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Texts from BD...

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For mobile bumpies: Texts from BD...

I'm going with not responding, but wanted to see if anyone else had any wisdom of something I should say? I would just have no idea where to even begin responding... I feel like ignoring the texts is best at this point?

Text last night: "I am losing my mind. Please please please pray for me."

Text last night 1 minute later: "Tell DS I love him so much"

Mind you, these were late and after I'm typically in bed.

Text this morning: "Hey, do you or DH have any single friends that you could set me up on a blind date with. I need someone that is on the right path and none of my friends are. Or they are taken. Lol I know that is a weird question lol but I know if you was to set me up she would be a good women. I just need someone to hang out with and do stuff. I need to take some days off work. But please let me know what you think."

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  • PamelacakePamelacake member

    Sorry.. still a noob and can't keep up with everything but is he the one that got the monster truck?!?

    I would just ignore the texts unless he's doing it to try to get to you. Then I would respond with something like " did you have a question about the child" or something like that.

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  • CurlieWhirlieCurlieWhirlie member

    Yikes.

    I think you are right not to respond, but it depends on what kind of relationship you have with your ex. If it was me, I would wait until the next time we saw each other in person, and give him heck for playing those kinds of games with me. It's needy, it's "poor me", it's emotionally manipulative, and it's totally unfair to you. He needs to grow up. Everyone feels sad sometimes, and asking for help is ok, but not in this way. This is meant to make you feel bad for him. That is its sole purpose. I call BS. 

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  • cole2144cole2144 member
    I would tell him the texts are inappropriate and to only contact you regarding your child.
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  • Sunday924Sunday924 member

    I would say "I would never do that to one of my friends"

    Serioulsy though I probably wouldn't respond. How weird. 

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  • twister22twister22 member
    imageSunday924:

    I would say "I would never do that to one of my friends"

    Seriously though I probably wouldn't respond. How weird. 

    Ha, I am tempted to say that!

    He seems to be in some delusional world & thinks I'm his BFF instead of his EX and BM of his DS.

    I don't want to upset him - he is clinically depressed and is medicated for it, & has had suicidal thoughts. Next time I see him, if he brings it up, I will probably tell him that if he wants my advice, that he should focus on being the best person & dad he can be, & that he will find a SO when the time is right. And that all my & H's friends are in relationships.  

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  • NineoceansNineoceans member
    Uhhh disturbing. Does he have a history of drug use or mental illness? That is extremely bizarre behavior
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  • twister22twister22 member
    imagePamelacake:

    Sorry.. still a noob and can't keep up with everything but is he the one that got the monster truck?!?

    I would just ignore the texts unless he's doing it to try to get to you. Then I would respond with something like " did you have a question about the child" or something like that.

    Yep, that's him. I constantly think to myself "How did I date this guy for 3.5 years?"  

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  • PamelacakePamelacake member
    imageSunday924:

    I would say "I would never do that to one of my friends"

    Serioulsy though I probably wouldn't respond. How weird. 

    haha.. I like this one!

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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    Eeeek. 

    Well, I like your idea about telling him he should focus on being the best person he can be. You could let him know you'll keep him in your prayers.

    But I'd probably not acknowledge either of the other texts. 

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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member

    imagecole2144:
    I would tell him the texts are inappropriate and to only contact you regarding your child.

    This.  There this little thing called BOUNDARIES....

    I know BD has been having a really hard time with the custody mess regarding his DD and now getting a frigging monster truck and not reimbursing you like he promised and DS' parenting classes, etc, but this is not ok behavior.  You're not friends.  You are DS' mother and he is Ds' father.  End of story. The fact that he would even ask to be set up by you is bizarre.

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  • irishgirl0525irishgirl0525 member

    I would ignore it. It sounds like he is baiting  you guys.

    This reminds me of texts that I used to get from my ex-BF when I started dating DH.  It's actually making me shudder thinking of it.  I think the best bet is ignore them like you did. In my experience he was always trying to engage me in some way, ANY way he could.  I was going to say text him to tell him not to contact you unless it was about SS, but I think it would be best to just ignore it.

    Good luck!

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