getting it because they love you and they want to be a part of this special time and will be delighted to get you the things that are important to you (anyone who feels like the shower/buying a gift is more about them than you/partner/baby can suck it).
Asking for things that you want/need when people are so stuck on convention can be frustrating and can create so much unnecessary anxiety.
I think the wording you have works just fine, but if you wanted to clarify (to make sure people understood they wouldn't be purchasing the whole session, just contributing towards it), I might say something like this:
Bob and Bri are registered for baby items at BuyBuyBaby. They are also planning on having newborn photos taken. If you would like to contribute to the photo session, gift certificates can be purchased from KA Photography at photography@gmail.com or at 555-555-5555.
You could also add something sentimental about capturing memories if you wanted to.
I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with this. Take replys on these forums with a grain of salt, I've noticed that most people on here have a lot of opinions and very little imagination.
Do it!!!

I can't roll my eyes hard enough to express my feelings about this.

MAG716 · July 2013

Thank you, rachepie! The reason I wanted it for the pictures is because I am contemplating doing her baby year package which includes newborn, 6 month, and 1 year photos and that's all just over $1000 so the gift cards would definitely help towards that. But I'm not sure that we will have the money for it and I have the option of adding the package after I've done the newborn photos.

I don't feel like I'm telling people where to spend their money, I just feel like it's offering another option and actually easier than going to BBB to buy a gift. When I receive invites to events or parties I like to know I'm getting the people I love something useful and that they want, and I appreciate options. Maybe I am "tacky." Oh well! Thanks for the input!

jannapaul · July 2013

In my circle, we do not include registry information with the invitation it is considered as a bad etiquette. Some of the registry sits provide the services of having a shower website where you can make the invitation, add details of event , venue and registry information. I don?t know exactly about buybuybaby but I have used the website to spread my baby registry details.

Liz4444 · July 2013

rachepie:
I have to disagree with just about everyone on this thread.nbsp; People get so weird and rigid about etiquette.nbsp; The people who get the shower invite are getting it because they love you and they want to be a part of this special time and will be delighted to get you the things that are important to you anyone who feels like the shower/buying a gift is more about them than you/partner/baby can suck it.nbsp;Asking for things that you want/need when people are so stuck on convention can be frustrating and can create so much unnecessary anxiety. nbsp;I think the wording you have works just fine, but if you wanted to clarify to make sure people understood they wouldn't be purchasing the whole session, just contributing towards it, I might say something like this:Bob and Brinbsp;are
registered for baby items at BuyBuyBaby.nbsp; They are also planning on having newborn photos taken.nbsp; If you would like to contribute to the photo session, gift certificates can be purchased from KA
Photography at photographygmail.com or at 5555555555.nbsp; nbsp;You could also add something sentimental about capturing memories if you wanted to. I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with this.nbsp; Take replys on these forums with a grain of salt, I've noticed that most people on here have a lot of opinions and very little imagination.nbsp;Do it!!! : nbsp;

You want to know what the people who know and love me want to do when they have a question about what to get me as a gift? They call me and ask. Anyone who isn't close enough to you to do that shouldn't be invited to the shower anyway. OP, I would leave it at word of mouth.

Liz4444 · July 2013

MAG716:
Thank you, rachepie! nbsp;The reason I wanted it for the pictures is because I am contemplating doing her baby year package which includes newborn, 6 month, and 1 year photos and that's all just over 1000 so the gift cards would definitely help towards that. nbsp;But I'm not sure that we will have the money for it and I have the option of adding the package after I've done the newborn photos. nbsp;I don't feel like I'm telling people where to spend their money, I just feel like it's offering another option and actually easier than going to BBB to buy a gift. nbsp;When I receive invites to events or parties I like to know I'm getting the people I love something useful and that they want, and I appreciate options. nbsp;Maybe I am "tacky." nbsp;Oh well! nbsp; : nbsp;Thanks for the input!

Of course you only ask and thank the person who tells you what you want to hear. MAG, you may want something, but if you can't afford it, no matter how much you want it, you can't always get what you want. That's life.

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